My husband and I are expecting a baby girl this coming February and we are very excited. Problem is picking baby names has been kind of like pulling teeth. My husband does not have as adventurous tastes as I do but I think he has good taste if that makes sense, he also gets stuck on a name when he hears one he likes and doesn’t really consider different options. We have two names that we like but I can’t seem to commit, I find problems with both, maybe you all can help me settle or give me some good suggestions to sway one way or another.
We have one son named [name]Joseph[/name] [name]Slade[/name], family name so it was easy to pick. Obviously [name]Joseph[/name] is a pretty common name so I was hoping to have a little more fun with this one, here are the only two we agree on so far:
[name]Amelia[/name] [name]Rose[/name]: I actually really love this name, it has personal significance to us and I think it is pretty. I worry that [name]Amelia[/name] has been on the rise and can’t decide if it bothers me that it could potentially go even higher or I try to convince myself it will level out and not break the top 20.
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[name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name]: This is less common of a name for me and a little more interesting all around, my biggest hang up is having two kids with the same first name initial. It would be [name]Joseph[/name] and [name]Juliette[/name], is that too much?!
Any input, my issues with these names are they deal breakers for you? I’m having a hard time finding something I like that my husband will consider, I have tried [name]Cassandra[/name], [name]Claudia[/name], [name]Iris[/name], [name]Ivy[/name], [name]Hazel[/name] with him the only one he seemed partial to was [name]Hazel[/name]. Thanks for any help!
I love [name]Amelia[/name] [name]Rose[/name] and [name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name]! Such feminine, beautiful names! I probably wouldn’t want to do two Js either, but if I was going to break that rule-- [name]Juliette[/name] would be the name I’d pick. [name]Do[/name] you like [name]Claire[/name] [name]Juliette[/name]? I see [name]Amelia[/name] a lot on this site, but I’ve only ever known 2 in my life-- one who is about 20 now and one who is a toddler. Good luck!
I totally understand. My hubby and I are going through the same thing! I am due in [name]April[/name] with our first girl (sons [name]Dillon[/name] and [name]Miles[/name]) and I almost pulled my hair out in frustration the past two times! [name]How[/name] about [name]Colette[/name] [name]Rose[/name] similar to [name]Juliette[/name] or [name]Scarlett[/name] [name]Claire[/name]? Or one name my traditional husband liked…[name]Corinne[/name]? But my favorite definetley [name]Hazel[/name]. I love that name!
Thank you! I do like [name]Claire[/name] [name]Juliette[/name], both those names are ones that I have liked for a long time! I like [name]Colette[/name] but can’t use it for family reasons, [name]Corinne[/name] is nice though, I will toss those out at the husband!
I can relate to your naming situation! My husband is the exact same way about choosing a name for our second daughter due in [name]April[/name].
I think both of the names you mentioned are just lovely and I don’t think the two J names would be too much. At least they don’t rhyme or sound too similar. I think either name would make a nice sib set. Good luck & congratulatuons!
I haven’t met or heard of a single [name]Amelia[/name] of any age in real life (but I don’t spend much time around babies). However, I believe it’s quite popular in the UK. I wouldn’t worry about [name]Joseph[/name] and [name]Juliette[/name] having the same initial. Initials usually only show up on mail and [name]Joseph[/name] would be Mr. while [name]Juliette[/name] would be Miss or Ms., so it wouldn’t be a problem. And they wouldn’t have the same middle initial either. As a combo I prefer [name]Amelia[/name] [name]Rose[/name] but I like [name]Juliette[/name] better than [name]Amelia[/name].
If he likes [name]Hazel[/name] you might try [name]Mabel[/name] (if you like it, obviously :)). Or perhaps [name]Amabel[/name], [name]Annabel[/name], or [name]Opal[/name] would appeal? Are J names off the table? [name]June[/name] is a gem that I never hear [name]IRL[/name].
I hear [name]Amelia[/name] ALL the time, so I see your concern with it, it’s lovely, but quite overdone.
[name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name], in my opinion, is perfection! I understand your concern with the same first initials, but there’s no real reason to pass up a name you love simply because it also starts with a J! I am going through the same issue - I have a C name, so does my son and for some reason, the majority of names we agree upon also start with C, I don’t purposefully go for C names, but I refuse to pass up something I love just because it starts with C.
I’m relieved to hear that the J initials are not bothersome to most people. J names are not off the table I was just really unsure if people would think it was corny, haha! I keep telling myself its not like I want to name her [name]Josephine[/name], which is lovely, but that would be too much!
I think [name]Mabel[/name] is super cute and I like [name]Opal[/name] as well, I’ll add those to try with the husband when he gets home!
