I need help! We have two children already, [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f], and are having a baby girl next month. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband and I cannot agree on a shortlist. We have very different styles. He likes common names ([name_f]Amelia[/name_f], [name_f]Chloe[/name_f], [name_f]Isla[/name_f], [name_f]Emily[/name_f] etc) whereas I like uncommon, but not unusual names ([name_f]Daisy[/name_f], [name_f]Olive[/name_f], [name_u]Tully[/name_u], [name_f]Freya[/name_f], [name_u]Quinn[/name_u], [name_f]Lottie[/name_f] etc) which he firmly does not like.
So we’re going off a list of names in my ‘middle of the range’ list.
The only names we can semi-agree on are;
[name_f]Emmy[/name_f]
[name_f]Scarlet[/name_f]
[name_f]Mia[/name_f]
[name_f]Lola[/name_f]
[name_f]Lucy[/name_f] (although we have a [name_u]Luca[/name_u] so don’t know if that’s weird?)
I’ve trawled through all the name lists and forums and haven’t found anything else I like. So do we pick one off our list of names we both like or should I keep suggesting a few of my faves on my list??
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I like [name_f]Mia[/name_f] and [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f], but have you thought about something like:
[name_f]Edith[/name_f]
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_f]Jade[/name_f]
[name_f]Maisy[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f]
They are older style names like hubby likes but no longer extremely common like you prefer
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[name_f]Lucy[/name_f] is a bit too close to [name_u]Luca[/name_u] to me.
Of your middle-ground list I like [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] best with her siblings. Though I prefer [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f]. 
Maybe you would like:
[name_f]Lila[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f]
[name_f]Eliza[/name_f]
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]
[name_f]Phoebe[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmy[/name_f], [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f], [name_f]Mia[/name_f] and [name_f]Lola[/name_f] are great options in my opinion! It’s nice that you and your husband can (semi-)agree on them. [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] is a beautiful name but I think it’s too close to [name_u]Luca[/name_u].
Whether you should pick a name from the agreed list or whether you should keep suggesting a few of your own faves depends on the details of your situation.
Have you already discussed all of your favourite names extensively with your husband? If so and if he indeed vetoed them, then those names sadly don’t seem like an option for you anymore. But if not, there might still be some room for consideration.
Also, did you agree on the names listed above because the both of you truly like them or is it more that neither of you dislikes them? In the first case, you could choose one of those names. But in the second case, I would keep looking for other options.
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[name_u]Love[/name_u] [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] with [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f]! Three of my favorite names.
Maybe you’d like:
[name_f]Maya[/name_f]/[name_f]Maia[/name_f]
[name_f]Hallie[/name_f]
[name_u]Piper[/name_u]
[name_f]Thea[/name_f]
[name_f]Mila[/name_f]
[name_f]Cleo[/name_f]
[name_f]Claire[/name_f]
[name_u]June[/name_u]
[name_f]Elise[/name_f]
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[name_f]Claire[/name_f]
[name_f]Ruth[/name_f]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_u]June[/name_u]
[name_f]Joy[/name_f]
[name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_f]May[/name_f]
[name_f]Maya[/name_f]
[name_f]Lily[/name_f]
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Stick to a middle ground as long as your partner is still offering suggestions/involving himself in the process. Middle ground meaning names you both like, not names that one of you loves and the other simply tolerates.
From you current agreed upon list I think [name_f]Mia[/name_f] is very nice with [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f]! [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f](t) is a nice choice as well. [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] fits nicely but is a little nicknamey. Personally I would pick a formal name, but [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] is totally useable on it’s own and perfectly fits the style of [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f].
I would definitely pass over [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] since you already have a [name_u]Luca[/name_u].
I looked at where [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] sit on the US popularity charts ([name_u]Luca[/name_u] is resting at #106 currently and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] at # 86) and pulled suggestions from within that range, roughly between the top #50 and #150. Interestly, [name_f]Isla[/name_f] and [name_u]Quinn[/name_u] are rated very similarly, [name_f]Isla[/name_f] is at #82 currently and [name_u]Quinn[/name_u] is at #84. It might be a good idea to look over the social security popular names list yourselves, it may surprise you/change your impressions of some names.
