Feeling lost and unsure, like no name is it! Could use some help or perspective!

Name Advice
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Hello! I’m 24w today with a baby boy!

Ok - if you all could be gentle with me please and just reassure me that we have some solid choices here and perhaps highlight the good things about these choices so I feel more confident, I’d really appreciate it. I’m not sure if I can deal with more name insecurity at this point :sweat_smile: We’re having the toughest time with names and I’m starting to get nervous as we are quickly approaching the 3rd trimester. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I have examined hundreds of names and have gotten a list of names we can actually agree on (Naming is hard, but naming with someone is even harder I think!)

The favorites of this bunch are: [name_u]Levi[/name_u], [name_u]Henry[/name_u], and [name_u]Logan[/name_u].

Some close seconds (that we don’t quite like as much right now but that could change) were [name_u]William[/name_u], [name_m]Alexander[/name_m], [name_u]James[/name_u], [name_u]Noah[/name_u]. We don’t give two hoots about popularity and we like classic names.

Husband seems to decidedly think it’s between [name_u]Henry[/name_u] and [name_u]Levi[/name_u] at this point and I’m starting to agree. I get such naming anxiety. These are “the” names we’ve ended up with I don’t feel 100% comfortable or settled just yet - could be that naming a human I haven’t met yet is so abstract and feels huge.

We have a daughter named [name_f]Hannah[/name_f] and on top of liking [name_u]Henry[/name_u], I think [name_f]Hannah[/name_f] and [name_u]Henry[/name_u] is an adorable duo but not too matchy or cutesy. We recognize they won’t be a sibling pair seen side by side their entire lives lol, but we feel despite our daughter’s name that [name_u]Henry[/name_u] fits the same gentle, classic feel.

We like [name_u]Levi[/name_u], we feel like it’s a bit of a different vibe but it’s a classic, yet cool guy name. [name_u]Logan[/name_u] - same.

Again, anxiety but I keep going back and forth thinking of ways I don’t know if these names will suit, if they’re too old fashioned, is [name_u]Logan[/name_u] trending feminine a la [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] and [name_u]Lindsay[/name_u], are people going to associate [name_u]Levi[/name_u] with the jeans or [name_u]Logan[/name_u] with [name_m]Wolverine[/name_m], etc etc.

Basically, I’m feeling a little messy and I’m afraid of making a choice we’ll later regret. Sometimes I wish we could try on a couple of different names for a while and see what fits. [name_u]Or[/name_u] ask the kid what he wants his name to be - I’m done with the responsibility lol.

Was anyone feeling unsure about their child’s name before they were born? Did anyone else have a case of name commitment phobia? If you had a short list, how did you ultimately decide what the name was? I’m not sure I want to wait until the baby is born because I get a bit wobbly mentally during postpartum and I don’t quite trust myself to make a clear-headed decision.

Many thanks, for letting me ramble!

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I agree with how you feel about the names: [name_u]Henry[/name_u] is more timeless whilst [name_u]Levi[/name_u] and [name_u]Logan[/name_u] are more of a cool guy name. You really can’t go wrong with any of these three names! (same goes for your ‘backup’ names!)

All three names go really well with [name_f]Hannah[/name_f], so that’s one worry you can ignore :slight_smile: .

As for possible naming regret, I’m not a mother so I can’t help there, but I do know a lot of people who waited until the baby was born to decide on the name; that way you can meet your baby first and decide what fits best!

In the end, all I can say is that it is most important that you choose a name you love. I have a middle that is quite embarassing, and I have accepted it as ‘mine’ because I know my parents loved it. Your son will know when he grows up that you and your husband chose a name that you loved, so even if he gets the Levi’s or [name_m]Wolverine[/name_m] association, it won’t matter in the long run!

I hope this helps in one way or another!

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[name_u]Elliott[/name_u] is a soft name, [name_u]Levi[/name_u] stucks out and [name_u]Logan[/name_u] is sold but grounded

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You do have such solid choices! There’s never going to be a name that is perfect from every way you look at it.

[name_u]Henry[/name_u] is genuinely what I’d be very likely to name a boy, if I was going to be having any more children. It’s classic, easy to spell and pronounce, sounds ever so sweet for a young one but will age perfectly well with the child into adulthood. It’s handsome and it’s sturdy.

[name_u]Levi[/name_u] is an excellently cool name. Again, it’s easy to pronounce and spell. It’s associated with the jeans but only because [name_u]Levi[/name_u] Strauss gave his wonderful name to the brand. How cute would [name_f]Hannah[/name_f] & [name_u]Levi[/name_u] be? :star_struck:

[name_u]Logan[/name_u] is still much more in use for boys than for girls. His peers are going to find that it leans masculine and by the time your potential [name_u]Logan[/name_u] is a teenager we’ll be over a decade further towards hearing most names on people occupying most places on the gender spectrum. The old folks will still be unsettled but it will be commonplace for the children wearing these names.

