[name_m]Hi[/name_m] berries!
I was going through my list yesterday, reordering it. I was shocked to see some of my long time favorites, some even in my top ten, drop to the bottom of my list. I guess this is “falling out of love with a name”. I had [name_f]Adeline[/name_f] in my top ten, but now it is at the bottom of my list. Has this happened to you?
This happens to me a lot, and is the reason why my lists are always so long (currently my girls list is sitting at 123 names). I’ll have a favourite name, like [name_f]Florence[/name_f], and love it forever and hope and dream of one day having an adorable little pigtailed [name_f]Florence[/name_f] [name_f]Amelie[/name_f], and then that dream will slowly become less and less vivid, to the point where another name, like say, [name_f]Betsy[/name_f] has taken over, and so on and so forth. However, I’m still very attached to [name_f]Florence[/name_f] so refuse to remove it from the list, so she remains with other faded favourites, such as [name_f]Nancy[/name_f] and [name_f]Freya[/name_f]. It’s like one big vicious cycle for me
Yep, definitely has happened! We picked out [name_f]Cora[/name_f] for our baby before we found out the sex. Now I am really disenchanted with the name and don’t plan on using it on any future daughters!
Most of my old favourites are being used as middles, since the development of my 7 letter firsts rule. Some I haven’t even got as middles, mainly [name_f]Aurora[/name_f], [name_f]Theophania[/name_f] and [name_m]Alonso[/name_m]. And [name_m]Lorenzo[/name_m] keeps slipping down on my boys list. I always consider putting other names higher, and then I get an image of a playful little [name_m]Lorenzo[/name_m], and I feel bad. It’s probably a lot to do with the fact it used to be number 3 on my list, and now it’s down at 8.
That happens to me ALL the time! I had [name_u]Ellis[/name_u] as my number one for a while, and I watched it slip down to number 4…and then eventually, it just disappeared completely! Names are kind of like people in that way. You get so infatuated, and eventually, you realize they’re not as great as you thought they were. I miss the feeling I had with the name more than the name itself.
This happens to me quite often as well! For about a year, my favourite girls names was [name_f]Octavia[/name_f]. I couldn’t wait to one day have my own little [name_f]Octavia[/name_f]. Then all of a sudden, it was sinking lower and lower on my list until I took it off the list. However, she was back on within a month. These days, I want to like [name_f]Octavia[/name_f] more, but I have to admit she’s no longer one of my favourites. She’s currently a middle name on my list.
Eventually, this happens to all the names on my list. I’m okay with it; as my life experiences change, my lists changes with it.
I’ll be the first to admit that I am unapologetically fickle in life. This is especially true when it comes to names. A name can be my number one for years (in all honesty that should read days or weeks). I could swear on everything I hold dear in this world that if I have a child that will be their name. Then, one day it’s gone. Yeah, it’s a nice name just not one that I like all that much anymore. It’s frustrating in a way. I’d like to have a name that I love for years and years. I just don’t. It’s not how I work.
Yeah, just recently, actually! For a couple years [name_m]Asher[/name_m] nn [name_u]Ash[/name_u] has consistently been on my top 3. A couple months ago I was just thinking about my list and my true favorites, and I realized [name_m]Asher[/name_m] was one of my least favorites! It ended up being my LEAST favorite, and I just dropped it off, haha. [name_m]Asher[/name_m] is probably too close to [name_u]Ashley[/name_u], anyway, but I still do like it. Same thing happened with [name_m]Boaz[/name_m] nn [name_m]Beau[/name_m]/[name_u]Bo[/name_u], too, although he wasn’t ever that high up on my list. He might have been, though, if I could have found the right combo. I always seem to fall out of love with a name when I can’t come up with a combo I really love.
Yup, pretty often. I think it has got to be normal though, if you’re thinking about and talking about and imaging babies with your favourite names on a regular basis, you’re bound to get a bit bored especially on Nameberry with new suggestions/ideas all over the place.
It’s taken a while, but I’ve fallen mostly out of love with [name_f]Ophelia[/name_f], [name_f]Clara[/name_f], [name_f]Annabel[/name_f], [name_f]Iris[/name_f] and [name_f]Imogen[/name_f]. They were all my ‘original’ favourites, from before joining Nameberry (I was like, 12, at the very most - I’ve been here for some time now!) but don’t feel exciting anymore. Having said that, [name_f]Tallulah[/name_f], [name_f]Aoife[/name_f] and [name_f]Saffron[/name_f] where also all on the original favourites list and have returned this month. [name_f]My[/name_f] whole list is up in a spin pretty much constantly.
Yes- it makes me feel really guilty though. For years and years and years (since I was 6), I was convinced that my first baby girl was going to be named [name_u]Artemis[/name_u]. Up until about a 3 months ago. I still think it is beautiful, but it just doesn’t quite feel right any more. Kind of like people: you can appreciate the love and experiences you once shared with it, the way it made you feel. It is a reminder of who I was- that’s great, but I am different now. I can’t bring myself to really admit it though. Who knows? Maybe I will still use it and fall back in love, but I don’t love it the way I used to.
It does make me feel incredibly guilty though, like I’ve cheated on the name or something (I can hear it screaming:‘But you promised!’ Angry name.)
After reading a book last summer [name_f]Delphine[/name_f] (with the nn [name_f]Delphi[/name_f]) was riding high at the top of my list, but now the name barely even crosses my mind! I used to be obsessed with the safe and simple names such as [name_f]Jennifer[/name_f] and [name_f]Sarah[/name_f]. As lovely as they are, I think I’m starting to venture further with names like [name_f]Amelie[/name_f] creeping up my list! [name_u]Forever[/name_u] changing my mind
[name_u]Elliot[/name_u] has been my all time favourite boys name since I was about 5 or 6. At some point a while ago I kinda of fell out of love with it but I never let it move from the top of my list. I knew it was the name for my future son - I just had to wait a while for the love for the name to come back. It did.
I’m more lenient on my girl’s names, though. [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f] has been top for quite a few years now, but I don’t feel the same about [name_f]Rosalie[/name_f] as I do for [name_u]Elliot[/name_u]. If I decided not to use [name_f]Rose[/name_f], I’d be sad, but, hey, it’s just a name. [name_f]Evangeline[/name_f] is kinda sliding down now. I love the NN [name_f]Eva[/name_f], but it bothers me too much that it starts with the same letter as [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] (it’s nothing big, but it just… ugh.)
So yeah
This has happened to me for 20 years. I fall head over heels for a name, and I may actually love it for years, but it inevitably falls off my list of top favorites. Sometimes, they get bumped back up after enough time passes. I don’t really have an order to my top favorites, though. I tend to have tiers of a few names I’m super in love with and others that I love and others I really like.
Definitely and I think/hope that the ones which [name_m]DON[/name_m]'T ever disappear (after, say, 20 years) are the ones that it’s safe to call your child! So start making your lists early, kids
Yep I’ve noticed a lot of names will go from the top drop all the way to the bottom or off the list completely my list are always changing which is why their so long I’ve noticed the ones that really mean something to me are the only ones that don’t change