Suggestions:
[name_f]Maya[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f]
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]
[name_f]Sadie[/name_f]
[name_u]Piper[/name_u]
[name_f]Sophie[/name_f]
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_f]Jade[/name_f]
[name_f]Athena[/name_f]
[name_f]Mary[/name_f]
[name_f]Lyla[/name_f]/[name_f]Lila[/name_f]
[name_f]Eliza[/name_f]
[name_f]Melody[/name_f]
[name_f]Iris[/name_f]
Going outside of that range for names that are less common but might appeal to your partner (from with the top #151-#300):
[name_f]Molly[/name_f]
[name_f]Eloise[/name_f]
[name_f]Elise[/name_f]
[name_f]Diana[/name_f]
[name_f]Ayla[/name_f]
[name_f]Callie[/name_f]
[name_f]Amy[/name_f]
[name_f]Rosalie[/name_f]
[name_u]Ember[/name_u]
[name_f]Paige[/name_f]
[name_f]Noelle[/name_f]
[name_f]Gemma[/name_f]
[name_u]June[/name_u]
[name_f]Tessa[/name_f]
[name_f]Selena[/name_f]
[name_f]Ada[/name_f]
[name_u]Camille[/name_u]
[name_f]Vera[/name_f]
[name_f]Ruth[/name_f]
[name_f]Thea[/name_f]
[name_f]Kate[/name_f]
[name_f]Nyla[/name_f]
[name_f]Jane[/name_f]
[name_f]Maggie[/name_f]
[name_f]Giselle[/name_f]
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Keep trying! Maybe you could compromise a bit and do one name he likes (first or middle or second middle) and a name you like (first or middle or second middle). You need to find a name you both like!
No [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] isn’t weird at all cause [name_u]Luca[/name_u] sounds so different.
With [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_u]Luca[/name_u], your middle ground ideas of [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f] and [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] are great!
I’d also suggest [name_f]Ada[/name_f], [name_f]Aria[/name_f], [name_f]Thea[/name_f] and [name_f]Maisy[/name_f]
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Names both my husband and I agree on
[name_f]Hazel[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophie[/name_f]
[name_f]Adeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Celine[/name_f]
[name_f]Addie[/name_f]
Emerine (a very rare family name in our family)- would maybe be a compromise between [name_f]Emily[/name_f] and something more uncommon
Other ideas
[name_f]Millie[/name_f]
[name_f]Mabel[/name_f]
[name_f]Alyse[/name_f]
[name_f]Vera[/name_f]
[name_f]Lindy[/name_f]
[name_f]Willa[/name_f]
[name_f]Poppy[/name_f]
[name_f]Tessa[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f]
[name_f]Jetta[/name_f]
[name_f]Lyra[/name_f]
[name_f]Hope[/name_f] you both like some of these!
Of your names I think [name_f]Mia[/name_f] and [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] work the best. I do think that [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] is too close to [name_u]Luca[/name_u]. [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] feels too nn for me for a full name- [name_f]Emma[/name_f], [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f], [name_f]Emilia[/name_f], [name_f]Gemma[/name_f]?
Some other suggestions:
[name_f]Melody[/name_f]
[name_f]Amy[/name_f]
[name_f]Maia[/name_f]
[name_f]Gemma[/name_f]
[name_f]Mira[/name_f]
[name_f]Claire[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilia[/name_f]
[name_f]Thea[/name_f]
[name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] nn “[name_f]Lottie[/name_f]”
ETA:
[name_f]Dora[/name_f]
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_f]Daisy[/name_f]
[name_f]Hattie[/name_f]
[name_f]Ada[/name_f]
[name_f]Faith[/name_f]
[name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Molly[/name_f]
[name_f]Margot[/name_f]
[name_u]Louise[/name_u]
I second [name_f]Maisy[/name_f], [name_f]Jade[/name_f], [name_f]Edith[/name_f] (or [name_f]Edie[/name_f]?), and [name_f]Clara[/name_f]! [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] or [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f] is very pretty, too.
