Help Please!

I am expecting boy & girl twin in may, and my husband and i have just adopted today a little girl from BC, [name]Canada[/name]. I really wanted to adopt because I myself was adopted. My husband finally gave in. The little girl we have adopted is 1 and a half, and has blonde hair like myself. She also has blue eyes like me and my husband! We have her room done and ready, that is along with the twin’s because in a week our hands are gonna be completley full! We have a huge home, perfect for a big family which i have always dreamed of! We have a big basement, with 3 bathrooms in our home. Our kitchen is fairly large also, and we have 5 bedrooms/ nurseries in our home now, but we have enough room to have 2 more! The twins are not sharing a room, and neither is our adopted daughter. We have plently of room for toys too! Which name do you think we should choose for our daughter?

Other children: [name]Shayla[/name] [name]Toba[/name] [name]Adele[/name], Averik [name]Jacob[/name] [name]Brian[/name] or [name]Tiara[/name] [name]Ella[/name] [name]Colleen[/name], [name]Evan[/name] [name]Maverik[/name] [name]Kyle[/name]!

Please help! Her name now is [name]Arabella[/name] [name]Zoey[/name], but [name]Arabella[/name] is my niece, and [name]Isabella[/name] might be used for my niece on the other side of the family!

Open to all suggestions, and I have to have decided in 4 days!!! HELP!!!

Thanks so much,
and ask your friends for suggestions too please!!! :slight_smile:

XOX [name]Baby[/name] you light up my world like nobody else!

Sounds like you have a big house and want to fill it with little children. This sounds like loads of fun.

As for little Arabella, I think changing her name is ill-advised. She surely knows her own name by age one-and-a-half. She is going to change homes and caregivers, two months later she will have twin siblings that will divert attention from her, and you want to change her name? It is not her fault your niece is Arabella as well. This child’s emotional adjustment to her new family is so much more important than the decore of her room, the size of your home and how her name fits with your existing family. Try to put yourself in this young child’s place and make decisions that will ease her transition rather than cause more disruption than is already necessary. Consistency, predictability and unconditional love are important to a child’s mental health. She will be lacking in consistency and predictability durning her transisiton time. What is the message when you change a child’s name because it conflicts with a cousins? - Is she less important than the cousin? Does she have to change to fit in to your family?

I hope this does not sound to harsh, but I am concerned for the little one and the adjustment she must make.

Thanks Lynae,
I kind of agree with you. But [name]Arabella[/name] will be seeing her cousins [name]Isabella[/name] & [name]Arabella[/name] quite often. Maybe some name suggestions with a nickname of [name]Ari[/name] or [name]Bella[/name] would help because she never gets called [name]Arabella[/name] I was told, only [name]Ari[/name] or [name]Bella[/name]. Thanks for your help Lynae!

Maybe [name]Ariana[/name] [name]Bell[/name] would be a compromise. I would still leave it [name]Arabella[/name] and just call her [name]Ari[/name] or [name]Bella[/name]. What matters in terms of the mix up between cousins is what you say when you call her name and refer to her in the presence of the family, not what is written on paper. Changing her name legally is a loaded issue in my opinion. Later when she is grown up and discovers her name was changed by her adoptive parents she may not be so pleased. She may feel as though the only thing her biological parents gave to her was taken away by you. I know this sounds dramatic, but come on, you were adopted, you know how loaded these issues can be. Right?

Yeah, but I think we are gonna change her name to [name]Ariana[/name]! :slight_smile: She gets called [name]Ari[/name] a lot, and that is what she responds to… I was told her birth parents considered a lot of A names so [name]Ariana[/name] might have been one of them. I know [name]Ari[/name] will love her name and I can’t wait to see her tomorrow!!! :slight_smile: Wish me luck!!!

Why not just give her a middle name and over time adjust to just calling her by [name]Ari[/name] or her middle?

For example … say you added [name]Lola[/name] (not saying this is your style, it’s an example) [name]Arabella[/name] [name]Lola[/name] … start by calling her [name]Ari[/name] still, then [name]Ari[/name]-[name]Lola[/name], My little [name]Lola[/name], Lolabelle etc … until she is just used to being [name]Lola[/name] and thinks of it as a family pet name. [name]Arabella[/name] at school and on paper, [name]Lola[/name] when with family.

