husband advice on 5th baby name

Hello :slight_smile:
I’m having a bit of a dilemma in the name department as I am here pregnant with my fifth child. i’ve had all girls so far so i’m assuming this is a girl as well. i think its impossible for my husband and i to make a boy :wink: my girls names so far are [name_u]Simone[/name_u] [name_f]Jeanette[/name_f], [name_f]Lyla[/name_f] [name_f]Jolie[/name_f], [name_u]Brooklyn[/name_u] [name_f]Jade[/name_f], and [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f] [name_f]Jane[/name_f]. here is my dilemma; ever since i was pregnant with my first baby my husband has had only one request for a name, and that has been [name_f]Alice[/name_f], to honor his grandma who he’s loved so much. i’m all for honoring famiy but alice always struck the wrong chord with me. its very pretty don’t get me wrong but its never felt RIGHT. we have always compromised on the other names but i feel like i should let him just have a pick. i mean he IS surrounded by girls! but at the same time it STILL doesn’t feel right as a name i’m going to stick my kid with for forever… the names that i’ve been leaning toward are:

[name_f]Gwenyth[/name_f]
[name_f]Margot[/name_f]
[name_f]Avril[/name_f]
[name_f]Phaedra[/name_f]

none of that is set in stone just an example of what ive been liking. so what you ladies think i should do? this is going to be my last child and i do not plan on having anymore. should i let him have the name alice? or should i go with my gut likes and us compromise again? i’m torn…also open to suggestions for names that you think would sound pretty!! :slight_smile:

kira
#5 on the way december 7, 2015

You could try honoring his grandmother without direclty using [name_f]Alice[/name_f]? [name_f]Alicia[/name_f], [name_f]Alessia[/name_f] or even [name_u]Alix[/name_u] (french version of [name_f]Alice[/name_f]) could work and wouldn’t look too out of place with your other girls :slight_smile:

[name_f]Do[/name_f] you have a middle yet? I hope you are sticking with the j theme! :slight_smile:

[name_f]Alice[/name_f] is so beautiful…and timeless, too! I would use it, if I were you, especially since it means so much to your husband.

[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Phaedra[/name_f] sounds AMAZING to me, but perhaps you want to stick with the J-theme for middles? :slight_smile: Anyway…things to think about.

You don’t like [name_f]Alice[/name_f] as a middle name option either?

I love [name_f]Alice[/name_f]. I think you could compromise and use [name_u]Ali[/name_u] as a nn too. But [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] is so nice!

I’m in a similar boat…we are having our 5th girl and I can’t find a name that I absolutely love. I’m about to hand over naming rights to dh!

I think it would be a nice gesture to honour this one request of your husband. [name_f]Alice[/name_f] is a great name. But I agree with previous poster that you could look for an alternative [name_f]Alice[/name_f] name such as [name_u]Allison[/name_u], [name_f]Alys[/name_f], or [name_f]Alyssa[/name_f]. (Margalise / Allisandre)

Pheadra and [name_f]Margot[/name_f] are also great btw.

[name_f]Gwenyth[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] or [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] would work. It would still honor your husband’s grandmother.

I think you should give the name to him. 5 girls!! And he has compromised on all of them so far. [name_f]Alice[/name_f] has a ton of NN’s if you need one and if you follow the J middle name theme, you could call her AJ :slight_smile:

[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Jolene[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Jenelle[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Justine[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_u]Juniper[/name_u]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Juliet[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Jaelyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] Jaena

Personally I would use [name_f]Alice[/name_f] or a variation thereof. You can always use a nn ([name_u]Allie[/name_u], [name_f]Lissie[/name_f]) or call her by her middle. Or use a variation.

You don’t have to, but I think it’s unlikely you’d regret choosing such a special family name.

What if you went with a name that means noble, just like [name_f]Alice[/name_f]?

I think [name_f]Alice[/name_f] is deserving of a spot if this one is a girl. What a patient husband. [name_f]Alice[/name_f] is a little reserved and maybe not as “stylish” as some of the names in your existing sibset, but I think it can shine in the right pairing. I love [name_f]Phaedra[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f]. With [name_f]Alice[/name_f] as the fn, [name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Margot[/name_f] would be nice. Or perhaps, [name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Estelle[/name_f], [name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Seraphine[/name_f], [name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Vienna[/name_f], [name_f]Alice[/name_f] [name_f]Marine[/name_f].

