Grieving Sibset after experiencing stillbirth. Need suggestions for future pregnancy

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Last year my husband and I lost our second child (baby boy) when I went into labour at 38 weeks. I had a great pregnancy and was not expecting this to happen. My husband and I would like to start trying for another baby soon and as part of my grief journey I’ve been playing around with names. I’ve been having a really hard time because I want all of the siblings names to go together - I don’t want his name to feel left out.
My oldest is a girl and her name is (fn) Audrey (mn) Elaine. Second was the boy we lost and his name is (fn) Walter (nn) Wally (mn) James. Our last name starts with H and has a “son” ending.

For a third we are thinking of (fn) Max (mn) Arthur for a boy. Arthur has been in the family for many generations.
For a girl here are some thoughts:

  1. Emmilia (don’t know correct spelling) and I really like the nickname Millie - not sure yet if I can get my husband on bored with that one.
  2. (fn) Abigail (mn) Louise. I’d like to call her Abby Lou but don’t know if Audrey and Abby are too similar?
  3. Husband likes Claire but I can’t think of a nice middle name that doesn’t make the entire name sound French. I don’t want people asking her if she’s French all of the time?? We could use Clara but I’m not sure about that name.
  4. My firstborn, Audrey, was going to be named Abigail and I’ve always regretted it. I thought it wouldn’t fit in with the older style of names that I tend to go for which is why we went with second choice Audrey at the time. BUT I’m really loving the name Millie for a girl. I think I always liked the name Millie since picking names for my first girl but may have been scared people wouldn’t like it. I feel like it goes well with Audrey and Wally?

I’ve always been a name person and have been grieving the sibset of Audrey and Walter (Wally). It was just so perfect and classy sounding to me. I’d love some input about my thoughts and possibly middle name suggestions. Thanks so much!!

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I’m deeply sorry for the loss of your angel son. [name_m]Walter[/name_m] “Wally” [name_u]James[/name_u] is such a precious name, as is [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] Elaine. :white_heart: :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

I totally understand not wanting [name_m]Walter[/name_m] to be left out! I think you have some great ideas.

The traditional spelling is Emilia. I think it’s so pretty, and [name_f]Millie[/name_f] is a great nickname for it. So lovely alongside [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] & [name_m]Walter[/name_m] as well!
Some similar names to [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] that you and your husband might like…

  • [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f] “Millie”
  • [name_f]Eloise[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Amelie[/name_f] “Millie”
  • [name_f]Amalia[/name_f] “Millie”
  • [name_u]Camille[/name_u]
  • [name_f]Eliora[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] "Millie
  • [name_f]Elora[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Aurelie[/name_f] / [name_f]Aurelia[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Cecilia[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Elena[/name_f]

[name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and [name_u]Abby[/name_u] aren’t too similar in my opinion. They’re close, but not so close that it’s confusing. Especially if you’re also calling her [name_u]Abby[/name_u] Lou! Such a sweet nickname, by the way! :smiling_face_with_three_hearts:

[name_f]Claire[/name_f] is nice! I don’t think it sounds overly [name_u]French[/name_u] since it’s very well-loved outside of France. :white_heart: It definitely sounds nice with A & W as well. As for middle names, I think a solid classic would work really well since [name_u]James[/name_u] & [name_f]Elaine[/name_f] are both quite traditional sounding names.

  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Dorothy[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Frances[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Harriet[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Helena[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Leonora[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_u]Louise[/name_u]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Rosamund[/name_f]
  • [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Victoria[/name_f]

I honestly think [name_f]Millie[/name_f] works wonderfully on its own. Millie, Walter, & [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] are so sweet. :slight_smile:

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Your older kids have great names!

Audrey, Walter, (Max) and [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] is stunning! [name_f]Millie[/name_f] would be such a cute nickname, too!

Audrey, Walter, (Max) & [name_f]Claire[/name_f] feels really fitting to me too, and very classy! I like the suggestion of [name_f]Claire[/name_f] Helena. I also think [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Amalia[/name_f] would be really nice. [name_u]Or[/name_u] even [name_f]Claire[/name_f] Abigail//Abigail [name_f]Claire[/name_f] if you wanted.

[name_f]My[/name_f] only hesitation with [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] is that I think I would like siblings to have their own first initial. Otherwise, I think Audrey, Walter, (Max) & [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] sounds just fine! I don’t find [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and [name_u]Abby[/name_u] too close at all.

I’m sure whatever name you wind up with will be perfect with her siblings!

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I’m so very sorry for your loss :heart:

[name_f]Audrey[/name_f] [name_f]Elaine[/name_f] and [name_m]Walter[/name_m] “Wally” [name_u]James[/name_u] are both lovely! [name_u]Max[/name_u] [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] seems perfect for their brother. Some thoughts on your girls’ list…

I love Millie! And I think it works really nicely with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and Walter. I don’t personally love [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] as much (this is my preferred spelling and I think the most common!), but it’s a lovely name too and fits beautifully with your sibset. I’ll also suggest Amelia, which I adore and which I think could still have [name_f]Millie[/name_f] as a nn!