If popularity is your only concern regarding [name]Amelia[/name]…have you thought about [name]Emilia[/name]? [name]Emilia[/name] [name]Rose[/name] is absolutely stunning, the pronunciation is nearly identical, and there’s the Shakespearean reference you get from [name]Juliette[/name] as well! You also lose any lingering [name]Amelia[/name] [name]Bedelia[/name] associations
As for a [name]Joseph[/name] and [name]Juliette[/name] sibset, I don’t think the two J’s is a problem…they sound lovely together. However something to consider: do you plan to have more children in the future? If so, will you stick to the J theme? If you don’t want to commit to an all J family but only have one other child, will he feel strange that his name doesn’t match with his siblings? I distinctly remember when my sister was born, I begged and begged my parents to give her an S first name…my two brothers had J names and I had felt left out of the loop for so long that I was determined my sister and I would match too! A silly story, but to an 11-year-old it was a huge deal!
Well the husband didn’t like any of the new suggestions but you all have been very helpful! I at least feel better about the two we like so far and might even be falling more towards [name]Juliette[/name].
@ sleepysessha, that’s a good point on the subsequent children, we have always agreed on just having two kids, but I don’t want to count us out yet, that’s definitely something to keep in mind!
I really love [name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name], much more than [name]Amelia[/name] [name]Rose[/name], but I really love [name]Joseph[/name] and [name]Amelia[/name] together! Far more than [name]Joseph[/name] and [name]Juliette[/name] (even though I actually love the alliteration here). Then again, I do conceivably see [name]Amelia[/name] going much higher. It’s currently number 1 in the UK, so I could see it going top 10 for us here in [name]America[/name].
I really love the option of [name]Ivy[/name], though, too bad you couldn’t convince him of that! [name]Joseph[/name] and [name]Ivy[/name] are just stunning together!
[name]Amelia[/name] has always been one of my favorite names, and was on my short list. But back then it was #228–I don’t know how I would have felt with it at #30. Is [name]Rose[/name] part of the significance of the name for you? I ask because it seems to be the default middle name these days. I wonder if you might feel less conflicted if you picked a more adventurous middle?
[name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name] is also gorgeous. Is a shared initial too much? Well, no, I don’t think so, but on the other hand, I wouldn’t do it myself. Are you planning on more children? If you had more, would you feel compelled to stick to the pattern?
I think [name]Corinne[/name] is a beautiful suggestion. Have you considered [name]Cecelia[/name], [name]Lucy[/name], [name]Elodie[/name], or [name]Linnea[/name]?
Yes, [name]Rose[/name] is part of the significance for us. I tried swapping it with other names and it became more lackluster because it loses its meaning for us. But I would normally agree very much that [name]Rose[/name] is a very common middle name and sounds like we didn’t put any thought into it!
We really aren’t 100% sure on a baby after this. I’m keeping our options open in case but she could be our last. I don’t think I’d have a problem breaking the pattern… I think I might comb through some name lists again, haha. I do love [name]Cecelia[/name] and [name]Linnea[/name], thank you for those suggestions!
[name]Lydia[/name] is very nice! I am thinking I will compile a list of name combos to give my husband, he seems more receptive when I have a whole name to present rather than just a first name.
I’ve had similar problems with my partner… whats worked for us and i suggest for you:
Get him to right down a list of names he likes
Make sure he is putting thought into it, set him at the table or couch with some naming books or the computer and let him compile a list as long as he wants (though preferably at least eight names)
Next go over his list and see what you do and dont like. If something shines point it out, play around with the names he’s picked, note style and sounds he seems to like.
Now you have a better idea when suggesting things as to what he likes and he might even have stumbled across the perfect name who knows!
i found with my partner when she had to write things down and play with combinations instead of just yaying and naying what i said or throwing a name out there she thought about it more and i had a better idea of what she really liked. also because i’ve been the main one invovled in this pregnancy (i’m carrying the baby, i’m a lot more ‘into’ names) it made her feel included.
I love your names [name]Amelia[/name] [name]Rose[/name] and [name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name], they are very lovely choices. I don’t think [name]Juliette[/name] starting with the same letter as [name]Joseph[/name] is a deal breaker at all, now if you had 3 kids starting with J then you’d have a trend but two the same isn’t pigeon holing you, at least imo. [name]Juliette[/name] [name]Claire[/name] is my favorite. Either one would be gorgeous.
@becaroo, that sounds like a helpful process I will see if he will try that. I think he gets overwhelmed with all the choices but I’m sure if he just tackled it he could surprise me with some names he likes that I had not mentioned or thought of!
A silly story, but to an 11-year-old it was a huge deal!