[i] We started thinking about names pretty much as soon as we found out I was expecting. People kept pressing to find out the name, and we decided to tell our parents after constant pestering. We told them we’ve decided on [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] with nn [name_m]Link[/name_m], and my mother’s reaction was “okay,” while my husband’s father’s reaction was “are you kidding on [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m]?”
We’ve really grown attached to the name. Are we crazy, or is it just one that has to grow on you?[/i]
This is why you should never tell family! we did this with our daughter and they ruined the name for us, we ended up choosing another name - which I [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] so it is ok! BUT we never told them the OTHER name as I learnt my lesson. Now expecting a boy and they are already asking, but we have told everyone we wont tell them the name until after its been given… ha!
so I say keep your name! if you love it that is all that matters. [name_m]Ive[/name_m] met many [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m]'s it is not a “too out there name” even slightly so I dont understand their reaction, really… taste in names is sooooo varied fr person to person!
[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t second guess yourself. Give them sometime to mull it over. My best friend went through this with her daughter. They had [name_f]Calla[/name_f] [name_f]Genevieve[/name_f] and [name_f]Brynn[/name_f] [name_f]Victoria[/name_f] picked out for their twins, beautiful names, but the family wasn’t a fan. They thought about changing them but decided that it was their choice and although it would be nice for the family to like the names it isn’t necessary.
If you truly love the name then no one else opinion should matter. Personally I find [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] to be so handsome! I think of the President and [name_m]Rhett[/name_m] from Gone With the Wind, which aren’t bad associations.
Stick with what you love. It’s a wonderful name! You would drive yourself crazy trying to come up with a name everyone in your family likes (particularly cross-generational taste), you really can’t please everybody, what’s important is you and your husband love it.
Congratulations on finding the name and best wishes with the rest of [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u]'s pregnancy!
I really like [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u], and [name_m]Link[/name_m] is a wonderful nickname! It’s hard to not have your parents be as excited about the name you’ve chosen as you are, but at the end of the day it’s your decision to make.
I love [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u]. It sounds great. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t worry too much about what your parents said. People have different preferences and once they meet him they will love him no matter his name.
[name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] is great. It’s pleasantly old-fashioned, classic, and sophisticated. Strong with a great namesake in [name_m]Abe[/name_m] [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m]. I would not have “meh’d” you if I’d been your family ;).
Stick with it. It’s a generational thing is my belief. My sister told my father my nephew’s name would be [name_u]Mason[/name_u] and he had a similar reaction. Now that [name_u]Mason[/name_u] nn Mase is here, it’s grown on him and he never complains about the name. Let them hem and haw and then fall in love with their grandson, [name_m]Link[/name_m] sounds like the perfect fit for your family.
I went through the same with my in laws. I kept the name and she is now 18 months old and am so glad I did:) they got to choose their own children’s names now it’s your turn! x
ps. [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] is a great name!
I think you should stick with what you love–I saw a previous post of yours, and you’ve obviously put a lot of thought and care into picking out this name!
[name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] and [name_u]Everett[/name_u] are both surnames turned first names–this is something that our generation doesn’t blink an eye at, but it may be a little unfamiliar to your parents’ generation. I’m sure they’ll get used to it, and most likely even start to love it (and they’ll surely love their grandson, regardless of his name!).
They’ll love it once they meet him. [name_m]Don[/name_m]‘t let your parents’ reactions bother you. Grandparents rarely like their grandchildren’s names at first.
I second this. My parents and S/O’s mother don’t necessarily (or won’t necessarily) like some of the names we like. It’s normally generational - but the names do grow on them once they meet their grandchild.
I’m sorry you are getting those reactions…[name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] is truly a great name! Try not to let them sway you. You guys chose that name for reasons personal to yourselves and they should have absolutely no say-so in naming your baby. It’d be one thing if they had a legitimate reason for not liking the name (like say they had a stillborn son named [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] that you didn’t know about), but just not liking it? They’ll have to get over it.
This. People won’t be so judgey when he’s born and you tell them. If you tell people beforehand, they all think they get to have some kind of opinion/input!!
For what it’s worth, I usually HATE surname names, but even I think that [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] is kind of cool.
I agree with all pps that you should stick with what you want. It is YOUR choice, not the previous generation’s choice. Also, once they meet him, it wouldn’t matter if he’s named Buckethead, they would love little Buckethead. We didn’t tell anyone before my son was born & even after he was born, the reactions ranged from great admiration to my mom going, “Okay. Where did that come from?” Her tone was really trying hard to be neutral, but she’s never said anything since, because guess what? She loves him!
Thank you all so much! You’re all reiterating what I knew in my heart, but it’s wonderful to have those words fed back to you when you need to hear them. My husband now worries about the first name [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m], but he’s completely comfortable with just switching the names to [name_u]Everett[/name_u] [name_m]Lincoln[/name_m] keeping through nn [name_m]Link[/name_m]. We’re still discussing this, but it was so helpful to be able to show him this thread when he started worrying that we were going to saddle our little nugget with some unwearable moniker.
I love your name choice! I especially love [name_u]Everett[/name_u], so if you’re thinking of switching it around (and keeping that adorable nn), it would still be so cute.
If you love the name, then use it. But this is one reason we are refusing to let anyone know what we plan to name the baby till birth. The other is we just don’t want to find ourselves changing our minds after telling everyone the name, lol! So we are waiting till birth.