I had some name anxiety before naming my son too and I think it’s such a normal part of the process. There are so many names and only one is going to be the child’s first name. If we had to pick one outfit for the child to wear forever out of all the different options available, we’d be strung out over that too! I hope you can ride the anxiety wave out, knowing that it’s part of the process, because it will crash and spread out and away and you’ll be calm again.

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We only found our kid’s name at 30+ weeks, we hadn’t even considered it before but I saw it in a dream and it was just the one!

I know a little one with the same name as your first, her brother is [name_m]Theodore[/name_m], I think it fits your style too

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All great choices. You can’t go wrong! Since you still have time, you could try referring to the baby by a specific name each week and see if that narrows it down.

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I also have a little girl and am expecting a little boy 🩷🩵 [name_m]Boy[/name_m] names are definitely hard!

I agree that all go great with [name_f]Hannah[/name_f] :smiling_face:

I know a [name_u]Henry[/name_u] who is almost 2, and he is the SWEETEST!! I think it’s a solid choice for a little boy, and one that grows with them perfectly :slight_smile: [name_u]Love[/name_u] that name!

[name_u]Logan[/name_u] is another one of my favorites! I don’t think people will associate it with [name_m]Wolverine[/name_m] because it was a well known name before the movies came out and it still is well known enough. I think it’s a versatile name that fits a variety of personalities :slight_smile:

I don’t know anyone with the name [name_u]Levi[/name_u], but I don’t exclusively associate it with the brand. Especially if I heard a person with the name, I don’t think I would think of the brand at all! [name_f]My[/name_f] mom does use the term “levi’s” to refer to all jeans, but I feel like that’s a regional thing because I’m not sure I’ve heard it elsewhere.

I don’t think you can go wrong!

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You’ve already made an excellent choice with Hannah’s name, and you’ll make one that’s just as beautiful for your baby boy.

[name_u]Levi[/name_u] is my favorite of the bunch, and I agree that it’s a “cool guy” name. [name_u]Levi[/name_u] is effortlessly laid-back, yet classic and handsome. It could suit an athlete, a bookworm, an artist, a leader. The jeans association is there, but far from overwhelming. I’m guessing that most people would hear [name_u]Levi[/name_u] and think of the name before the brand.

[name_u]Henry[/name_u] is a beautiful gentle classic, and I love how it sounds with [name_f]Hannah[/name_f] too.

[name_u]Logan[/name_u] isn’t my personal taste, but it’s a great name. It feels solidly masculine to me—when it’s used on girls, it just feels like a part of the “boy names on girls” trend, and not like it’s shifting from masculine to unisex to feminine usage like [name_u]Ashley[/name_u] and [name_u]Lindsay[/name_u] did. I know of the [name_m]Wolverine[/name_m] association, but it’s far from the first thing I think of.

I also absolutely love [name_m]Alexander[/name_m] and [name_u]James[/name_u] from your close seconds list.

[name_f]My[/name_f] suggestions:

  • play around with something you can personalize for the baby, like a blanket with an embroidered name on it. Usually websites will give you a mock-up of the item with the name you want. Is there a name that looks most natural or makes you happiest?
  • use the name out loud in the context of the baby, with phrases like “this is my son, Levi”… which name feels most natural?
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Some (good) thoughts on your names:

So, you have three very solid choices - familiar, versatile, and all fit well with the lovely [name_f]Hannah[/name_f]!

[name_u]Levi[/name_u] - sharp, sleek and stylish, but with plenty of fun and charm about it too. I like the look of the name too - it’s distinctive but easy to spell and remember! In regards to the jeans, I know it’s the same name, but the jeans normally get called ‘Levi’s’ and I can quite easily see the brand [name_u]Levi[/name_u] as very separate from the name [name_u]Levi[/name_u] - like, if I met a [name_u]Levi[/name_u], I wouldn’t think ‘jeans’

[name_u]Logan[/name_u] - gentle but outdoorsy, sporty but calm. I like all the sounds - the strong O, the [name_f]Lo[/name_f]- beginning, the -gan end. It’s just well-rounded and good, you know. I know it’s Wolverine’s name, but then, some of the [name_m]Wolverine[/name_m] films are some of the very few superhero movies I’ve enjoyed, so it’s not a bad thing for me - but nor would I assume someone using [name_u]Logan[/name_u] was referencing [name_m]Wolverine[/name_m] (unless, you know, they were obviously huge fans). I’ve also only ever met male Logans, but also unisex-ness in names appeals to me personally

[name_u]Henry[/name_u] - ah, lovely [name_u]Henry[/name_u]. One of my fave classics. Sweet, gentle, but solid and strong too, timeless and very versatile, could suit any kind of kid. It reminds me of one of my fave characters too (Henry Clerval) so that’s a plus for me :slight_smile:

I don’t think you can go wrong with any of these!

I’ve never named a kid, but I do think from being on these forums that what you’re feeling is a shared feeling - it is such a big decision :heart: