I’m conflicted. My cousin just had a baby and named him [name_m]Ryker[/name_m]. However, that was going to be the name of me and my husband’s second son who’s on his way. Should I keep the name, or opt to changing it so there is no confusion or conflict in my family? I need help. 
Before you give up a name you love, consider how often you see your cousin, and how much would they, and you, care that your boys share a name.
My cousin and I each delivered a [name_m]Henry[/name_m] within a month of one other, but it’s no big deal because I struggle to remember when I even saw her last.
[name_m]Ive[/name_m] heard many anecdotes of cousins sharing names, even cousins who see each other a lot, and it’s no issue.
For me…it’d be a deal breaker but like [name_u]Jo[/name_u] [name_u]Jo[/name_u] said…it really just depends on your personal preferences and situation.
A name is not owned by any certain person. If you love the name [name_m]Ryker[/name_m], use it. If someone gets upset that you name a child something your adore, it is their issue. I grow tired of hearing people on baby name forums talking about “stealing” names. If that were the actual case so many people would be jailed. Everyone can name their child anything they want except for what is not allowed by law where they live.
Haha! I love it - so true!!
For me, it would depend on how much we saw the cousin and her son. If they lived in the same town or close by & were a regular part of our daily life and the kids would probably by close friends, then no. If we were not close and rarely saw eachother, I would probably use it!
I agree with others, use it if you love it. I may use a name that my cousin used with her DC 6 years ago. But in that 6 years, I’ve seen cousin twice. I’m not going to not use a name because of that!
I’m different. I would not be able to name my child the same as someone else in my family and I would be pretty peeved if someone did that to me.
For me, I wouldn’t use it.
But, how often would the cousins be together? Are you close with that family? I think there are situations where you could still use the name.
I think that there are SO MANY names that I love, that I would look at it as an opportunity to choose something else from my list.
My brother and our cousin share a name. They are close in age and are close with each other and it’s never been much of an issue. I say if you love the name use it. If you are close with your cousin maybe mention to her that you had already planned on using the name as well and are going to use it anyway.
Thank you all for your advice. My husband and I have decided to change the name. Luckily we both like the name [name_u]Spencer[/name_u] as well 
Better to change it then to listen to the nonsensical drama that may occur from the baby’s name.
I agree with @jojo - there is a lot of variables that could determine whether you change or keep the name… I have two cousin [name_u]Michael[/name_u]'s - no one cares that they have the same name. They are like 10 years apart in age anyway, and only see each other like every 5 years, so it doesn’t really affect anything.