How unusable is this?

Boy Names
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Lately, I have completely fallen for the name [name]Asher[/name], nn [name]Ash[/name].

The problem, as I’m sure you can see in my signature, is that I am [name]Ash[/name]. Well, the majority of my family and a lot of my friends call me just [name]Ashley[/name], but at work, mostly online, and even some friends and family call me [name]Ash[/name], and I’ve always thought that once I struck out on my own (which will hopefully be any day now), I would tell my new coworkers, friends, new church members, etc., that I’m [name]Ashley[/name], but you can call me [name]Ash[/name]… I honestly love being both [name]Ash[/name] and [name]Ashley[/name]. But I think even [name]Ashley[/name] and [name]Asher[/name] are too close for mommy and son. Yes?

I guess I could use it as a MN but I honestly prefer it as a FN and don’t like the flow of it as a MN, and I never wanted to name my children after me. I just can’t let this go, urgh. [name]How[/name] unusable are they, really?

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Aw, you know my love for the name [name]Asher[/name], it’s so gorgeous!

I have a similar issue in the fact that I love the name [name]Eliza[/name] but being [name]Elizabeth[/name] I could never use it so I’m going to have to say that they’re too close but it would work well as a middle name.

I think [name]Caleb[/name], [name]Jack[/name] & [name]Asher[/name] would be awesome for brothers though. I guess it would depend how comfortable you were with the idea of being [name]Ashley[/name] and him being [name]Asher[/name]? I guess he would like the connetion to you but is that unfair on any other children you might have? [name]Just[/name] something to think about…

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Yeah, too close. Sorry. Looks egotistical. Maybe try [name]Cash[/name], which at least changes the initial, if not the rhyme. . .

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Or [name]Dash[/name] (iell)? Or [name]Nash[/name]?

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I think it is fine. I know three families where the father was named [name]Dean[/name] and the daughter named [name]Deana[/name]. It works just fine! It is a tradition in our family to name the child after their parents. I certainly do NOT think it is egotistical! Maybe practice calling [name]Asher[/name] and see if it feels weird. I think [name]Caleb[/name], [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Asher[/name] would be great together!

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Awww, [name]Lindsay[/name], thank you for that. I mean, I’ve never been a fan of naming my kids after me, but I figured I would succumb and maybe do something like [name]Isabelle[/name] [name]Ashley[/name] or [name]Charlotte[/name] [name]Ashley[/name] if my husband came up with some flowery, romantic, cheesy, sweet line that I absolutely couldn’t refuse (like, “Aww, baby, I just want to look at our baby girl and remember how much I love you!” bahaha.), but otherwise, I had no plans of doing it. I’ve always thought of myself as humble and I never have been a fan of naming my child after me. But for [name]Asher[/name]… it really wouldn’t be after me! It’s just because I stinkin’ love it so much. I’m sure most wouldn’t see it that way, though.

[name]Elizabeth[/name] ([name]Do[/name] you prefer a nn? I feel like I’m being so formal calling you [name]Elizabeth[/name] all the time, lol.), ohhh, why’d you have to do that?! I’ve been absolutely smitten by the idea of [name]Caleb[/name] and [name]Jack[/name] as brothers for weeks (if not months) now, but I’ve never been as thrilled with the idea of a third brother with them! [name]Caleb[/name], [name]Jack[/name], and [name]Grayson[/name] and [name]Caleb[/name], [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Everett[/name] (which are probably my next favorites) just don’t fit together as well as [name]Jack[/name] and [name]Caleb[/name] do, imo. But [name]Caleb[/name], [name]Jack[/name], and [name]Asher[/name]/[name]Ash[/name] are just perfect, I was instantly in love as soon as I saw it! (This is not making this easier! lol) I don’t know if my other boys would feel cheated if I did use [name]Asher[/name]/[name]Ash[/name], but if I used [name]Jack[/name], he would be named after my brother/dad/grandpa/great-grandpa, and I’m sure he would love being named after my brother… I can’t even imagine [name]Johnny[/name] not being the best uncle in the world. I’m afraid poor [name]Caleb[/name] would be left out, though, there’s no connection to his name and I haven’t changed it yet because I can’t even imagine finding something I adore as much as [name]Caleb[/name] [name]Elias[/name] [name]Joseph[/name]. :frowning: Unless I marry a [name]Joseph[/name] or an [name]Eli[/name] or something, haha, but I kind of doubt that.

