Hypothetically, you found your favorite first name… And it clashes with the middle name you love, or honor name, etc. At what point do you forget about flow to use specific names? Or would you look at a choppy name and decide to find a different way to honor (or add a second middle, or some other solution) even if you’d end up with something not your “style”? How much weight would you put on name flow compared to personal naming style? I don’t mean using something you don’t like, but something you wouldn’t otherwise consider if flow weren’t an issue?
This is hypothetical, but here’s my example:
[name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] - Oof. No flow.
[name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_u]July[/name_u] - SUPER cute. Only, [name_u]July[/name_u] is just not a name I would consider “my style”.
I would go with flow. [name_f]Adeline[/name_f] isn’t really my style, but paired with [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f] I just love it 
([name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_u]July[/name_u] btw 
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Hmm I think this is definitely subjective from person to person so an interesting topic/conversation.
For me, I care quite a lot about flow. The phonetic appeal of a name is of importance to me, and is the reason why a lot of names have fallen off my list (phonetically clashed with my surname, flow sounds bad, kinda like your [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] example)
For me, if the flow was only SLIGHTLY off and it was a deeply important name… I’d go with it and just make it work. [name_f]Non[/name_f]-name nerds probably wouldn’t even notice.
As for style, I run into the issue you mentioned… [name_f]My[/name_f] style is SO inconsistent. One of my favorite combinations is [name_f]Alaska[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f] but the styles are just so incredibly different that I don’t think I could get away with it. Ultimately, I do prefer pairing names that have somewhat consistent styling themes, but then on the other hand I’ve seen really obscure middle names with more classic names and it gives it a really cool feel.
At the end of the day, flow means more to me than style.
I would sacrifice flow for the names I really loved or were meaningful to me.
Example: I’ve thought about what middle name I will give future children since I didn’t change my name when I got married. So I could give my last name as a middle name, makes sense to me anyway. The problem is my last name is very similar to my husbands in style. It would be very similar giving a her the name [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_m]Jefferson[/name_m] [name_m]Peterson[/name_m]. lol not great flow… But if I thought it was important I would do it!
More important to me is the flow of the first name with the last name, so I would use the middle I love. Unless…it sounds ridiculous like rhyming (eg [name_f]Flora[/name_f] [name_f]Dora[/name_f]) is basically the same name (eg, [name_m]Jack[/name_m] [name_m]John[/name_m]). We seldom say our first and middle names together so for me, choosing the one I love trumps flow, or the style being off. [name_f]My[/name_f] priority is how the first name sounds with the last name so this criteria changes for that combination.
If I had two names I loved, I definitely wouldn’t put them together if they didn’t flow well. Only if these two names had a very important meaning I’d to it.
Flow is nowhere near as important as me liking the name. Furthermore, it’s more important that the first name flows with the last name. Middle names are basically “anything goes” to me.
Meaning over flow, I think anything else would make me regret the name later. Perhaps I would try to tweak one of the names a little bit, a [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] might become [name_f]Margaret[/name_f] [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] or [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Charlotte[/name_f], but only if I truly loved those options. At the end of the day, I find the flow of names to have very little significance in real life, it would be lovely, but being reminded of a very favourite person every time I speak their name would be so much more meaningful to me.