I don’t think [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and [name_u]Abby[/name_u] are too similar! I prefer separate initials for siblings, but I suggested Amelia, so clearly I don’t see it as a dealbreaker :rofl: [name_u]Abby[/name_u] [name_u]Lou[/name_u] is adorable.

[name_f]Claire[/name_f] is gorgeous too, and so good with your sibset! Would you consider [name_f]Claire[/name_f] [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] or [name_f]Claire[/name_f] Abigail? Neither of those combos feels especially [name_u]French[/name_u] to me. I definitely prefer [name_f]Claire[/name_f] to Clara.

You have such lovely taste–I know you’ll end up choosing another gorgeous name! Good luck and wishing you peace and healing :yellow_heart:

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Firstly I’m so sorry for loss of your son [name_m]Walter[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] I completely understand why you wouldn’t want to leave little [name_u]Wally[/name_u] out when it comes to naming your future child.

[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] (the traditional spelling) is a lovely choice she’s very elegant such a classic choice that sounds gorgeous with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] & Walter.

[name_f]Abigail[/name_f] is a nice classic personally she isn’t a favourite of mine and I think she is too similar to [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] to work with Walter. I think Audrey, [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] & [name_m]Walter[/name_m] is a little disjointed.

[name_f]Claire[/name_f] to me isn’t too ‘French’ she’s a relatively standard classic choice and used commonly in [name_f]English[/name_f] speaking countries for me this name doesn’t seem [name_u]French[/name_u] at all so I wouldn’t be concerned about that. [name_f]Claire[/name_f] is a lovely sweet name and again I think works well with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] & Walter.

I honestly love [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] for you such a gorgeous name really pretty and sounds perfect with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] & Walter. Also with [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] you get that sweet nickname Millie.

Middle names for Emilia…
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Josephine[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Primrose[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Elisabeth[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Lillian[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Isabel[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Dorothy[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Rachel[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Violet[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Genevieve[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Frances[/name_f]

I wish you lots of peace, healing and love :heart:

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I’m so sorry for your loss :hearts:

I like both [name_u]Max[/name_u] and [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and Walter, and from your girls options I think [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] nn [name_f]Millie[/name_f] would be a great sister. How about incorporating [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] by going for [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] or [name_f]Claire[/name_f] Abigail?

Some more suggestions:

[name_m]Louis[/name_m]
[name_m]Hugo[/name_m]
[name_m]Oscar[/name_m]
[name_u]Alfie[/name_u]

[name_f]Margo[/name_f]
[name_u]Abilene[/name_u] (could still lead to nn Abby)
[name_f]Louisa[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f]
[name_f]Matilda[/name_f] (Tilly is similar to Millie)
[name_f]Beatrix[/name_f] nn [name_f]Bea[/name_f]

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I am so sorry for your loss <3

  1. I like [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] nn Millie! There’s also [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f] (i like the lin sound but also line is nice) if your husband might like that better.

  2. [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] [name_u]Louise[/name_u] is lovely and goes great with your set! I do think [name_u]Abby[/name_u] and [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] are close but not so much as to be unusable.

  3. I don’t see [name_f]Claire[/name_f] as a particularly [name_u]French[/name_u] first name! I do slightly prefer [name_f]Clara[/name_f] but that’s a personal preference. [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] [name_f]Claire[/name_f] would be lovely too.

  4. If you’re sold on [name_f]Millie[/name_f] go for it! There’s lots of full names for Millie: Emilia, Emmeline, Camilla/Camille, Emily, Mildred, Millicent, Romilly, etc. If you want to stretch a little I think [name_f]Millie[/name_f] could work for [name_f]Matilda[/name_f] too and I think it would suit your sibset nicely.

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I’m so sorry for your loss. [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and [name_m]Walter[/name_m] still make a beautiful sibset, and I really love the name Walter.

The vintage-but-fresh-again style of [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] & [name_m]Walter[/name_m] makes me think of Matilda, which could work with the NN Millie. [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] “Millie” is also lovely (I like this spelling best). [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] [name_f]Claire[/name_f] or [name_f]Matilda[/name_f] [name_f]Claire[/name_f] don’t sound overly [name_u]French[/name_u] to me.

I do think [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] & [name_u]Abby[/name_u] are a bit close, I’m sorry. :-/ What about [name_f]Claire[/name_f] Abigail?

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[name_f]Claris[/name_f] or Clariss, Millicent, Amilia, Amillie, [name_f]Milia[/name_f] or [name_f]Millia[/name_f] pronounced like Celia. Amilla.

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@dandy_orchid @anon73451839 @tori101 @kasatka @enwmn @TeaJay @AnandaWren @elva

Thank you for all of your condolences :bouquet:

I’m loving all of the input and suggestions! I’m still having a hard time picking something…probably because naming another possible baby is emotional for me and I just want to get it right. [name_m]Just[/name_m] for fun, what names would you suggest for me (boy and girl names) if you had not seen my potential list already and all that you knew was that my oldest is named [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] [name_f]Elaine[/name_f] and my second was [name_m]Walter[/name_m] “Wally” James? I’d like something that goes with both names (so it doesn’t feel like he’s left out) but also something that doesn’t sound odd with just Audrey…because soon people won’t know our family story. Thanks guys! This is so helpful!!

