Hesitant To Use Name Because Of Conflict: Suggestions Needed!

Boy Names
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I’m afraid that I may have to give up my favorite name because of the potential conflict of my sister wanting to use it too. I’ll post the thread for anyone who wants background info below.

The name I might end up having to ditch is my all time favorite [name_u]James[/name_u]. :frowning:

When I have a son I will be using two middle names and the second middle will be [name_m]King[/name_m]. My favorite boy names: [name_m]Michael[/name_m], [name_u]James[/name_u] & [name_m]Henry[/name_m],

This is my long list of names I prefer for middles:
[name_m]Elijah[/name_m], [name_m]Alaric[/name_m], [name_m]Perseus[/name_m], [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m], [name_m]Walter[/name_m], [name_m]Simon[/name_m], [name_m]Alexander[/name_m], [name_m]Thomas[/name_m], [name_m]Jeremiah[/name_m], [name_m]Julian[/name_m], [name_u]Emmett[/name_u], [name_m]Conrad[/name_m], [name_m]David[/name_m], [name_m]Gideon[/name_m], [name_m]Lucian[/name_m], [name_m]Malcolm[/name_m] and [name_m]Truman[/name_m]

The bolded are my favorite middle names. As you can see I like a decent amount of boy names, but I am really picky with the name I like for a first name. I love them, but not enough to use in the first name spot. So here comes the challenge for you all.

Can you suggestion names that I might love enough to use in the first place?

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So much bold! :stuck_out_tongue:

I read the other thread. If you’re having babies first, then you get the name. It doesn’t matter if she calls it or not. She doesn’t own the name [name_u]James[/name_u]. You should use it if you love it and it has meaning. You even said “She doesn’t love it but she’d use it anyway.” You love it and if you have a boy first, you get to use it. Simple as that. Besides, it wouldn’t kill cousins of different ages with different last names to share such a common name. It’s not like you both like [name_m]Leonidas[/name_m] and both used it. That would be weird.

Anyway though, here’s some you might like:

[name_m]David[/name_m]
[name_m]Matthew[/name_m]
[name_m]Joseph[/name_m]
[name_m]William[/name_m]
[name_m]Geoffrey[/name_m]
[name_m]Edmund[/name_m]
[name_m]Jack[/name_m]
[name_m]Benjamin[/name_m]
[name_m]Nathan[/name_m]/[name_m]Nathaniel[/name_m]
[name_m]Brendan[/name_m]
[name_m]Richard[/name_m]
[name_m]Mark[/name_m]
[name_m]Alexander[/name_m]
[name_m]Ronald[/name_m]
[name_m]Roland[/name_m]
[name_m]Lewis[/name_m]
[name_m]Sebastian[/name_m]
[name_m]Walter[/name_m]
[name_m]Arthur[/name_m]
[name_m]George[/name_m]
[name_m]Oliver[/name_m]
[name_u]Elliott[/name_u]
[name_m]Samuel[/name_m]
[name_m]Truman[/name_m]
[name_m]Theodore[/name_m]
[name_m]Edwin[/name_m]
[name_m]Milo[/name_m]
[name_m]Miles[/name_m]

[name_f]Do[/name_f] you like any?

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[name_m]Truman[/name_m], [name_m]Walter[/name_m], [name_m]Sebastian[/name_m], [name_m]David[/name_m] and [name_m]Alexander[/name_m] are names I do love, but I’m not sure if I’d use them as a first name. I don’t know I might just begin to like them as first names when I have a son. I love the nickname [name_u]Teddy[/name_u], but I really don’t like [name_m]Theodore[/name_m] which sucks for me. :frowning:

I can’t believe I forgot [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] and [name_m]Edwin[/name_m]. [name_m]Oliver[/name_m] used to be on my favorites list a long time ago until I stopped liking it after I heard some negative feedback about it from family. I still love it and don’t care what my family think of it anymore. I’m definitely adding that one back on my longer list. I like [name_m]Arthur[/name_m], but mostly because I could get the nickname [name_u]Ari[/name_u] out of it. I like [name_m]Edwin[/name_m], but I can’t use it due to negative connections.

By the way your daughter name is gorgeous! I wish I had the courage to use the greek names I like in the first place spot.
[name_m]How[/name_m] do you pronounce [name_f]Elysia[/name_f]?

