I am so indecisive about this bubba’s name and it’s driving me crazy! My favourite changes everyday!!
With my son we had one girl’s name and one boys name so it was easy. With my daughter we had 3 boys names and two girls but one preferred so that again was easy.
This time round we have lots of names we like but our fave keep changing, I am worried about making the wrong decision once baby is here. Should we pick one or two and stick with them or wait and see if one suits her?
I would wait to see what suits her but for your wellbeing, maybe try to get a list of 5-7 that you take into the hospital. I did that after having 3 faves throughout the pregnancy. The name we chose was a name I heard someone use about a week before she was born. So, try to enjoy the process. If you have a handful you really like, none that burden the child, you can’t really get it wrong!
I don’t know how much time you have left in your pregnancy, but what I would do is let the numbers speak for themselves. Once a day with your partner record which name you favor that day, then after a couple of weeks you will be able to see which ones actually stand out as ones you keep coming back to amidst all of the mind changing. Until the baby is here I would try not to worry about not having a favorite name and enjoy the time of not knowing!
I agree with eloiset that taking a few names to the hospital is a great option and you might have a a feeling once you meet your little girl. In any case I’m sure she will love hearing about this process as she grows up. It’s part of her story already.
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There is no right answer. You have to do what is comfortable for you. If you’re more comfortable meeting baby to decide which favorite fits, go for it! If the thought of picking when you meet her makes you scared that it won’t be obvious and you’ll pick wrong, then try to decide now.
I’ve found that organizing names with pros and cons lists have helped me. [name_m]Just[/name_m] getting my thoughts on paper helps me sort through what pros and cons I consider important and which I don’t. For example I love the name [name_m]Seamus[/name_m] for a lot of reasons, but where I live most people screw up the spelling and pronunciation. And when I wrote that on the con list and compared it to the cons of my other front runner names, I realized that bothered me personally a lot more then the other name’s cons (which were things like 2 syllable ending in N like most boy names these days.)
I pick a most likely name ahead of time. For 2 reasons. The thought of having a list of 20 names in front of me after having a child and needing to determine which fits best gives me anxiety. It’s fun to some people. For me, it feels like a lot of pressure! 2. I like calling the baby by name. It helps me feel connected. However, I always reserve the right for my husband and I to change our minds. I tell people it’s our front runner name but we don’t want anything personalized just in case. I’m open to the possibility that the baby may come out and make me look at my organized pro and con lists differently as a name different from my front runner may feel right. I just don’t want to bank on that happening.
Really, so long as they are all names that will serve her well throughout all stages of life, you can’t go wrong. So try not to put too much pressure on it and enjoy choosing a name rather than scaring yourself into thinking there’s only one perfect choice out there. Good luck.