[name]One[/name] name I’ve loved for years is [name]Dominic[/name]. It works fine with my surname, but not with my OH’s - a one syllable name starting with the ‘K’ sound that [name]Dominic[/name] ends in. [name]Even[/name] worse is the name [name]Jack[/name]. It just doesn’t ‘flow’ right, with an unnatural pause between first and surname. So I’m thinking I may have to cross these names off the list.
Am I being irrational in losing names I love from my list just because they don’t read the best? I’m already having to face never being able to use one of my girls’ names because the nn would rhyme with his surname horrendously. Also what about names with one-syllable nns like [name]Joe[/name] and [name]Sam[/name]? They don’t have the back to back ‘k’ sound but do they sound bad next to a one-syllable surname? I’m refining my boys’ list but I can’t work out which names are inevitably going to have to go and which I can keep.
Also, has anyone else had to face losing a name they love because of their surname/ partner’s surname?
Flow defiantly is an issue to me, but I haven’t had any troubles with getting names to work with my fiance’s last name. It’s my OWN name I hate with his last name. He thinks it sounds fine, I think there are too many vowels… but the more I say it in my head, the more I am starting to get used to it. I think if a name sounds funny, you can get over it if you just say over and over again and then it becomes “okay” sounding.
I don’t think it’s irrational. You want the name to sound nice. Plus there are lots of names, so you are bound to find something you like that goes with the last name.
Flow is very important to me, mostly because I have a short first name with an equally short surname, and when the names are said together it’s impossible to not sound like you’re barking it out. Having a common four-syllable name in the middle helps balance it out, but since I never use my middle name it bugs me greatly. Since I’m far away from actually having kids with anyone, I always like names based on how they sound with my surname.
I want my names to flow well, but loving a name and the meaning it has to me is more important by far than how well a name flows.
I think [name]Dominic[/name] would be a keeper, from what you’ve said. You obviously love the name a lot and I don’t think a little awkwardness should make you give up a name you love.
I do think flow matters a lot. It can sound really strange if names run together, and the same goes for if there has to be a pause between names, it can make things a real mouthful as well. So say your OH’s name is Kloch then to me, [name]Dominic[/name] Kloch is quite difficult to say because you really have to emphasize where one name ends and the other begins.
I agree that flow matters a lot. A one syllable first name (even a nn like [name]Mike[/name] instead of [name]Michael[/name]) with a one syllable last name is too choppy. I also don’t like names that run together. A first name should not end in the same sound a last name starts with. Sometimes you have to let go of names you love to work with a last name. My last name end is the “is” sound, so that took [name]Nicholas[/name], [name]Angus[/name] and [name]Hollis[/name] off my lists and those are names I liked long before I met my husband. [name]Every[/name] last name has names that won’t work with it. You could try to hyphenate with your last name first if you really want to use the names you love. [name]Dominic[/name] Edwards-Kloch sounds ok for example.
[name]Dominic[/name] and [name]Jack[/name] sound fine to me! I can appreciate the importance of having a name that sounds good, but sometimes I think Berries nitpick the flow a bit too much… [name]Jack[/name] [name]Kane[/name]? Yeah, it might not be the best, but there is certainly worse out there and it actually sounds dashing to me. [name]Sam[/name] [name]Kane[/name], [name]Seth[/name] [name]Kane[/name], etc., all of them are fine to me. [name]Even[/name] [name]Dominic[/name] [name]Kane[/name]. Or [name]Keats[/name], or [name]Kort[/name], or whatever his surname is.
I haven’t had to nix a name because of a SO’s ln… mainly because I don’t have an SO atm, haha. But I’m sure it’ll happen eventually. I do plan on eventually adopting, though, and if I’m still single when I am ready to adopt, then I will adopt on my own… and I’ve found some of the names I really adore just don’t work with my LN–the one off the top of my head is [name]Aurora[/name]–I absolutely adore it, but [name]Aurora[/name] [name]Richards[/name] is way too “R” heavy for me. As you can see in my signature, though, I still plan on using it as a MN.
