We found out yesterday we are having a girl! She will join big brother [name]Evan[/name] in [name]January[/name]. I have avoided talking about names much with my husband because it was a painful experience last time around. In most marital situations we get along great and rarely disagree, but when it comes to names, we don’t see eye to eye at all and I end up in tears everytime we try to talk about it.
Well, we had avoided the topic until last night, but that doesn’t mean I hadn’t spent hours upon hours on NB coming up with my list of potential names and falling in love with several of them. I show him the list and in 30 seconds he’s torn it to shreds and picks out 4 out of over 30 that he says “aren’t terrible”, but he doesn’t say he likes them either.
He agrees that we have different naming styles, but he will not make me a list! He says there is no point because we don’t like the same style, but I don’t know how to find a middle ground without knowing a range of what he likes, and I feel like I have exhausted my search for what I like. He says a list should only be 4 or 5 names max, but I like to start big then narrow it down through careful consideration, but he is a very black and white personality and makes a judgement and moves on.
So, maybe you can help figure out our middle ground for me and my stubborn but opinionated husband. I want us both to love, or at least really like the name.
Here are some of my favorites:
[name]Annelie[/name]/[name]Annalie[/name] (he says he likes the way it sounds but it looks funny on paper - like ‘anna’ ‘lie’ pn with a long I)
[name]Hadley[/name] (he used to say it was an old man name, but at least picked it as one of his 4 that wasn’t terrible)
[name]Molly[/name] (he says it’s a frumpy person’s name???)
[name]Tessa[/name] (don’t remember his comment)
I have many others. (the 4 he said weren’t terrible were [name]Hadley[/name], [name]Hailey[/name], [name]Natalie[/name], and [name]Mila[/name])
He did give me 3 names he likes:
[name]Jocelyn[/name] (I could grow to like this but our last name is [name]Johnson[/name], so this does not go at all, but he thinks it goes fine)
[name]Evelyn[/name] (he doesn’t see the problem that it is so close to [name]Evan[/name])
[name]Samantha[/name] (this is just blah to me and much to long for me)
I like shorter, less frilly, simple 2 syllable names, most that tend not to need a nn. He says he likes classic elegant sounding names that have a nn.
Sorry so long winded, just looking for a shoulder to cry on and some direction!