I just thought of this… [name]Ash[/name] names are huge in my family tree. Well, bigger than I originally thought, haha. I’m [name]Ashley[/name], my uncle is [name]Bruce[/name] [name]Ashley[/name], and his brother is [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Bruce[/name] (they go by [name]Bruce[/name] and [name]Lee[/name] respectively). Would it really be weird to have another [name]Ash[/name]? I realize it’s different since it would be mother and son. I can completely imagine calling my son [name]Asher[/name]/[name]Ash[/name] all the time, but what about others? My parents, my siblings? I’m afraid they would get confused, and I frankly think my family would think it was really weird, haha.

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I actually think it’s stranger to have brothers named [name]Bruce[/name] [name]Ashley[/name] and [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Bruce[/name] than to have an [name]Ashley[/name] and an [name]Asher[/name], after all they are different names. I know two brothers named [name]Macauley[/name] and [name]Mackenzie[/name], they go by Macs and [name]Kenzie[/name] and their mom is called [name]Maxine[/name] so they are all very similar - Dad has an M name too!

I think if there is some kind of family connection for each son then that would be fine, but obviously much easier said than done if you love [name]Caleb[/name] [name]Elias[/name] [name]Joseph[/name] so much. I must say that is probably my favourite [name]Caleb[/name] combo you’ve had, I love it!).

It’s a difficult one but I see no reason why you can’t add [name]Asher[/name] in there if you’re comfortable and can see yourself naming and calling out [name]Asher[/name] to him :smiley:

Also, Ash, you can just call me Liz, that’s fine!

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I don’t think it would be that big of a deal. It is pretty much the same concept as having a [name]Jr[/name]. except they get the exact same name. Only one you could go by [name]Ash[/name] though, so if you already are, then he would have to go by [name]Asher[/name] or his MN. I can definitely see [name]Asher[/name] working with [name]Caleb[/name] :slight_smile:

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Personally I wouldn’t name my child something like [name]Jenna[/name] (my name is [name]Jennifer[/name]/[name]Jenni[/name]), but then again I don’t love that name. FWIW, I do like [name]Asher[/name]. It’s actually my cat’s name! I love the name, but I decided I didn’t love it quite enough for a future child of mine, haha. [name]Hope[/name] that didn’t deter you. But then again if you need a reason not to use it, think of it as a cat’s name :wink:

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Thanks for all your input, ladies! I definitely have something to think about. [name]Asher[/name] definitely feels more usable to me now, and I do adore it… I’m slowly trying to put my top 10 back together again anyway, so we’ll see where it ends up! I honestly hadn’t expected the responses I got, so I have a lot to think about. It is very rare (even at work!) that people call me [name]Ash[/name]–I’m usually just [name]Ashley[/name]–so I definitely think my son could go by [name]Ash[/name] if he wanted, if I ever used [name]Asher[/name]. :slight_smile:

I would love to hear anyone else’s thoughts!

Thanks, ladies!

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My sister in laws name is [name]Nicolette[/name] and her son is named Nikolie. She loves his name and didn’t name him after herself and doesn’t care what others think of their names… Good luck:)

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Thanks! Hearing stories like this makes it seem more usable… I love the name Asher, but the thing is, Asher and Ashley are really close, and I’ve always hated that my dad and brother shared the exact same name. My dad was always John and my brother was always Johnny, but still, I would essentially be doing the same thing, and, even if I don’t want to honor myself and that’s not what it would be, our names would still be very close, and I’m not sure how comfortable I am with that.

Asher/Ash does feel so much more usable to me now, but still, the names are very close and I think that’s my hesitation with it. I wouldn’t confuse him with anyone else when I would call out Ash/Asher, but I think it could be very confusing for the people around me, trying to keep straight Ashley and Asher/Ash (particularly little Asher!). I do really like the nn Ash for me, but I’m fine giving it up if I ever do have an Asher.

I never thought it was slightly usable to me up until this point as a FN, so I have a lot to think about! :slight_smile:

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Mmmm…I love the name [name]Asher[/name] but I think it really is too similar to be used with your name unfortunately :frowning:

That is only my opinion though and if you love it and think it works fine then you should just go ahead and use it! Good luck!!

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From an honoring perspective I actually think it would be really nice for a son to be honoring his mother’s name and [name]Asher[/name] is such a good name too, and the nickname [name]Ash[/name] is great. I agree with the person who said it’s no different to someone being named [name]Jr[/name], except of course you are not naming him [name]Ashley[/name] (which I think you could choose to do too and it would still be okay). I really don’t see a problem with it and rather see it as being a nice connection for you both and is a name that therefore has a lot of emotional connection and significance to it (which I am a fan of).