I do feel [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] are quite similar.
[name_m]How[/name_m] about:
[name_f]Posy[/name_f]
[name_f]Poppy[/name_f]
[name_f]Flora[/name_f]
[name_f]Flori[/name_f]
[name_f]Crystal[/name_f]
[name_f]Clover[/name_f]
[name_u]Clove[/name_u]
[name_f]Ayla[/name_f]
[name_f]Eileen[/name_f]
[name_f]Eila[/name_f]
[name_f]Charlotte[/name_f] (nn [name_f]Lottie[/name_f])
Quinley
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]
[name_f]Millie[/name_f]
[name_u]Camille[/name_u]
[name_f]Iris[/name_f]
[name_f]Elise[/name_f]
[name_f]Claire[/name_f]
[name_u]Clare[/name_u]
[name_u]Clair[/name_u] (these all have different feels for me lol)
[name_f]Cora[/name_f]
[name_f]Coraline[/name_f]
[name_f]Coral[/name_f]
[name_u]Holly[/name_u]
[name_f]Grace[/name_f]
[name_f]Annelise[/name_f]
[name_u]Anne[/name_u]
[name_f]Anya[/name_f]
[name_f]Leila[/name_f]
[name_f]Tess[/name_f]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Neve[/name_f]
[name_f]Olive[/name_f]
[name_u]Eden[/name_u]
[name_u]Sage[/name_u]
[name_f]Georgia[/name_f]
[name_f]Fiona[/name_f]
[name_f]Sophie[/name_f]
[name_f]Gwen[/name_f]
[name_f]Hope[/name_f]
[name_f]Greta[/name_f]
Or longer forms of [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] like …
[name_f]Emmeline[/name_f]
[name_f]Emalyn[/name_f]
[name_f]Emilyn[/name_f]
Or even [name_f]Esma[/name_f] or [name_f]Esme[/name_f]?
Or perhaps [name_f]Emilia[/name_f] would be a good compromise on [name_f]Amelia[/name_f] and [name_f]Emily[/name_f]?
Other names suggested here I like with yours:
[name_f]Edith[/name_f] ([name_f]Edie[/name_f])
[name_f]Maisy[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f]
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_f]Elise[/name_f]
[name_f]Ruth[/name_f]
[name_f]Lily[/name_f]
[name_f]Sadie[/name_f]
[name_u]Ruby[/name_u]
[name_f]Sophie[/name_f]
[name_f]Ayla[/name_f]
[name_f]Vera[/name_f]
[name_f]Maggie[/name_f]
[name_f]Aria[/name_f]
[name_f]Hazel[/name_f]
[name_f]Willa[/name_f]
[name_f]Tessa[/name_f]
[name_f]Violet[/name_f]
[name_f]Posy[/name_f]
[name_f]Poppy[/name_f]
[name_f]Anya[/name_f]
[name_f]Greta[/name_f]
[name_f]Fiona[/name_f]
[name_u]Sage[/name_u]
[name_f]Rose[/name_f]
[name_f]Gwen[/name_f]
[name_f]Esme[/name_f]
I love [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] (slightly prefer [name_f]Emmie[/name_f]), [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] (agree with other commenters that I would go with [name_f]Scarlett[/name_f]), and [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], though I do think [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] is too close to [name_u]Luca[/name_u]. From other commenters’ suggestions, I love [name_f]Clara[/name_f], [name_f]Maisy[/name_f] (prefer [name_f]Maisie[/name_f]), [name_f]Alice[/name_f], [name_f]Lila[/name_f] (maybe too similar to [name_u]Luca[/name_u]?), [name_u]Ruby[/name_u], [name_f]Phoebe[/name_f], [name_f]Hallie[/name_f], [name_f]Claire[/name_f], [name_u]Piper[/name_u], [name_f]Sadie[/name_f], [name_f]Noelle[/name_f], [name_f]Tessa[/name_f]…so many great options!
[name_f]My[/name_f] favorite from these is [name_u]Ruby[/name_u]–I love how it bridges sounds from both [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f], and matches [name_f]Ivy[/name_f]’s style as a great sister name while still being distinct.
