I am trying to decide whether I should use one or two middle names in my girl name combos. My boy name combos have one middle name each but then I have trouble finding boy names I actually like. On the other hand I like way to many girl names.
So my dilemma is whether to have one or two middles. If say I had one son and one daughter do you think my son might feel left out at only having one middle name where as my daughter have two middle names?
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you think I am over thinking things? I want to decide one or two middle names before I make any more name combos for either gender. So what would you do?
I’ve never cared for more than one middle name. It just starts to sound like too much.
[name_m]Even[/name_m] though my hubby has talked me into it, if we ever have a boy, to keep his family tradition of his father’s first name as our child’s middle name. That way we still get to pick our own middle name but can still honor the tradition. I’m not thrilled but I’ll compromise.
Some of them are pretty, but then others… it just reminds me of [name_m]Esteban[/name_m] [name_m]Julio[/name_m] [name_m]Richardo[/name_m] Montoya De La [name_f]Rosa[/name_f] [name_m]Ramirez[/name_m]
I personally prefer just one middle, but if you like enough girls names and enjoy 2 middle combos, go for it. I don’t think it would be odd or lead to upset if a son only had one
Yes, you are probably overthinking it, but we’ve all been in your shoes! I would say go with your gut, I’ve never heard of siblings resenting difference in middle names/sharing middle names/having the same letter for first names, etc.
I prefer two middle names because then I can include family names and names I really love. Both my mum and my sister are the only ones out of three with two middle names, and it’s never been mentioned or seen as weird. Go with whichever you like best
I personally prefer just one middle name, because where I’m from a middle name is more like a second first name. Not that there’s anything wrong with two middle names.
I don’t think it matters much if one of your children has two middle names and the other child just one. I doubt it would ever even come up. Not weird at all.
I dont think it’s a big deal if one in two or three kids has one more or less than the others. My dad has one middle, his brother has none. My uncle’s eldest son has two, while his two other children have one. I also have a friend d who has one middle name, along with her older brother, while the younger brother has two.
If you were to have three girls and a boy, I would probably give the boy two middle names to fit in at that point. [name_m]Just[/name_m] like when people have a trend in first names, breaking it on the third is fine, but on the fourth seems a little out of place.
We like two middles, but I don’t think there’s any right or wrong way to do it. I’m not a fan of uneven middles (as in one child has one middle, one has two, one has none, etc), but it is just a personal decision and people do it - or don’t do it - for different reasons.
From personal experience, I still feel incredibly left out to this day that my baby brother was given 2 middle names and myself only one- especially as he is named XXX [name_m]David[/name_m] [name_u]Drew[/name_u] after our 2 grandfathers and I am XXX [name_f]Nicole[/name_f], which has no family connections at all. When my mum said this was because she didn’t want to name me after her mother-in-law I felt even more left out.
Of course, not everyone is going to feel the same. It’s the family honour names issue that does it for me, but if they aren’t honour names that you’re considering as second middles then it’s unlikely to cause any feelings of jealousy.
As for myself, I’m determined to go with three middle names when I have kids! It might not be for everyone but I love how over the top it is
I would just use one middle name, but two middle names are nice too. If it means something to you, please use two names. For me, having 4 names total [including last name(s)] is completely normal. But more than 5 is definitely a lot… In Latin countries almost everyone has 4 names (first + middle + 2 surnames).
In your situation, I don’t think siblings will feel left out. Most people I know don’t think about their names a lot. So I think your kids will feel fine about their names. And even if they ask, you can tell them the reason why you gave them a different number of middle names.
All three of my sons have two middle names. It was not by design. The first two the decision wasn’t made until close to or at their birth; the third time around it was an established trend so we planned on it.
I love the flow of their names and they all make sense and have family ties. However it does cause a few paper work issues but nothing major.
My second son got marked off on his kindergarten screening because when he was asked what his name is he said his first and two middle names and not his last name
I’m with you. I do two middle names for girls. I like the flow, their names sounds elegant like a line of music. For boys I will only do one middle name, I like that the name feels stronger with only one, which is the feel I want in a boys name. No I don’t think a boy will feel left out because their sister has two. I think it works.
