We and our daughter [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] have been discussing calling her Beans (not just as a nn within the family, but with everyone). We have been agonizing over this decision; the three of us all love it and it has special meaning. Would this be too wild for the general public?
The last thing we would want is for [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f]/Beans (?) to struggle in the future because of her name.
Not a big fan of Beans but I guess if she likes it that’s all that matters. I have a friend that goes by Bug as in that’s all she’s known as by family and friends and introduces herself using it. I can’t even imagine using her real name because it sounds wrong, she’s Bug 
That’s what I was thinking too! I think the situation could be said that you introduce her to younger family members and if [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f]/Beans ever decides to go back to [name_f]Eleanor[/name_f] she might be stuck with it now! It’s definitely a serious conversation to have and like @aventurine suggests try with a stranger and see how it feels!
I agree that her age matters. Does she already introduce herself as Beans to friends?
My instinct is that adorable and special as the nickname is, it’s not a first name that would be easy to leave childhood and go through the wide world with.
To me it really sounds like something that’s an affectionate family name rather than something for a teacher to call a student.
There was once a child in one of my kids’ classes whose mom told the teacher to call the student “Goose” (it wasn’t actually that word, but imagine a word like that.) Teacher said no - in school we call her by her name.
I agree with the comments so far. She may be asking her friends to call her Beans but that’s different to asking everyone she meets to do so. And she could ask her friends the next day to call her something else and they probably would just go with the flow. I imagine it is a question of age. [name_m]How[/name_m] long has she been asking for this? A few days or weeks? Is it just going to go away? I don’t see a problem using it at home or with extended family so much.
It’s okay as a nickname at home but not in public.
This is my question too. When I was 3, I would’ve loved it if everyone called me [name_f]Princess[/name_f] [name_f]Aurora[/name_f], but at 21, I don’t think I’d be as appreciative towards that nickname. If you’re asking about changing her legal name to Beans, I would absolutely say don’t do it. If she wants to introduce herself to others as Beans though, I don’t know if there’s much you can do about it. Beans is a cute nickname but it might take the right person to pull that off through middle school (thinking specifically of the “beans, beans, the musical fruit” rhyme people used to say around that age…)
I’d keep Beans as a nickname for at home. I dont think it’s one that will age well
Lol, my name is [name_f]Aurora[/name_f] and I used to scream when people called me [name_f]Princess[/name_f] [name_f]Aurora[/name_f] it Sleeping Beauty, even when I was 3. It pissed me off more than anything!
I’d agree with everyone that said Beans is cute for in-family use, or even with friends. But as far as telling her teachers to use it, having her introduce herself as it, I definitely wouldn’t. Of course, if she’s 15 and has said she wants that to be her name full time, that’s different than if she’s 3.
I also see no issue with calling her that at the grocery store, ice cream shop, etc. [name_m]Plenty[/name_m] of kids have fun nicknames that parents call out in public but it’s not like they’d introduce her as such. [name_u]Cricket[/name_u], Sweetpea, Bub, Pumpkin etc all come to mind and no one would bat an eye at something like that.
my sister and I call eachother weird nicknames all the time, like Jinglebell, Crumb, Broccoli, [name_m]Seal[/name_m], etc. and nobody ever cares! I think as long as she’s fine with it then go for it. Try it out and if it doesn’t work out for some reason, then that’s ok, Beans can still be her family nickname!
Nicknames aren’t set in stone, so I don’t see why this decision requires a committee.
I mean, you’ve got [name_u]Courtney[/name_u] [name_u]Love[/name_u] and [name_m]Kurt[/name_m] [name_m]Cobain[/name_m]’s daughter [name_f]Frances[/name_f] who’s middle name is legit [name_u]Bean[/name_u] and she goes by it (from what I’ve seen online) hahaha
I know someone who goes by Beans, and no one calls her by her real name. So as long as your daughter is with people who you think will be generally accepting of her nn, go for it! It’s better to call her what she wants than worry what other people will think.