Now that I am having my 3rd child, second son I really would like to name him after someone important to me. My DS is named [name]Jack[/name] [name]Louis[/name], [name]Louis[/name] being the middle name passed on to 4 generations (from DH’s great grandfather [name]Luigi[/name]). My DD is named [name]Claire[/name] [name]Bonnie[/name], [name]Claire[/name] meaning Clear/Pure the same meaning as my mother [name]Cathy[/name] and [name]Bonnie[/name] for my [name]MIL[/name] who died just before I got pregnant.
My issue is the only people men in my family I really have any interest in honoring are my father and grandfather. But my sister named her first son [name]Sean[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] after my grandfather [name]Tony[/name] and her second son [name]Aiden[/name] [name]Bruce[/name] after my dad [name]Bruce[/name] already, they are 12 and 10 respectively. I have a terrible relationship with my sister so I really dont care what she thinks but would it be weird that my son also had the middle name [name]Anthony[/name]? I think my nephew would think it is cool but I would ask him if it bothered him.
I just had a very special bond with my grandfather and I think [name]Anthony[/name] also flows well with the few names DH and I agree on – [name]Max[/name], [name]Luke[/name] and [name]Benjamin[/name] so far – and feel like I need to give him a middle name after someone important like his siblings than just a nice name. Would love any input.
I think cousins sharing a middle name is totally fine (esp. since you’ll ask your nephew if it bothers him). Your sister had her relationship with your grandfather, and you had yours. You can each honor it with the name–and esp. since it’d be in the middle for both, I really don’t think it’s a big deal. I wouldn’t worry about it. Use [name]Anthony[/name].
I love [name]Luke[/name] [name]Anthony[/name]! [name]Jack[/name] [name]Louis[/name], [name]Claire[/name] [name]Bonnie[/name], and [name]Luke[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] would make great siblings. I agree that since you and your sister both had a relationship with your grandfather you can both use the name (and it helps you don’t care what she thinks!). I plan on honoring my grandmother with my kids’ names and I’m sure one of my cousins will want to do the same, but I don’t care.
If your nephew doesn’t mind sharing his middle name, go for it!
Oh my dad’s middle name is [name]Bernard[/name] which matched with our last name [name]Friedman[/name] sounds just to old man to me. My grandfather didnt have a middle name, just [name]Anthony[/name].
No, I don’t think it is weird at all. It’s a family name and he’s your grandfather, therefore you can use the name and honour him if you want to. I agree that [name]Max[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] and [name]Luke[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] sound lovely. I wouldn’t be worried about asking your nephew either. It is only your child’s middle name and if you want to use [name]Anthony[/name] then go for it.
Also, just to add I think [name]Jack[/name], [name]Claire[/name] and [name]Max[/name] go perfectly together.
I agree with all here and in your shoes wouldn’t ask the cousin, just tell if there were a logical moment and explain the rationale. And if he reacted really horribly or something, maybe I’d reconsider, maybe I wouldn’t.
If you do ask him and he is bothered, I think [name]Antonio[/name] or [name]Anton[/name] could work well. I hope you find a way to honor that works well for you!
[name]Luke[/name] [name]Anthony[/name] is just perfect with [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Claire[/name]! I agree with the other posters - use [name]Anthony[/name]. In my family, most of the girls for 4 generations have had the same middle name - C/[name]Katherine[/name]. It is a wonderful tradition!
I actually share a MN with my cousin and we never really think about it, although our MN is not through a family connection (I’m after my mom’s friend and my cousin’s name just sounds nice that way). I think that it’s great that you are going to ask your nephew and I think his opinion on the matter is really the only important one.
my brother shares his middle name with my dad, grampa, and several first cosins all named after grampa. on that side of the family there are also several girl cosins with my grama’s middle name. It’s never been a problem. go for it
