Our son was born two months ago and I am unsure we chose the correct name for him. We apprehensively decided on [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] in the hospital, but 8 weeks later it still doesn’t feel like it fits him.
Our other children are [name_f]Ava[/name_f], [name_f]Ella[/name_f] and [name_u]Max[/name_u] ([name_m]Maxwell[/name_m])
We chose [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m] (my maiden name as the middle name), but are considering other options.
[name_m]Henry[/name_m]
[name_m]Greyson[/name_m] (nn [name_u]Grey[/name_u])
[name_u]Tyler[/name_u] (nn [name_m]Ty[/name_m])
[name_m]Bennett[/name_m] or [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] (NN [name_m]Ben[/name_m] or [name_m]Benny[/name_m])
We would keep [name_m]Adams[/name_m] as the middle name.
Which do you like best? We are open to suggestions too.
I never had this feeing with my other children. It’s so frustrating and confusing to feel this way.
To be honest, [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] goes with your other kids names perfectly and the ones you suggested aren’t so mind shatteringly awesome that the change seems necessary. But [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] is the best one from your list. He’s baby number 4 and your second baby boy, everything is gonna seem old hat until he starts doing more stuff.
My favorite would be [name_m]Henry[/name_m] or [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m]. I think your son is young enough to where if you did change his name, there wouldn’t be a lot of confusion, so if it’s really bothering you that much, change it.
Thanks! That’s the problem, there is not a name I absolutely love. I like all of our choices (for different reasons), but nothing seems “just right”. Maybe we shall just stick with [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] and it’ll grow on me. I’ve given it 8 weeks, but [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] doesn’t seem right and nothing else is popping out as the perfect name.
I would change [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] to [name_m]Charles[/name_m]. [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] doesn’t feel like a proper name and [name_m]Charles[/name_m] fits perfectly with the names of your other children.
[name_m]How[/name_m] about [name_u]Chase[/name_u] or [name_m]Chance[/name_m]? Similar to [name_u]Charlie[/name_u]. Out of your options I really like [name_m]Greyson[/name_m].
[name_u]Charlie[/name_u] or [name_m]Charles[/name_m] really does fit perfectly with the others, but if you’re set on changing it, [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] is your best bet!
I like [name_m]Greyson[/name_m] and [name_u]Tyler[/name_u] best from your choices, and I also think one of the PP’s suggestion of [name_u]Chase[/name_u] would work too! Have you thought of using a nickname for [name_u]Charlie[/name_u]? I know it is already a nickname, but maybe [name_m]Chaz[/name_m] or [name_m]Chuck[/name_m] fit him better?
Other ideas: [name_m]Declan[/name_m], [name_u]Carter[/name_u], [name_u]Spencer[/name_u], [name_m]Christian[/name_m], or [name_m]Gabriel[/name_m]?
I can’t imagine changing a babies name after two months. I had a little regret after naming my son [name_u]Emmett[/name_u] for a week or two but that went away. I guess if it really didn’t feel right I might want to change it too!
Of your new options I really only like [name_m]Bennett[/name_m] with your other children’s names. I don’t like [name_m]Grayson[/name_m] but I do like just [name_u]Gray[/name_u] or maybe Grayer.
If I were you I wouldn’t be looking for advice on names at this point because you already have your baby. I would try out the names you love on him and if any stick I would change it. Otherwise I think [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] is a perfectly nice name and he will not be hindered in any way being named that. Try not to over think it. You have just been through an entire pregnancy, birth and two whole months being a new mom. Give yourself a break and don’t stress about it too much. Make it a happy experience or your going to end up resenting his name.
Sorry I don’t have much advice I just wanted to say I too am feeling the same way. I also have never felt like this with my other 2 children. My son is 2 1/2 months (his name is [name_m]Beau[/name_m]) and his name just doesn’t feel “right” either. I will say, it is getting a little bit better. Does your husband feel the same way? Because mine does not and I don’t think I could convince him to let me change it. We also picked his name quite abruptly in hospital so I don’t know if that has something to do with it? I am just hoping he will grow into his name and I will grow to love it. I hope you can have peace with your sons name which ever you decide too!
[name_u]Charlie[/name_u] is adorable! I think [name_f]Ava[/name_f], [name_f]Ella[/name_f], [name_u]Max[/name_u], and [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] is pretty much perfect, too. You said yourself that though [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] doesn’t feel like “it”, the others don’t, either, so I certainly wouldn’t go through the trouble of changing it if it didn’t feel just right. I agree with @alexandramae - I would keep trying out names until one fits, or just let him become a [name_u]Charlie[/name_u]. I’ve heard some people say it takes up to a year for a child to fit into their names, and if there’s nothing that seems perfect, I’m not sure there’s a ton of sense in changing it, if you’ll be just as disappointed with the new choice.
For what it’s worth, though, I like [name_m]Henry[/name_m] and [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] best, I think!
[name_f]Ava[/name_f], [name_f]Ella[/name_f], [name_u]Max[/name_u] and [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] is perfect!
The other names do not fit that well. Or maybe [name_m]Henry[/name_m] fits.
If you really want to change, I would go with [name_u]Grey[/name_u]. [name_u]Grey[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m] looks awesome.
I would pick a short, sunny, keen name.
What do you think of:
[name_m]Beau[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_u]Wren[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_u]Rhys[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_u]Theo[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Leopold[/name_m] ([name_m]Leo[/name_m]) [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Eli[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Elijah[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Eric[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Sol[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_u]James[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Tobias[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Anton[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_u]Jude[/name_u] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Martin[/name_m] [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
[name_m]Timothy[/name_m] ([name_m]Tim[/name_m]) [name_m]Adams[/name_m]
Thank you everyone! I really appreciate your help. I didn’t mention this before, but although [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] does sound great with my other children’s names, it’s also seems to be the name of every pet around us… my cousins cat, our neighbor’s dog (which they named after we named our son), my [name_m]SIL[/name_m]‘s hamster, etc. What I like about my first son’s name ([name_u]Max[/name_u]) is that it’s cute, but classic, masculine and strong. [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] looks exactly like [name_u]Max[/name_u] did as a baby and I think it’s making me feel as though his name doesn’t fit him because Charlie is too “cutsie” of a name. Our other kids’ names are so short and Charlie feels out of place in that regard. Also, my husband says [name_u]Charlie[/name_u] by pronouncing it “[name_f]Char[/name_f]-we” sometimes bc a slight speech issue he never fixed as a child (it’s not extremely noticeable to others, but he is self-conscience about it now).
Also, my father-in-law’s middle name is [name_m]Charles[/name_m]. I think that is what’s holding me back. I would feel like we are taking that away from my husband’s father, even though he would still carry on his last name. It’s so difficult! I never felt this way with my other three kiddos, not even for one second! [name_m]Henry[/name_m] was our second choice, but in my heart I think it was always my first choice. I’m really leaning toward [name_m]Henry[/name_m] or [name_m]Greyson[/name_m], but now my husband likes [name_u]Tyler[/name_u]. I agree though, if nothing seems perfect, why change it. So confused!
Thank you, I appreciate your comment and it’s comforting to know we aren’t the only ones that are experiencing this apprehension. I hope you also find peace with your son’s name as well!
I hope you also find peace with your son’s name as well!