Just a warning this is likely going to be very long, so I appreciate anybody who sticks with me on this.
I am going to be TTC as a single mom in the near soon few months coming. I am also an incredible name nerd and had to jump in feet first to perfecting my top names lists. Over the last little bit I have been working soo hard on perfecting my top names for girls and boys. Both have been difficult in their own ways, but I have really made some incredible progress. I am very happy with everything and never thought I’d be in a position to have struggle choosing between honour names. I have made posts and polls to get general ideas and to see even if one was chosen over the other if I’d prefer that name etc… Nothing seems to have helped much, so here I am for general advice. Since I have seeked out soo much opinion on the honour names in question here, I am going to leave them out of this to get just pure advice.
Being a TTC single mom, I do have the option to gender select. For severe medical/genetic reasons surrounding the male gene in my family, I have decided to gender select a girl for the first pregnancy ~ I am completely undecided if I will/should continue to gender select for the severe genetic reasons for subsequent pregnancies at this time. But, I have decided (for now) my ideal number of children being 3 potentionally 4, but that would depend on circumstances especially since I will be a single mom. I have two very specific honours, but don’t know which should be used first for Baby #1, then obviously, the second would still definitely be used for Baby #2. Having said that, though I have 2 honours, I have 3 names ~ which further complicates things.
Honour Middle Name #1: This one is most self-explanatory. This would be after my sister and we have such a large age gap between us, but we have an incredibly special bond.
If I were to have a boy, I wouldn’t want to use a male version of this name.
Honour Middle Name #2: This name has multiple honours. Firstly, the initial being a ‘F’ honours the very most important and special male in my life ~ his middle initial is ‘F’. And I thought matching middle intials could be cute and special as there isn’t a female version of his ‘F’ middle name. Secondly, the girl ‘F’ name itself is such a strong virtue and something I have had a lot in to beable to concieve.
If I were to have a boy, there isn’t a male version of this name nor would I choose to use the important person’s middle name, just because it is an old family last name in their family that just isn’t my style. I though, if I didn’t use the girl ‘F’ name right away, I would be open to using it possibly in the future even after honouring the important person.
Honour Middle Name #3: This name also has multiple honours. Firstly, again, the initial being ‘K’ honours this time the first name of the same very important male in my life as mentioned above ~ which I feel could be slightly more special or rewarding perhaps? Again, there is no female version of his name, so the entire girl ‘K’ name also honours in other ways. Secondly, the first half of the ‘K’ girl name also has similar sounds/letters to his name, whereas, the second half of the ‘K’ girl name actually has my first initial and similar sounds and letters to my name, so it could honour us both at the same time. Lastly, it also honours German heritage as it starts with “K” and has German roots.
If I were to have a boy, I would use the exact first name of the important person as my baby boy’s middle name ~ I would also still use his name as a middle name despite if I were to have already honoured the important person in my baby girl’s name.
I hope this gave lots of information. Feel free to ask more questions that you may have that I didn’t answer. Just the main question being: how do I decide what to use 1st and what to use 2nd!? This seems sooo difficult. Please help with any advice and/or experience!
Thank you soo much for any help and if you made it this far! I am so sorry this is soo long, but I needed to get all my thoughts out