Alright, so our child is due in [name_u]December[/name_u].
Our girl name is picked out and perfect.
Our boy name is not.
Years ago (2013-2016) we really loved the name [name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] [name_u]Carroll[/name_u]. However, [name_m]Liam[/name_m] has only grown in popularity. I have so many other names that I really love so coming up with other options is no problem. The only requirement I really have is that we use [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] as the middle name because it’s my grandfather’s middle name.
However, my husband refuses to discuss baby names. His argument is that we picked out great boy names years ago ([name_m]Liam[/name_m] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] and [name_u]Rory[/name_u] [name_u]Michael[/name_u]) and he doesn’t want to launch into major discussions to come up with new ones. He’s annoyed at the idea of beginning a name search because when we would talk years ago in preparation for eventually having kids I drove him crazy constantly changing my mind.
I feel like if anyone would understand my issue with the name [name_m]Liam[/name_m] it would be my husband because his name is [name_m]Matthew[/name_m], a very common name. He either doesn’t think [name_m]Liam[/name_m] is as popular as I’m making it out to be or just doesn’t think it’s that big of a deal. I’m frustrated and I feel like I don’t have a choice in what I name my child now because he’s being stubborn.
Other names I love besides [name_m]Liam[/name_m] and [name_u]Rory[/name_u]:
[name_m]Jack[/name_m] (But not [name_m]Jackson[/name_m])
[name_u]Finn[/name_u]
[name_m]Maverick[/name_m] ([name_m]Mac[/name_m] for short)
[name_u]Skyler[/name_u]
[name_u]Blake[/name_u]
[name_u]Jensen[/name_u]
[name_u]Logan[/name_u] (Except it’s my brother’s name)
[name_m]Thayer[/name_m]
[name_m]Thatcher[/name_m]
[name_m]Hayes[/name_m]
[name_m]Wilder[/name_m]
[name_m]Cooper[/name_m]
[name_m]Hanson[/name_m]
[name_m]Henry[/name_m]
[name_m]Bennett[/name_m]
[name_u]Chandler[/name_u]
[name_m]Gideon[/name_m]
But my top choices are definitely: [name_u]Rory[/name_u], [name_u]Finn[/name_u], [name_m]Jack[/name_m], [name_u]Logan[/name_u], and [name_m]Maverick[/name_m].
Part of me says, if I’m choosing the middle name then he should get the first name. I just know he will pick [name_m]Liam[/name_m].
I already resolved to take his last name and give the baby his last name instead of hyphenating because he begged me. We’re only choosing one middle name because he thinks two middle names are excessive (both of my siblings have two middle names and no problem). We landed on [name_m]Liam[/name_m] and [name_u]Rory[/name_u] because he refuses names with C or K because his last name is [name_u]Carroll[/name_u].
I get that we talked about it way too much years ago. But we easily haven’t discussed names for at least a year and half. I’m just a bit lost and wondering if anyone else has had a spouse that won’t budge on a name. [name_m]How[/name_m] did you end up compromising? Anyone else have the same issue with a common/popular name?:eek:
[name_m]Just[/name_m] kidding. But seriously we had these same conversations. He hates talking about names. I said no to the girls names he picked due to popularity and we ended up stumbling upon a family name that happened to be popular and I cared more about the family connection.
We had two boys names picked out for years and when one became super popular I told him I didn’t want to use that name so we have picked the other name if we do have a boy.
[name_u]Rory[/name_u] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] sounds great ! Can you use [name_u]Rory[/name_u] instead of [name_m]Liam[/name_m] ?
I would go with [name_u]Rory[/name_u], it sounds like you love it and you both liked it before. [name_u]Rory[/name_u] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] [name_u]Carroll[/name_u] is very handsome!
I think the first name is something the two of you will have to work on together. You get the middle name, he gets the last name, and you both figure out the first name together. It seems like [name_u]Rory[/name_u] would be the best option for you but if not I think you’re just gonna have to tell him YOU fill out the birth certificate. You picked these names a long time ago and people change and so do taste in names over the years. [name_m]Just[/name_m] tell him you’re no longer happy with [name_m]Liam[/name_m] and it’s no longer an option.
I think your husband’s behavior is unacceptable. You are his wife and partner and if you want to discuss something, he needs to discuss it with you. And you’re pregnant! He should be taking care of you and listening to your needs. If this is a concern of yours right now, then he needs to address it. If not, I agree with the above that you should fill out the birth certificate on your own. I can’t stand how many stories like this are on nameberry! And after you took his last name and agreed to give it to the baby… [name_m]Just[/name_m] no.
I like [name_u]Rory[/name_u], [name_m]Jack[/name_m] and [name_u]Finn[/name_u] best from your top choices list. I hope you two can work something out.
Right there with you. My husband and I loved the name [name_u]Owen[/name_u], but now that it’s climbed in popularity it’s lost it’s specialness to me. It’s made my husband so cranky we just can’t seem to talk baby names at all.
I think you need to make it clear you don’t like [name_m]Liam[/name_m] anymore. I’d say “Yes those are great names but things change over time and I don’t want to use them any more.” You clearly both like short names so I’m going off that
[name_m]Leon[/name_m]
[name_m]Harry[/name_m]
[name_u]Ray[/name_u]
[name_m]Adam[/name_m]
[name_u]Alfie[/name_u]
[name_u]Beck[/name_u]
[name_u]Blair[/name_u]
[name_m]Clark[/name_m]
[name_u]Dean[/name_u]
[name_m]Dante[/name_m]
[name_u]Gus[/name_u]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u]
[name_u]Lyle[/name_u]
[name_u]Reid[/name_u]
[name_m]Scott[/name_m]
[name_m]Zach[/name_m] (Whether you go [name_m]Zachary[/name_m] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] or just [name_m]Zach[/name_m] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] is up to you)
[name_m]Zane[/name_m]
[name_u]Jude[/name_u]
[name_u]Tate[/name_u]
[name_m]Nate[/name_m] (Again whether you [name_m]Nathan[/name_m]/[name_m]Nathaniel[/name_m] [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] or just [name_m]Nate[/name_m] is up to you)
[name_m]Hank[/name_m]
I think [name_m]Liam[/name_m] does need to be left behind. I really hope you can reopen discussion with him - make it really clear that you just don’t like the name anymore and you don’t want your child to have a name you dislike
I agree with others that you should make your feelings about [name_m]Liam[/name_m] clear. If he doesn’t feel strongly enough about it to discuss it then he should just let you pick. I also wanted to put in a plug for [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] as a first name. I really like it and maybe the family connection would sway him.
Also, I agree with the [name_m]Liam[/name_m] thing. [name_m]Way[/name_m] too popular. [name_u]Rory[/name_u] is great, though. It really works with [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] if that’s what you choose.
While I think that you should make it clear that you don’t want to use [name_m]Liam[/name_m] anymore, I think forcing your husband to discuss names when he doesn’t want to would be a big mistake. Naming a baby should be enjoyable, not some stressful ordeal. My advice would be to table all name talk until you find out the gender, which if memory serves (my first was due in [name_u]December[/name_u]) should be sometime in [name_u]July[/name_u]. That way, if you end up having a girl, you didn’t waste all that time arguing with your husband over something that didn’t matter anyway. If it turns out you’re having a boy, then that gives your husband at least a month to prepare for a naming discussion.