[name_m]Hi[/name_m] all:
While we are not pregnant, my husband and I talk about baby names often. We have yet to come across anything we agree upon. I find it incredibly frustrating, especially because I’m one of those woman who think that because the woman does all the work, her vote should count a little bit more!! I am wondering how others overcame their name disagreements, who ending up conceding to who, why and how. We need to start finding some middle ground or my pregnancies will be full of fights!
Thanks all, look forward to hearing from you!
My husband always says “You pick the name” and refuses to give in-depth comments. It’s always “Whatever.”
So I tell him “Fine, I’ll name it [insert name he really hates]” and that makes him alert enough to talk about my list. He really hates [name_f]Saskia[/name_f] because that’s all I could talk about for at least a month, and he thinks I’m serious that I would name a daughter [name_f]Saskia[/name_f], so in an effort to change my mind he’ll respond to which names he really does like or could settle for.
To be a good parent, you’ve got to be an even better spouse. Communicate with instead of at each other. A therapist who specializes in couples counseling could be mediate between the two of you. There are bigger concerns than naming. If all else fails, name them [name_m]John[/name_m] or [name_f]Mary[/name_f] or even after your in-laws/their grandparents.
My husband and I are currently TTC, but have talked about baby names quite a bit.
We both made list of our top five favorites, and then I picked my favorite one from his lists, and he did the same from mine.
In the end we were able to decide pretty quickly when there were only two names for each gender.
Neither of us picked the others all time favorite, but we’re both extremely satisfied with our choices.
If we wouldn’t have been able to decide from the two, we were going to each make a formal presentation as a case for our name.
Thank you ksilvia! Good idea, and I am a list maker! We tossed around the idea of him having total name control if it was a boy and me if it was a girl, but I haven’t committed to that yet, some of his names scare me!!
I’ll put the list plan into action, thanks!
What about you compiling a list of your favourites, and he is not allowed to remove any without replacing them with a name of his choice? It might be a good place to start, and you can carry on from there. Good luck!
Also a great idea, thanks!