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I saw on here once that [name_u]Teddy[/name_u] could be a nickname for [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] because of the bear meaning. [name_f]Do[/name_f] you like that?

[name_f]Elysia[/name_f] is eh-lee-see-ah. It’s from Elysian as in the place in the Underworld where the blessed of the gods go in death. So [name_f]Elysia[/name_f] means “blessed”.

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I don’t want to use [name_m]Arthur[/name_m] just to get nicknames out of it. :frowning:

I have a lot of other nicknames I love along with the full names so I’m fine without some away. I hate being so picky, but at least I’ll know my future children will have names I put a lot of thought into and loved.

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I would love to hear more suggestions please!

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I like [name_u]Teddy[/name_u] it’s on my list, in the UK it can be short for [name_m]Edward[/name_m] :slight_smile:

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[name_m]How[/name_m] far off in the future is having children for you? Is it worth worrying about just yet? Things can change maybe your partner or hers will veto [name_u]James[/name_u] anyway.

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Use it. No one “owns” a name. You said that you guys live in separate states so with distance, and different middle and last names go for it. It sucks when people “steal” names and then act silly over it.

With my first child we were considering [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]-[name_m]Isaac[/name_m] as a baby boy name and baby’s dad’s best friend named their kid [name_m]Isaak[/name_m] [name_m]David[/name_m]. I would’ve still used it because they’re not same name and I had our baby first but yeah, it sucked they stole our names. We ended up having a girl (Avila [name_f]Ireland[/name_f]-[name_f]Nicole[/name_f]) anyway so it’s whatever. Same friends used the name [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] (except spelled it “Amellia”) after hearing it make our short list for our second baby. Luckily it got vetoed for [name_f]Iris[/name_f] so it doesn’t matter but if I loved it I would’ve used it anyway. I like [name_f]Iris[/name_f] a lot better with Avila than [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] anyway. lol

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My impressions of your favorite boys names are that they are all strong, masculine, classic name that has been around for a long time (and will most likely continue to be around for a long time), and will fit in and be recognized many places. Here are some other names that fit the bill:

[name_m]William[/name_m], [name_m]Jacob[/name_m], [name_m]Charles[/name_m], [name_m]Steven[/name_m]/[name_m]Stephen[/name_m]/[name_m]Steve[/name_m], [name_m]Scott[/name_m], [name_m]Brian[/name_m]/[name_m]Bryan[/name_m], [name_m]John[/name_m]/[name_m]Jonathon[/name_m], [name_m]Luke[/name_m]/[name_m]Lucas[/name_m], [name_m]Peter[/name_m], [name_m]Timothy[/name_m], [name_m]Joseph[/name_m], [name_m]Samuel[/name_m], [name_m]Daniel[/name_m], [name_u]Owen[/name_u], [name_m]Jacob[/name_m], [name_m]Joshua[/name_m], [name_m]Ethan[/name_m], [name_m]Adam[/name_m], [name_m]Louis[/name_m]/[name_m]Lewis[/name_m], [name_u]Jude[/name_u], [name_m]Joel[/name_m], [name_u]Seth[/name_u], [name_m]Patrick[/name_m], [name_m]Hugo[/name_m], [name_m]Ewan[/name_m]/[name_m]Ewen[/name_m]/[name_m]Euan[/name_m], [name_u]Ryan[/name_u], [name_m]Phillip[/name_m]/[name_m]Philip[/name_m], [name_m]Jason[/name_m], [name_m]Jonah[/name_m], [name_m]Miles[/name_m], [name_m]Milo[/name_m], [name_m]Alan[/name_m], [name_m]Travis[/name_m], [name_m]Martin[/name_m]

I could make a case for any of the above names, but it doesn’t matter what I say. I suggest that you give any name that doesn’t give you an immediate negative response a good thinking through (including saying the name aloud, saying some combos with the name aloud, look into the history of the name, and find some people who have the name -past or poten present- and see how they have carried it).

Best of luck with it.

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THank you so much!

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My answer would really depend on whether you are pregnant (or your sister is?), or a 20 year -old having theoritical discussions.

If you’re about to give birth, and BEFORE your sister, the name is yours!
If she’s about to give birth, the choice is hers.

My advice, either way, is NOT to commit too hard to any name before you see your baby.
I had a list of 5 great names, not one of which I could use when I gave birth the 1st time.
With my second baby, I was smarter, and waited a few days.
I can tell you story after story of women with “name regret” for committing too soon, or changing their minds after giving birth.