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If all your girl options I actually really like [name_f]Abigail[/name_f] nn [name_u]Abby[/name_u] with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and [name_u]Wally[/name_u] :heart_eyes: (look at that even all typed out they all have the y going for them which sure brings [name_u]Wally[/name_u] in. And on a full name they stylistically all have that vintage classic vibe going for it.

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@Alix2016
Thank you for pointing that out! What are your thoughts for [name_u]Max[/name_u] as a brother? Any other suggestions?

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Sure! I don’t think you can go wrong; whatever name your child winds up with will be the perfect name for them. For the record, I really like [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] with the sibset, though it does break my different initials desire, and I think [name_u]Maxwell[/name_u] would go slightly better with the sibset than just [name_u]Max[/name_u] (but I also like the idea of naming the child what you’re going to call them).

Off the top of my head, Audrey, Walter, and…

[name_f]Jacqueline[/name_f]
[name_f]Caroline[/name_f]
[name_f]Charlotte[/name_f]
[name_f]Isabel[/name_f]
Violet/Viola
[name_f]Lillian[/name_f]
[name_f]Lucille[/name_f]

[name_m]Hugh[/name_m]
[name_m]Peter[/name_m]
[name_u]George[/name_u]
[name_m]Henry[/name_m]
[name_m]Joseph[/name_m]
[name_m]Isaac[/name_m]
[name_m]Harris[/name_m]

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Hmmm I feel I went into my brainstorming trying to keep “Walter nn Wally” and mn “Arthur” at my forefront of thinking.

Where you were thinking of [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and Abigail. I thought all the lines of [name_m]Walter[/name_m] and another W for the boys…

Warren, Weston, Wyatt, [name_m]Wesley[/name_m] (may be too close to Wally), Woodrow, [name_m]Winston[/name_m]

Then if you wanted to keep up with the “y endings” in the fn
Calloway, Bentley, Colby, Finley, Henry, Zachary, Harvey, [name_u]Timothy[/name_u]

Then if instead like [name_m]Walter[/name_m] got shortened to [name_u]Wally[/name_u] Inthought of these that could also lead to nn’s ending in Y

Frederick, Edmund/ Edward/ Edwin, Theodore, Nicholas, Gideon, Daniel, [name_m]William[/name_m] ,Thomas, [name_m]Andrew[/name_m] , [name_m]Vincent[/name_m]

In terms of a [name_m]Walter[/name_m] honor I thought of [name_m]Broderick[/name_m] nn [name_m]Brody[/name_m] as it means “brother”

And just style wise for the sibset what came to
Mind was [name_m]Graham[/name_m] and [name_u]Oliver[/name_u]

ETA: as for [name_u]Max[/name_u] I like Max. Without knowledge of the last name I slightly prefer [name_u]Maxwell[/name_u] but think both options go with [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] but maybe [name_u]Max[/name_u] seems to go sightlymless with the sibset

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I’d probably go for Audrey, Walter and

Violet
Mabel
Harriet nn Hattie
Daphne
Margot
Esther
Elma
Tess
Olive
Maxine
Phoebe
Vera

Rufus
Edwin
Theodore
Ralph
Hank
Julian
Magnus

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It’s so understandable that names feel hard for you right now. Here are some combos I would choose for a sibling to [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] [name_f]Elaine[/name_f] and [name_m]Walter[/name_m] James:

[name_f]Matilda[/name_f] [name_f]Pearl[/name_f] “Millie” (I think this is perfect even without knowing your existing list!)
[name_f]Violet[/name_f] [name_f]Amelie[/name_f]
[name_u]Vivian[/name_u] [name_f]Iris[/name_f]
[name_f]Leonor[/name_f] [name_f]Adele[/name_f]
[name_f]Mabel[/name_f] [name_f]Victoria[/name_f]
[name_f]Flora[/name_f] [name_f]Maxine[/name_f]

[name_m]Rupert[/name_m] [name_m]Leo[/name_m]
[name_m]Bastian[/name_m] [name_m]Ansel[/name_m]
[name_m]Felix[/name_m] [name_m]Ambrose[/name_m]
[name_m]Theodore[/name_m] [name_u]Basil[/name_u] “Teddy”
[name_m]Edwin[/name_m] [name_m]Theodore[/name_m]
[name_u]Milo[/name_u] [name_u]Jasper[/name_u]

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So sorry for your loss.
I just wanted to add that
[name_f]Millicent[/name_f] could be an alternative to [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] if you liked the NN Millie. Audrey, [name_m]Walter[/name_m] and Millicent.

I think [name_u]Maxwell[/name_u] over [name_u]Max[/name_u] feels more cohesive with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] and Walters names. [name_u]Maxwell[/name_u] [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] sounds lovely. [name_u]Maxwell[/name_u] feels more complete than Max.