I would also suggest:
[name_f]Millie[/name_f]
[name_f]Lainey[/name_f]
[name_f]Elsie[/name_f]
[name_f]Stella[/name_f]
[name_u]Harlow[/name_u]
[name_f]Leah[/name_f]
[name_f]Zoe[/name_f]
[name_f]Stella[/name_f]
[name_u]Harlow[/name_u]
[name_f]Pippa[/name_f]
[name_u]Emery[/name_u]
Id probably stay away from [name_f]Lucy[/name_f]. Although, they sound different it seems too close in spelling to use that. [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] to me sounds a little too much like nickname, I’d favor [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f] or [name_f]Emmanuela[/name_f]
Names that remind me of your styles:
[name_f]Ivy[/name_f]
[name_f]Iris[/name_f]
[name_f]Beatrix[/name_f] ([name_f]Bea[/name_f])
[name_f]Clara[/name_f]
[name_f]Alice[/name_f]
[name_f]My[/name_f] favourite from your common-ground list is [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] . I think [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] is adorable but I think she would need a longer name option as well, seeing as [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] is quite nicknamey. Maybe [name_f]Emma[/name_f], [name_u]Emerson[/name_u], [name_f]Emmeline[/name_f] or [name_u]Ember[/name_u]? [name_u]Ember[/name_u] would probably be my favourite, with the nature theme tying to [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and light/fire theme tying to [name_u]Luca[/name_u].
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_u]Ember[/name_u] nn [name_f]Emmy[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Audrey[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_u]Blair[/name_u]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Blythe[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Brynn[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Calla[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Della[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Elise[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Elsie[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Faith[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Gwen[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Hana[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Hazel[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Heidi[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Julia[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Katia[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Meg[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Margot[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Niamh[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_u]Piper[/name_u]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Pippa[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Poppy[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_u]Rowan[/name_u]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Sienna[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Stella[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Yasmin[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Zara[/name_f]
[name_u]Luca[/name_u], [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Zoe[/name_f](y)
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Wow I love [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] together! I’ve always thought [name_f]Ivy[/name_f] and [name_f]Mia[/name_f] went well together, and I think it’s lovely with [name_u]Luca[/name_u] too, so that’d be my pick.
I do think [name_f]Lucy[/name_f], and [name_f]Lola[/name_f] too honestly, is a bit close to [name_u]Luca[/name_u] unfortunately.
[name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] or [name_f]Mia[/name_f] seem like great options for a sister to [name_u]Luca[/name_u] and [name_f]Ivy[/name_f]. I absolutely love [name_f]Lola[/name_f], but that and [name_f]Lucy[/name_f] might be to close to [name_u]Luca[/name_u].
Congratulations!
Thank you so much for all of your replies!
I’ve so loved many of your suggestions, and a lot have already been vetoed by the husband (I love [name_f]Olive[/name_f], [name_u]Quinn[/name_u] and [name_f]Daisy[/name_f])
[name_f]Alice[/name_f] was mentioned a bit and is our daughter [name_f]Ivy[/name_f]’s middle name. We would have definitely used it this time around if we hadn’t already.
Thanks for your thoughts about [name_f]Lucy[/name_f]. I was thinking along the same lines that it’s too similar even though it sounds different.
I’m in Australia and [name_f]Isla[/name_f] and [name_u]Ruby[/name_u] are very popular and we already know a few. I’ve got [name_u]Ruby[/name_u] on my middle name list though.
I love that a lot of you love [name_f]Scarlet[/name_f] too! That’s probably my fave of our agreed upon list so far. I must say, it’s much harder naming a baby when you have to consider matching with siblings too 
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I should have asked where you lived for riddling off name stats! Sorry about that. And I completely feel you about the challenges of picking a name that is both distinct from sibling names and also goes with sibling names. It isn’t easy that’s for sure.
Knowing you are in Australia now, I understand that nicknames as given names are quite commonplace, and in that case I actually really like [name_f]Emmy[/name_f] for your sibset.
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