You are naming a human being, give him a chance to look you in the eye… keep an ongoing list and hope for the best!

Good luck!

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I also agree that your sister doesn’t own the [name_u]James[/name_u] name either. Like the other posters have said; if your son comes first, then use it!! My sister and I are going through something similar. I’m pregnant now, but don’t know the gender yet. We both want [name_m]Nathan[/name_m] for our own sons’ name. Rest assured though, if mine is a boy now, then [name_m]Nathan[/name_m] it is!!!

For whatever reason though, if you don’t use [name_u]James[/name_u], I like alternates such as: [name_m]Charles[/name_m], [name_m]David[/name_m], [name_m]John[/name_m], [name_m]Patrick[/name_m], and [name_m]Benjamin[/name_m].

Good luck- be strong!

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My first thought when I read your names was [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_m]Alexander[/name_m] [name_m]King[/name_m] _. I have 101 relatives named [name_u]James[/name_u] in my family tree so I named my son [name_m]Jamin[/name_m]. I only know two others and would not be offended if you used it. But on the other hand, if you really, really love [name_u]James[/name_u], and it has been your name for a while, then by all means, use it. My cousins were pregnant at the same time and both loved the name [name_u]Haley[/name_u]. [name_f]Nicole[/name_f] had her baby first, named her [name_u]Haley[/name_u] [name_f]Autumn[/name_f]. [name_f]Melanie[/name_f] named her daughter [name_f]Kaylee[/name_f] [name_f]Nicole[/name_f]. No hard feelings, what so ever. I predict once both babies, whatever their names end up being, arrive into the family will be loved as individuals. All preferences in the past.

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If you want to name your son [name_u]James[/name_u], name him [name_u]James[/name_u]. It’s a good strong classic name. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if your sister names her son [name_u]James[/name_u] also, unless you live next door to each other what does it matter And even then, there are nicknames. [name_m]Jimmy[/name_m], [name_u]Jamie[/name_u], or even the formal [name_u]James[/name_u].

It’s not as though it’s a trendy name. I have a friend who is from a huge Irish Catholic family, as is her husband. [name_f]Every[/name_f] one of those siblings and their spouses named one of their sons, [name_u]Ryan[/name_u]. And then they bickered over it. It’s not as though it was a family name that was honoring someone. Or that there aren’t plenty of Irish names to use.

Use [name_u]James[/name_u].

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I would agree that with the name [name_u]James[/name_u], whoever has babies first gets it. I mean, if she had loved [name_m]Atticus[/name_m] since she read To Kill a Mockingbird when she was 14 and you named your son [name_m]Atticus[/name_m], that’s a jerk move. But I don’t think you get to claim ownership to [name_u]James[/name_u] (or [name_m]Michael[/name_m], [name_m]John[/name_m] or [name_m]William[/name_m] for that matter) It’s like saying you want to get married in a white dress with roses as a bouquet and anyone else who does that ahead of you is copying your plan.

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I’m not putting a claim on [name_u]James[/name_u]. :confused:

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[name_m]Anthony[/name_m], [name_m]Arthur[/name_m], [name_m]Charles[/name_m], [name_m]Edward[/name_m], [name_m]Frederick[/name_m], [name_m]George[/name_m], [name_m]John[/name_m], [name_m]Louis[/name_m], [name_m]Nicholas[/name_m], [name_m]Patrick[/name_m], [name_m]Peter[/name_m], [name_m]Philip[/name_m], [name_m]Theodore[/name_m], [name_m]William[/name_m]

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I just found this post and would have suggested names already put forward, which I think are in the same sort of vein of classical, strong male names. I can only think of a few others at the moment:

[name_m]Andrew[/name_m]
[name_m]Simon[/name_m]
[name_m]Desmond[/name_m]
[name_m]Gavin[/name_m]
[name_m]Martin[/name_m]
[name_m]Griffin[/name_m]
[name_m]Ross[/name_m]
[name_m]Adrian[/name_m]
[name_u]Evan[/name_u]
[name_m]Oscar[/name_m]
[name_m]Mitchell[/name_m]

Good luck finding the right combination!

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my older brother and i both like the name [name_u]Owen[/name_u]. but whoever has a boy first gets to use it. i agree with above posters, she doesnt own the name.