This baby is giving me issues with naming that I haven’t run into before.
With my first two kids, my husband was incredibly judgmental with every name I suggested, scratching out names on long lists that I’d spent two or three weeks putting together and making naming children a horrible experience for me. (Which is so strange, he is very unopinionated with every other thing in our lives…)
I recently started talking about what to name our next kid and I was expecting a lot of kickback when it came to anything I suggested and I had prepared myself for a ton of disappointment.
To my surprise, however, he’s been extremely relaxed about the whole thing. TOO relaxed. Instead of having an opinion, I think he’s decided that pointing out every flaw with names is too much work. I’m compiling a nice little list of names that I really like and he hasn’t been as negative as he was in the past. I have way more control when it comes to baby names and I don’t know what to do with all of this new power.
But now comes in the problem. We have about ten girl and boy names and we’re struggling to narrow them down! I’ll think one name or another will be right for a week and then decide a different name would be better. I can’t commit to a name! (We’re waiting until the baby is born to know the sex, so we don’t have the benefit of knowing one gender or the other in advance.)
I’m nervous to insist that my partner give more of an opinion because I don’t want him to revert back to how it used to be.
What are your suggestions when it comes to choosing and sticking with a name??
I know what you mean, I will have a top name for a few weeks then change my mind, and it scares me to think that I could have named my baby the first name when now I don’t think it’s right!!
I’m not too much help, mostly here to hear what others have to say. A couple pieces of advice that may help though, if you have had a name you have liked for years but can’t quite commit to it, that might be the safer bet than a name you are obsessed with suddenly for a few weeks. Also, try giving the name in Starbucks and see how it sounds, what reaction you get. Good luck!
Maybe next to your list, jot down why you like the name. I would also list any potential cons to the name- nicknames you don’t like that could go with it.
I would also listen to pp- I have tons of names that I fall in love with for a few weeks, but ultimately I don’t stick with them like my forever favourites.
Great advice above!
Here’s another option: Baby Name Test Drive : BabyNameGenie.com
It puts the baby name into different real life scenarios so you can see if you’d like it over time.
The usual advice I give is rate each name out of 5. 1 being hate, 5 being love. Have both you (and your husband if you want to risk it lol) do the rating and see which ones are 5s. If they’re ALL 5s, then it could be difficult from there. The babynamegenie thing could help narrow down which ones you would actually want to say every day.