How long did you wait to, you know...do it?

Pretty personal question, but I figured in honor of Vday and my 6 wk check up just a few days from now…

I know some people who didn’t wait for the 6 wk check-up which seems crazy to me cause I kinda never want to do it again!

Honestly? It was a couple of months! Between round-the-clock breastfeeding (I was just wiped out!) and my husband on night shift, there wasn’t a lot of romance in the air!

Edit: My sister got pregnant (again) when her first child was ONE MONTH OLD. It still shocks me and these kids are in their early 20s now. lol

Thank you for your answer! So many people viewed this, but you are the only one who answered! And you made me feel better about not feeling ready just yet!

I was just shy of six weeks. Frankly, it wasn’t fun. It was at least another six weeks before any further attempts were made.

I think I would have been happy waiting a solid year. :slight_smile:

With my first (hospital birth) I waited the obligatory 6 weeks after my OB gave me the go-ahead. With my 2nd (homebirth), I waited about 4 weeks. With my 3rd (homebirth) I waited about 3 weeks.

We waited the obligatory 6 weeks after my first also. Like a few others mentioned, it was not comfortable. [name]Even[/name] if you have never had a need for it in the past or ever dreamed of a need… lube. It’s necessary. Things just change after birth- no easy way to say it! It is also rather hard being in the mood with all your mommy duties, but I believe it’s really important to make time for your relationship in this way- it helps your sanity! (and DH’s too)

After #2 and the twins, we waited about 4 weeks. We were both ready and didn’t see the need to wait for the official “ok” from my OB/Midwife.

I know we were quickly approaching the 6 wk mark when we tried. …It hurt!!! I only had 1 tiny tear (my dr called it a scratch) and I know it was healed, but I was still sore and we stopped before getting very far. It was probably 2-3 more weeks before we tried again, and could actually ‘do it’.

We waited 6mos with our eldest. 5 weeks with our youngest. I lost the will to do “it” after our eldest, but I couldn’t wait for our intimate life to return to normal after our baby.
No matter how long you wait, be sure that you’re confidant and comfortable. Good luck!

I’m remembering 6…8…10…maybe even 12 weeks…it’s kinda sore for awhile there. But we found ways to be intimate without necessarily doing “it” within a couple of weeks, and hubby seems to appreciate that. I agree with pp, confident and comfortable is good advice. Congratulations on your new little one!

Thank you for all of the responses! Good to hear that it’s different for everyone…and I am not quite there yet with feeling ready!