If it’s a boy, [name_m]Alistair[/name_m] or [name_m]Alaric[/name_m] ([name_m]German[/name_m]: all powerful ruler) came to mind. Also, [name_m]Adalius[/name_m], [name_m]Edel[/name_m], and [name_m]Albert[/name_m] are all [name_m]German[/name_m] with the meaning “noble” just like [name_f]Alice[/name_f].

If it were me I’d let him have his wish on this one. It’s a lovely name. Who knows you might start to like it as you get further along.

Why not just use [name_f]Alice[/name_f] as a middle name? I mean, I understand not really wanting to use a name if it doesn’t fit right for you, but as you said, this is your last baby, and it is literally the only request he’s made as far as naming children goes (if I’m understanding you correctly). If you have to, give this little one two middle names, one of which is [name_f]Alice[/name_f], imo. I mean, he wants to honor his grandma. As far as name requests go, that’s pretty honorable (and also, adorable). I agree that [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] would be beautiful! I mean, [name_f]Alice[/name_f] isn’t my favorite, either (although I do agree that it’s beautiful), so if you can’t use [name_f]Alice[/name_f], see if you can find another way together to honor her. Maybe her birthstone, her birth flower (or her favorite flower?), her favorite color, a similar variant of her name (like [name_u]Allison[/name_u] or [name_f]Alyssa[/name_f], or even [name_f]Felicity[/name_f], that shares that “liss” sound), or something that represents her to him (for example, I’m not fond of my grandmother’s name, but lilies have sort of come to represent her, for me, and I have [name_f]Lily[/name_f] on my list (both as a MN and a nn) to honor her memory. Maybe something like that?).

Good luck!

Maybe [name_f]Alessandra[/name_f] and you can call her Aless? I’m not sure. If you’ve picked the rest I’d say let him have one, but it sounds like you’ve been going for middle ground so I don’t know really but! I think [name_f]Alice[/name_f] is lovely. :slight_smile:

Thank you so much for your advice!!! your suggestions have given me a lot to think about. i think everyone has been echoing what i’ve been feeling though and that is to give my husband this one and to give him first name status. i suggested middle name status to him but i think that it kinda takes the wind out of his sails in picking the name in the first place… SO i think i’ve made my decision. i’ll let him have alice and i’ll worm a name i love in there as second middle name and then i’ll go for a j- name to keep the j theme going. i don’t want this little one to feel like odd man out in the j middle name theme department. if anyone has any ideas for alice ____ j____ let me know!

alice margot joephine
alice phaedra josephine
alice phaedra juliet?

i love that phaedra means bright. as 5th sister this little one is going to have to shine bright and stand out on her own :slight_smile:
BTW i actually [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] AJ as a nickname!!! thank you for that :slight_smile:
watch this baby be a BOY!! LOL

i also [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] the name alistair…thank you for that suggestion for a boy @tiannarose

What about [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f]? I like the idea of using it as a middle name.

i totally agree with you in prefering it in the middle!! @simonekadele
you know what? new plan… i won’t give up on throwing names out there to compromise on. i think what i’ll do is put together different options that i love …alice as a middle name, and alice as a first name and still let him have his pick in the end. put the ball in his court so to speak. but who knows? maybe i’ll come up with something that’ll knock his socks off and he’ll prefer a name i come up with and be totally ok with alice in the middle.
i like your melusine!!

alice melusine could be one option to throw out at him

i’ll post my list on here too and see what feedback i can get from you guys!! :slight_smile:

[name_f]Avril[/name_f] [name_u]Alix[/name_u] would be lovely, [name_u]Alix[/name_u] is an ancient variant of [name_f]Alice[/name_f], and in [name_m]French[/name_m] the emphasis is on the second syllable, so it flows well.

Why not use [name_f]Alice[/name_f] as a middle. Dh gets to honor his beloved grandma and you can have a first name you can live with. [name_f]Margot[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] and [name_f]Phaedra[/name_f] [name_f]Alice[/name_f] sound lovely. Here are some other names for your consideration.
[name_f]Kismet[/name_f]
[name_u]Darien[/name_u]
Merrique
[name_f]Deirdre[/name_f]
[name_f]Audra[/name_f]
[name_f]Petra[/name_f]
[name_f]Samantha[/name_f]
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]