Have you ever had a naming change of heart?

General Name Discussion
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I had recently settled on a selection of favourite names, all in relatively the same style, and I genuinely thought I had found ‘my’ type of name. However, literally over the last 24hrs I’ve completely fallen in love with a new potential sibset that has a completely different feel!

My question to you guys- have you ever had a complete change of heart about your name selections, be they hypothetical or real?

Also I would love love love any feedback on the following names, either individually or as sibsets!
[name_f]Angelou[/name_f], [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m], [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] and [name_f]Genevieve[/name_f]
‘[name_f]Lulu[/name_f], [name_u]Dash[/name_u], [name_m]Link[/name_m] and [name_f]Gigi[/name_f]’
[name_f]Angelou[/name_f], [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m], [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] and [name_f]Isadora[/name_f]
‘[name_f]Lulu[/name_f], [name_u]Dash[/name_u], [name_m]Link[/name_m] and [name_f]Ida[/name_f]’
[name_f]Angelou[/name_f], [name_m]Dashiell[/name_m], [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] and [name_f]Seraphine[/name_f]
‘[name_f]Lulu[/name_f], [name_u]Dash[/name_u], [name_m]Link[/name_m] and [name_f]Effie[/name_f]’

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Yes, at least sort of.
I think very often, one is trying to accomplish a set of names or a combo to give off a certain vibe; they want them to feel earthy, bohemian, vintage, intelligent, aristocratic, exotic, etc.
So rather than looking for names you truly love, you are looking for names that fit “your” theme, that you like the imagery of, that sound like they belong to someone with the personality you’re looking for; often you crush hard on those names for a day or two or even a few weeks, you can absolutely see yourself using them, you start creating combos and sibsets but the love starts to wear off.
You think about those names getting more popular/mainstream, and suddenly they don’t have the desired feel/vibe anymore, the one thing that you really actually loved about those names is gone.

This happened to me quite a bit, sometimes it took me days, sometimes weeks or months to realise that loving them was an illusion, that I wanted to acquire a certain vibe with having them on my list.
I dropped this kind of behaviour as I view it as pretentious, not necessarily in the negative way that people usually use this word in, but as in creating an illusion, creating a vibe that you like but that doesn’t reflect who you are.

I do still care about names matching style-wise, just that vibe should reflect who I am. For example, me choosing boho names or nature names (River, Fern, Clover, Stone, etc.) wouldn’t represent me, I’d create an illusion.

I’m still working on not caring about popularity as to me it is part of finding a name you truly love rather than one that you love because of it’s uniqueness which one tv show, song or movie can “destroy” in a few weeks, but it’s so much easier when the names you love are already popular (like Emma or Henry, which I’d use regardless) then imagining how you’d feel bout them if you knew 10 other kids with the same name.
I think it’s important that one chooses a name for themselves rather than for other people commenting how “lovely” or “unique” the name is, the kid will be just as special if they’re named William as they will be named Cornelius.

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I completely agree with you @opheliaflora! I do find it very hard to see a name as just the name, and not the associations/popularity/imagery that surrounds it, but like you I am trying to appreciate a name for what it is itself. I also often find that the sibsets I admire in other people’s signatures are usually unexpected, where each name has its own style, and the names compliment each other rather than match each other. This is something I try to remember when I’m being obsessive about a name I love not ‘fitting in’.

On another note, I should have calcified that the names in the original post were the new names I am crushing on and not just a random list as it may seem! If only the edit feature was working again!