I don’t think a name can be gay. the only thing I can think is that this person has known several Kierans who were gay and so that is the first thing they think. I once had someone tell me that [name_m]Bruce[/name_m] always makes them think of a gay man for the same reason. I don’t think this is really a fair descriptor for the impression a name gives you though because there is not one type of gay person, it’s not like saying that you think the name is frilly and fitting for a girly girl or that it feels sporty.
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I would not take the opinion of someone who refers to things they dislike as “gay” one bit seriously; that’s really disgusting and bigoted, please don’t give this person the time of day. I think Kieran is lovely as is the combo, works great with your first son’s name, and like all names would fit someone of any sexual orientation.
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I’ll fourth(?) this. If they can’t give you any more reasoning for their opinion, their opinion isn’t worth much anyway. Please don’t let this person and their ignorant opinion deter you from a name you love!
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Who would say something like that? [name_f]My[/name_f] response would be “Good! I plan to raise him that way.” 
Obviously kidding, but when people are that ridiculous, sometimes only a ridiculous answer will suffice.
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I think its disgusting to call a name “too gay”. I think it was a bit rude to say that since a name shouldn’t be defined as “gay” or “girly”. Being gay is not bad at all and I think the person who called your sons name “gay” is not good at judging. [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] is a stunning name and it goes nicely with your other boy’s name!
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I think names ending in -n sound masculine to me. Most of the boy names I like end in -n or -er. [name_m]Kieren[/name_m] is a great name!
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They probably meant effeminate / soft / not very masuline or confident or assertive or strong - sounding.
Which, in general, for the name [name_m]Keiran[/name_m] , I would agree with.
But it was not a nice thing to say, neither to you nor about gay people. [name_u]Gay[/name_u] individuals can be just as likley or as unlikely as hetero individuals in terms of being strong, confident, assertive, etc.
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It is definitely not too “gay”. I hate that people assign sexuality to names. It’s so stupid. [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] is a strong, handsome, playful name. I love it with [name_u]Julian[/name_u]. Definitely use it!
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Wonderful name. I also love the spelling [name_m]Ciaran[/name_m] (same pronunciation)
In my opinion for what it is worth, any name has the potential to be liked or disliked by anyone.Sadly some people will put labels to names just because they don’t like them.
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I think it’s absolutely ridiculous. Names can’t sound gay and I’m honestly over the habit some people have of using gay as an insult and/or an adjective to describe things that obviously can’t be gay. As for too ‘girly’ - it really isn’t. People often think boys will be bullied for having names that are more ‘‘feminine’’, wearing pink, showing an interest in dolls or reading, and the list goes on. I love gentle names on boys and think [name_u]Julian[/name_u] and [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] sound beautiful together.
TLDR - A name can’t be gay. [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] is lovely.
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I don’t actually know how to quote other people’s posts so let me just say I very much agree with everyone on this page. That’s an ignorant and ridiculous comment. You’d think people would learn by now, and stop using the word gay as if it means anything negative. If it were me, I’d turn it around on this person and say their kid’s name sounds “too straight”… but I’m petty like that.
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Thank you!!! I honestly felt awkward even posting about this persons comment on the name I chose.
Really, who in 2021 refers to a name as “gay” as if it’s a bad thing? Well, someone I know, who happens to be very close to my baby to be.
I think I already knew it was ridiculous and not to pay any attention to the comment, but I just wanted some reassurance and definitely got it on here. <3
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Well, I’ve been trying to let the father come up with a name he likes and try to compromise but he hasn’t had any decent suggestions thus far. I’m 26 weeks now. And I’m the kind of person who likes to plan ahead on important things such as the NAME my son is going to have for the rest of his life! (Most likely)
[name_f]Every[/name_f] name I suggested was too weird, too girly, too “gay” as in [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] sounds like the name a gay man would have?
The exchange was via text and it went something like this…
I’ve been getting sick of waiting for him to come up with something we agree on, so one day I just sent a text saying “the baby has a name. It’s [name_u]Kieran[/name_u]. Either [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] [name_u]Christian[/name_u], [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] [name_m]Anthony[/name_m] or [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u].” And the response was something along the lines of absolutely not, all the names you pick are too gay… so I just didn’t respond because I didn’t think the message deserved a response.
And so far the only names he’s suggested have been [name_u]Seth[/name_u] and [name_u]Mack[/name_u]… but he told me both of them and then followed up with “but I’m not sure I really like it.”
So, that’s the story behind who thinks my baby’s name sounds “gay,” as embarrassing as it is…
Let’s just all be thankful that there’s no way in hell I’m gonna let my son grow up thinking it’s not ok to be different, or raise him to be close minded and ignorant (like the person who helped me bring him into this world.) And hopefully in time that person will learn not to be so homophobic and ignorant.
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That’s good! I forgot to mention it in my original comment but [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] [name_m]Anthony[/name_m] is such a handsome name and works perfectly with [name_u]Julian[/name_u]. Great choice! 
I’m so sorry for how hard this has been. Naming a baby is so hard and it’s hard finding a name that two people really like. With my last baby my husband and I were finalizing the name as we were darting off to the hospital to give birth 
And you’ll see often on here people post asking for help to name the baby they already had…
What did he think of the middle name choices [name_u]James[/name_u], [name_m]Anthony[/name_m] and [name_u]Christian[/name_u]? (I really like each of those. [name_u]James[/name_u] is actually my third’s middle! First name [name_m]Gideon[/name_m]!). For my husband and I we seem to do best settle on a middle first. [name_u]Or[/name_u] with our first we had the first name but the middle was decided very last minute.
I’ll be honest I can maybe see that “masculine” appeal of [name_u]Mack[/name_u] but Indont quite see [name_u]Mack[/name_u] as a stand-alone first. Maybe that can be a place to compromise? There are potential firsts that can lend itself to a [name_u]Mack[/name_u] nickname-
Some that stick out to me:
[name_u]Michael[/name_u]
[name_m]Marcus[/name_m]
[name_m]Macallister[/name_m]
[name_m]Malcom[/name_m]
[name_m]Macaulay[/name_m]
[name_u]Maxwell[/name_u]
[name_m]Merrick[/name_m]
I’m rooting for you two- that you’ll be able to come together amicably and come up with the name your little one is supposed to have! [name_m]Feel[/name_m] free to bounce ideas that you have off of us!
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I’m deeply saddened that “gayness” is still met with such disdain. When a boy’s name sounds sensitive and creative, some people, like this person who called [name_u]Kieran[/name_u] a “gay” name, will distort this wholesome imagery with their homophobia. It’s unfortunate and should reveal more about their limitations than your ability to judge whether a name will suit your son.
[name_u]Kieran[/name_u] is a lovely Irish name for any boy to call his own. And for what it’s worth, being gay is not a curse — but being a bigot can be.
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Anyone who says something like that, about a name or anything else, is not who you want to be checking with.
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My brother in law is a [name_m]Kieren[/name_m]. He is charming, polite and intelligent
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LOL what nonsense
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Whoever said that is full of it. [name_u]Kieran[/name_u]’s a great name and the person who made that comment is going to have a rude awakening once they realize society will no longer tolerate their homophobic nonsense.
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