I am very shocked to be pregnant again

I am so shocked. First, I laughed. Then I thought about crying. I know I am blessed.

Here goes…after several boys, I finally had a girl almost 3 years ago. I was so lucky to even have her as I was 41 yrs old at the time. I love all my children. I wish I could have had more girls, or an equal mix of children basically. Maybe two or three girls and two or three boys type thing.

Anyway…turning 44 this week. [name_f]My[/name_f] periods have been hardly present. I have had blood work and my egg quantity was almost unmeasureable. Fine. I have moved on. I have been giving away baby stuff. I have two children in college. One of them is getting engaged and baby name discussions and those future plans revolve around her wedding and such. I was just thinking with my youngest turning 3 soon, maybe I will be able to get the house clean. She is going through her “get in to everything” phase.

Since I am having surgery tomorrow, I had a pregnancy test. Yep…positive! And very positive! I am thinking maybe 5-6 weeks pregnant. I am not sure. I am frustrated because I went to my family doctor with a UTI a couple weeks ago. I have already checked. He did not run a pregnancy test before he prescribed all those meds that you are not supposed to take while pregnant…like Cipro. Thank Good ness the ortho doctor was not in! I almost had an MRI on my back two weeks ago! I had x-rays scheduled for tomorrow.

Anyway, I am going to wait and see how everything turns out. I have a history of recurrent miscarriages, but usually, those are very early. I am definitely past that. I have to potty all the time. I was already nauseated (blamed the UTI and the Cipro). I was already needing naps every afternoon. We already concluded I was in perimenopause.

I am very worried about being pregnant at my age. And after all the meds I took.

Congrats and I hope everything works out I’d try to get off the meds or switch 2 different ones you’ll be in the high risk area Because your older but that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to have a normal pregnancy

Oh wow, what a shock that must have been! [name_m]How[/name_m] are you feeling about everything now?

Sending positive thoughts your way. Try your best to pamper yourself!

Take care,
[name_f]Laura[/name_f]

I really do not know how to feel honestly. [name_f]My[/name_f] initial reaction was to laugh. Then I think I will just miscarry anyway because of my age (I already have had some age related miscarriages…years ago, so I am sure I have not gotten younger). Then I think …I am going to be the oldest mom ever anywhere! I already feel older than all the moms. I know I will get scolded by…everyone. I already had plenty of remarks when I had a baby at 41. And I have two kids in college. I was not young when I had them (I had my first at 24) but I am definitely old now.

One of my closest friends became a mom for the first time (through foster-adoption, but of a newborn) at age 51. It was a big surprise, but she is a wonderful mom. So you are not the oldest mom ever, if that helps at all. [name_m]Just[/name_m] tell everyone that you are secretly a celebrity. I feel like famous people routinely just get started having babies in their mid-40s.

Have you had a chance to talk to your doctor about your concerns regarding the medications? I hope that everything is okay and that you have a wonderful pregnancy!

A huge congratulations to you! [name_f]My[/name_f] grandmother was in her forties when she had her last babies including my mother. I would try not to stress on the age. Risk factors increase yes but you are still more likely to have a healthy child. Regardless, what an unexpected blessing :slight_smile: I don’t know what to say on the medications but you certainly shouldn’t beat yourself up over taking them, obviously you were considered past your child-bearing years. I understand the recurrent miscarriage as I also have experienced it. [name_f]Hope[/name_f] you get to see that beautiful heartbeat very soon!

[name_f]My[/name_f] suggestions for uninvited remarks is to say…Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn! Regardless of who is making the remark.

Oh! I love that!! I am going to say that!

The doctor said the only really bad med is the Cipro, and even then it probably is not so bad. I am off the Cipro now, so it is fine.

Congratulations and good luck! [name_f]My[/name_f] mom had my little sister when she was about your age she even has high blood pressure that she takes meds for and she was fine. It’s kind of fun having my son’s aunt only a year older. Know that everything will likely be fine and don’t worry what people will say. It will be nice for your youngest to have a similarly aged sibling if everything works out. I’ve had half my pregnancies end in miscarriage so I understand the worry, but take care of yourself and try to relax.

You are NOT going to be the oldest mom ever (I know a lady who became pregnant at 47 and she was convinced it was menopause so she found out when she was five months along) and even if you were, so what ? Nobody has any right to say anything to you but they will, won’t they (and about breastfeeding or not, co-sleeping or not, pre-schooling or not…)? Pretend not to hear them (with you being so old and hard of hearing…). And more importantly, don’t let that get to you - it is stressful enough as it is. [name_f]My[/name_f] thoughts and prayers are with you for a safe pregnancy and please, please, be kind on yourself !

I wouldn’t worry what anyone has to say, as long as the baby is born healthy - where is the problem? You have the ability to be a fantastic mum at 25 and you have the ability to be a fantastic mum 20 years later. Congratulations by the way!

Congratulations! I can only say this: pay attention to what your body and your instincts tell you, but [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t Stress. And have fun with your already-here kids before the new one comes!

Totally the others have got it plenty of people are having kids later in life I actually met someone who had there first child in her late 50’s I think she said it was a miracle because she thought she couldn’t have children , besides your kids in college will love having a little one to play dress up and carry around

I know plenty of women who have had babies in their forties who are perfectly fine with perfectly fine babies! Not to mention all the celebs at the moment having babies into their late forties haha! [name_f]My[/name_f] mums friend just had a her baby girl 4 weeks ago today at age 44 (we visited her today actually, what a gorgeous healthy bub she had with no complications). So don’t stress about your age! Congrats to you and your family, I hope all goes well :slight_smile: :slight_smile:

I thought I would update. [name_u]Baby[/name_u] is healthy and beautiful! His name is [name_m]Liam[/name_m].

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Believe me, you are not the oldest mum out there. The oldest woman to give birth to a baby, was 70 years old. Guess what? That’s also the age of the oldest woman to give birth to twins! You are young compared to them. Besides, my aunt is a nurse, and she helped to deliver a healthy baby to a 44 yr old woman. It was her ninth child and she was in labor for ten minutes, literally. I hope your pregnancy isn’t too rough!

Congratulations! I wasn’t on nameberry a year ago, but your story is just what I needed to read today :slight_smile:

Congratulations!