Would it be strange to honour your brother and not the babies father?
I have two boys, neither of them have their fathers names as a middle name. If I had a third I like the idea of using [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] as a middle name. [name_f]My[/name_f] brother is [name_m]Samuel[/name_m]? Would this be odd?
i don’t think that’s weird at all! [name_f]Lot[/name_f]’s of people use honour names to honour grandparents, siblings, aunts and uncles etc and don’t necessarily honour the baby’s parent in anyway. [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] is lovely and a great way to honour your brother :))
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It wouldn’t be unusual. Many couples will honor family members they hold in high regard without using their own names.
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I don’t think its strange
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I think it’s completely fine.
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I think what I am trying to say is father is not honoured at all lol. And this is with a third boy ( so would that seem odd)
Ok 
Thanks
I don’t think it’s weird. Especially since they are best friends. Neither of our boys are named after their father (although one shares a first initial). They are named after grandfathers.
FIL had two sons and neither of them are named after him either. They have middle names after family friends.
I thought about this if we have a third son but I’m not sure either. DH doesn’t really care as his name isn’t his favorite so we’ll probably go with whatever we like best.
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Totally normal - I actually find the practice of fathers passing their own names off to their sons kind of weird. For one thing, sons usually already have their father’s surname, so you can count that as an honour name if you like. For another, mothers never seem to pass their names on and I really hate this kind of imbalance between men and women. I say definitely use the middle spot to honour your brother!
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Not odd. I’d think it would be odd if other 2 had honor names and then you didn’t give an honor name for the third… but you are giving an honor name just not the dad’s!
We had 3 boys and gave other family’s names as honor middle names for first 2. Ended up using my husband’s name as a middle on the third but only because we already used all the other honor names we wanted on the first 2! Good luck!
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You are totally on point!
Thanks all you’ve really encouraged me to use [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] which I think is what I would use if we used the name [name_m]Reuben[/name_m].
My logic with honor names is that mom and dad are already going to be the most prominent figures for a good portion of a person’s life, and that is enough honor for a lifetime, so it makes more sense to honor someone who is still special but not number 1…that and the superstition that it is bad luck to name a child after someone who is still alive 
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I feel honor names should be reserved for other family members and not the parents unless there’s a specific reason. When your boys have kids, they can use your husband’s name as an honor name.
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Not at all odd! [name_f]Honour[/name_f] who you want to honour 
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I think it’s fine and totally not strange. You can honor anyone you want to. You don’t have to honor the father.
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This is the first I’ve heard of that. I wonder why it would be bad luck. 
[name_f]My[/name_f] brother is only 27 so certainly still alive.
I think it’s fine. With my first baby I chose to honour my favourite uncle (who had died years before and had no children of his own) instead of the baby’s father. With my second we did use his name, but only because I thought it was cool that he’s like one of three generations, and I personally like the name anyway. Otherwise we wouldn’t have done it. He gave me the option with our daughter of using my name and I passed to use my favourites instead. Why waste a name! 
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I think it’s completely fine, no one would think twice about it.
What does your partner think about this? Does he have hurt feelings about it? Does your worry really project his emotions about naming like this? Are you or her concerned about it?
[name_m]Just[/name_m] a thought.
No I don’t think it would be weird. Especially with a name with [name_m]Samuel[/name_m] which is quite common.
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