[name_m]Just[/name_m] hoping for a little advice. I really love the name [name_f]Claudia[/name_f]. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband doesn’t like it, but for no particular reason. He knew a [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] once, but had neither good nor bad feelings towards her, and only met her a handful of times (a relative of a friend he’s not longer in touch with).
[name_f]My[/name_f] favourite relative is named [name_f]Claudette[/name_f], so [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] would be the perfect way of honouring her. He loves her too, and we all see each other often and spend significant amounts of time together especially over the holidays.
Despite my love of the name and my emotional reasons for really wanting it if we have a girl, he isn’t flexible at all on this choice. Any help you can suggest would be much appreciated! I’ve tried almost everything, from negotiations to putting my foot down, and he’s not on board!
He must have some reasoning for strongly dis-liking it. Would it be possible to use [name_f]Claudette[/name_f] or put [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] in the middle? You could try different variations / similar names. If he is really against it, then I say that you should respect that and move on.
[name_f]My[/name_f] husband is the same way with [name_f]Audrey[/name_f]. [name_f]Audrey[/name_f] isn’t necessarily my favorite name but it feels like it is her name (due this spring). I can’t explain it, it just feels like the one to me. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband has no reasons for not liking it…he just doesn’t. I’m hoping he will come around but I doubt it. Maybe just start referring to the baby as [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] and it will grow on him? lol
First, I would try having him pinpoint why exactly he doesn’t like it. Is it the somewhat bulky sound? The lack of popularity? [name_m]General[/name_m] indifference? If it’s the sound, you can try using a variation. The popularity or the associations, you might try something like [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] [name_f]Delia[/name_f]. You can call her [name_f]Claudia[/name_f], he can call her [name_f]Clementine[/name_f] et. al. If he truly can’t articulate what about [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] doesn’t feel like “the one,” perhaps you can find a name you both love and use [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] as a middle name.
In naming, sorry, but you both have to have veto power. Turn the situation around: what if he had a name he was “set on,” and was not respecting/trying to find a way around your repeated statements of - not just indifference, but outright dislike for a name. Pick any name you heartily dislike and imagine he was trying to foist in on you, to use on your precious child, not just for a day or a week, but for life.
There are several names I love, but have had to abandon for various reasons, including hubby’s veto, ones that won’t work with our last name, or have just become too popular. Throw it on the bone pile, and move on.
Sorry to be a joy-kill. To feel better, you should take a look and maybe post on the thread here called “the one that got away.” It’s great, and you can commiserate with others that had to let faves go!
[name_m]Chin[/name_m] up! There will be a name you can agree on, that will be perfect for your darling!
What names does he like? If the two of you have a similar style, perhaps you could use [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] in the middle and he could choose the first name? If he just won’t budge it might be time to move on.
I would try to find out what he doesn’t like about it.
I would try a nickname like [name_f]Claudie[/name_f] to see if that charms him.
I would make sure that he isn’t superstitious about naming a child after a living person, some people of the Jewish faith do not do this.
I would drop it for awhile if you aren’t far along yet. Nod through suggestions of his if he offers any and finally once you are VERY pregnant, once you are in labor or some other moment that might illicit his pity, proclaim that [name_f]Claudia[/name_f] is the only name you could consider using. If it truly is the only name you love. Otherwise, compromise. [name_f]Claudette[/name_f] would be a great middle name.
Are you currently pregnant? I find that not talking about it for awhile can help. Sometimes my husband digs in his heels if I keep going on and on about a subject (or name).
So if you’re not in a time crunch, don’t bring the name up anymore. And then when you’re actually faced with trying to name a girl, bring it up with some positive associations specific to his interests.
I think it’s fine to use a name that your partner isn’t blown away by right away! [name_f]My[/name_f] husband didn’t love our daughter’s name right away, in fact he didn’t show enthusiasm for anything on first mention. If the posters partner hasn’t a clear reason for his dislike for the name perhaps he can be swayed. I don’t think it’s unfair at all.
This was kind of how it was for our first daughter…he loves her name and can’t picture a more beautiful name for her. I really like her name too but I’m not blown away by it. Sometimes I think one parent ends up liking the name more, that’s just how it is.
Unfortuntely if your husband doesn’t like it, I don’t think you’ll be able to get him to side with you and use it. If I were him, I would maybe agree to use it in the middle spot since you love it so much…but I would never use a name I was so indifferent to in the first spot.
I think your best bet is to look at names together. Find something you both equally love.
