I don’t discuss names under actual consideration but share some of the ‘discard pile’- especially if they are more unusual.
Both mum and mil chose unusual names for their children so hubs and I just made it clear that they most likely won’t know anyone with their grandchildren’s names.
Both of these things combined have meant that they are fully ready for an outside 1000 baby name when the baby comes!
It was tough choosing something hubs and I both loved so it was enough to decide between us!
My mother always worked in nurseries so she had so many associations with names we brought up years before children were on the horizon- I always knew I wanted an unusual name to try and sidestep this so I guess she might have been an influence but I always preferred having an unusual name myself…
The only name I might have avoided if I liked it originally was Rose/Rose variations as my mum had various bad incidents with people with this name and it came to only have bad feelings associated in the end for us both!!
While my boys have unusual names they are full of meaning and hopefully this has made them a little more accessible to friends and family. No-one has made a negative comment and I think everyone likes them but in the end we love them and that’s the only thing we can control!
Everyone seems to be very interested in the name of baby 3 but they will just have to wait and see!!
Mummy has no say in what I name my children but I do ask what she thinks of my choices, mostly to get feedback much in the same way I’d ask my friends or make a post on here. Luckily she likes a lot of my combinations, though.
It wasn’t my mother I had the problem with, it was my paternal grandmother, who I adored. She hated the fact that my first born, a son, was going to have my mother’s maiden name and decided she was going to call him that. She and my aunt decided to call him ‘[name_u]Joey[/name_u]’. I said, ‘I love you both dearly, but if you can’t call him by his name then you must not love me very much and must not want to see him. So until you can call him by his name maybe you shouldn’t see him.’ They changed their minds very fast.
My mom is very opinionated, but would only share her opinion on a subject like baby names passive aggressively. Honestly, her opinion would probably weigh on my mind too much, so we kept names private. It helped me keep my mind clear and focused on what I want in a name. My husband is my best friend, and he’s the one who helps me make decisions when I’m being indecisive (in many decisions, not just names).