[name]Maddie[/name] congratulations on your babies. I see that you have already decided on [name]Shayla[/name] [name]Toba[/name] [name]Adele[/name] and Averik [name]Jacob[/name] [name]Brian[/name]. I am sorry to ask but are you sure that these are THE names for your children. I see some of the other nameberries were a little surprised by the choices too.

I think the combo of [name]Shayla[/name] [name]Adele[/name] is pretty enough but [name]Shayla[/name] does not feel like a name that will see a girl through from babyhood to grandmother, sorry. I like [name]Charlotte[/name], [name]Isla[/name], [name]Sheila[/name] more. I was wondering where you found [name]Toba[/name] is it a family name? If so then it is important to honour your family. I have never heard of the name before.

You were asking about [name]Maverick[/name] or [name]Maverik[/name] so I was surprised to see Averik a name that I have never heard of and I was wondering where it comes from. I am sorry if I sound critical but the first thing that crossed my mind was avarice, then I had another look at it and thought well it is not too bad but I like [name]Maverik[/name] more.

Honestly I just [name]Love[/name] [name]Arabella[/name] and I think that the combo of [name]Arabella[/name] [name]Zoey[/name] is gorgeous and I don’t think it matters at all that there is already an [name]Arabella[/name] in the family, it is a wonderful name.

I really feel that traditional names and they don’t have to be boring (take [name]Arabella[/name] as an example it is a superb name) are names that will stand the test of time and give your daughter a very classy and in the case of [name]Arabelle[/name] a sassy image.

For your son what about [name]Maverick[/name] [name]Jacoby[/name] [name]Brian[/name] or [name]Jacoby[/name] [name]Maverick[/name] [name]Brian[/name] with nn of [name]Koby[/name]?
For your daughter to get a more unique but modern name I think [name]Charlize[/name] [name]Toba[/name] [name]Adele[/name] would be sweet.

So, it was up to me I would leave your adopted child’s name as [name]Arabella[/name] nn of [name]Bella[/name]. I would probably name my other daughter [name]Charlotte[/name] with nn’s of [name]Lottie[/name] or [name]Charlie[/name] and I would name my son [name]Jacoby[/name] [name]Maverik[/name] [name]Brian[/name].

All the best and enjoy all the fun of having three beautiful children in your wonderful home.


I agree with many pp… I URGE you strongly to keep the name [name]Arabella[/name]. Not only is it a great name but she needs the emotional stability of at least her identity remaining intact.

Truthfully, I [name]LOVE[/name] the sound links between [name]Arabella[/name] and the mn [name]Adele[/name] with the “A” and “el” -it makes them such a pretty match for future sisters to share something special. [name]Arabella[/name] is popular in [name]Scotland[/name] and [name]Ireland[/name]- perhaps add a mn with a celtic feel for [name]Arabella[/name] and the name you love? [name]Arabella[/name] [name]Keeley[/name] [name]Toba[/name]?

With [name]Shayla[/name] you could use your other nm: [name]Shayla[/name] [name]Colleen[/name] [name]Adele[/name]. I love the name [name]Shayla[/name], it is very pretty and Irish.

Then your new family would all have an Irish flavour which makes them all link so well:
[name]Arabella[/name] [name]Keeley[/name] [name]Toba[/name] ([name]Ari[/name])
[name]Shayla[/name] [name]Colleen[/name] [name]Adele[/name] ([name]Shay[/name])
[name]Evan[/name] [name]Maverik[/name] [name]Kyle[/name]

Best of luck,

Something isn’t adding up here…

Let’s hope your right r_j.

Thanks once again, everyone!
I have decided to change her name, but not by much. She will be [name]Isabella[/name], and with the middles I need some suggestions from you all, so I will post another topic for that. [name]Arabella[/name] is sweet, but not much of my style. [name]Isabella[/name] is magical and gorgeous like [name]Shayla[/name].

Yes, [name]Toba[/name] is a family name. My middle is [name]Toba[/name], along with my Mother’s.
I was combining different names when I came up with Averik, now the more modern version of [name]Maverik[/name]!

Seems like [name]Kenzi[/name] has returned.