I have never been someone who longs for twins. I’ve cared for infant/toddler twins both as a nanny and a babysitter and actually quite enjoyed my experiences with those families. But I always knew that singleton is the gold standard of starting off a healthy pregnancy/birth/postpartum and that is what I most wanted. I’m a very evidence-based risk-aversion-driven person so in my quest for a healthy pregnancy I legitimately aimed for one full-term baby at a time.
But now that I’m brushing up against trying for my LAST pregnancy, I find myself suddenly OBSESSED with twins and even strongly hoping that I might have twins. Any advice?
Knowing that I’m into the odds and whatnot… I don’t have much of a chance of actually having twins. And I know that. I’m 28. I specifically spaced my pregnancies (this was conscious and deliberate). I’ve never used any fertility drugs or needed any reproductive assistance. And twins don’t run in my family (I think I have to go back like 5 generations to find even one set of twins).
But, I’m tall-ish (5’9"), have a BMI just under 27, and the taller and heavier you are the greater chances of naturally conceiving twins. I have had one pregnancy before and the more babies you have the more likely they become (though that may be mostly a function of the extra years/age). I regularly eat full-fat dairy and starchy root vegetables. So part of me is irrationally hoping…
I don’t even know that it is hoping… but hoping not hoping? Idk, so much is a jumble. Does everyone have such a hard time adjusting to the idea of being DONE having babies? I did always want 4, but my husband didn’t. We compromised with the plan of two biological babies, one adopted infant and later on adopting a teenager so we will (in like 10-15 years) have four children. I have been legitimately excited about that plan/compromise for a long time. But now… why is this so hard?