I know many parents want to honor somebody, but I don’t want to honor anyone! I want my child have her own name.
It doesn’t need to be totally unique, like Kareehereh, but popularity of some names can put me off. I live in non-Eglish-speaking country, so these english names I am fan of are unique enough.
I open this thread to ask you: do you feel the same or you really want to honor somebody? I understand some people can mean so much to us we want to honor them, but some people want to choose some other names, although they love their special ones as equal as other parents.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. If you don’t want to honor anybody, that is fine. I only honored family with the second middle name. The first name and first middle name were names that hubby and I loved.
I am actually not a fan of honoring. I want my children to have their own special names, not one already used. My parents didn’t honor anyone when naming us. Thus, there is no tradition in my family so I feel no need to honor and I don’t plan to. I also would encourage my future children not to because I’d rather be honored when I’m alive and not dead.
I get what you mean and it’s completely fine! When I eventually have my own kids I don’t think I want to honor anyone either. I want my children to have their own names. Not a name that’s been already used or passed down through multiple people. If I do honor it wouldn’t be by using that person’s name. Like maybe using a birthstone or something.
Definitely nothing wrong with it, it’s just a matter of preference!
For me though, I’d like names that have some type of special meaning to me. There are plenty of names that I like, but I’d only use a name that meant more to me than “I like it.” A name selected for its meaning has that reasoning objectively, so even if the child doesn’t really like their name they at least know there was a reason behind it. Chances are very slim that a parent and child will have the same taste, so I would give my children names with meanings that they can appreciate regardless of their feelings about the name itself. Honoring someone is one way to do that, but there are certainly other ways. Maybe there’s a place that’s special to you or the meaning of the name- names like [name]Nadia[/name] and [name]Felicity[/name] can be very sweet because of their literal translations.
You shouldn’t ever feel forced to name a child after someone. It should be an honor, not a requirement.
For me, there’s only a few family members I would name a child after. Also, some of my family members - like my paternal grandmother - have very old-fashioned names…and I don’t mean the kind that are ready to come back in style, either, so I had to do a little creative thinking to figure out how to honor her.
I don’t see a problem with not wanting to honor. I have very few names I would consider using for honoring purposes, and in the middle name slot only. To me, there’s no sense in being pressured or forced into using a name for a child just because somebody else in the family tree had that name. If people just kept passing on the same names, we’d all be named [name]John[/name] and [name]Mary[/name].
It is absolutely ok to give your child a brand new name. My girl name choices were ones never used in my family. Boy names were tougher for me so I turned to my family tree for inspiration, but I didn’t see that as the only pool of names I could pull from.
I didn’t want to honor anybody, because both sides of our family, especially mine, have extreme jealousy issues and would hold it against us and pressure us to name our next kid whatever. We did, however, honor both of my grandmothers but only because I LOVED their names, [name]Helen[/name] is my daughter’s middle name and Anevay is my other daughter’s first name–which is also the name of my native american grandmother. I love her name and I had to use it.
It is your baby give it any name you like. It doesn’t make it a better name because baby was named after Aunt [name]Maud[/name]. [name]Don[/name]'t give into family pressure to make you give baby a family name.
I HAVE THE EXACT SAME FEELINGS ABOUT THIS AS YOU!
[name]Even[/name] though I may dearly love and respect someone, I wouldn’t want to name my child after them because they might feel like they have to be exactly like the other person. That they aren’t their own person, free to do whatever they’d like.
Also, it might get confusing to take little [name]Anne[/name] to see Grandma [name]Anne[/name].
I use two middle names. [name]One[/name] honors a loved one and the first name and other middle are names Hubby and I just love. For example, I have [name]Sophia[/name] Adeleide [name]Kate[/name] on my list. [name]Sophia[/name] we just like Adeleide honors my sister [name]Heidi[/name] and the initials A.K. are my older sisters initials. So we chose names that we loved but honored in a subtle way. That’s always an option too. I thought about using my sisters middles, Lynae and [name]Kristine[/name], but I just didn’t love them, they dind’t fit our naming style so we found another way to honor but still choose names we loved. But to answer your question, no it is totally fine to use whatever names you just love!
[name]Don[/name]'t worry too much about your family’s preferences when you are naming your child.
It’s funny, when you do honor family members with names, they start to expect it in future children! When we named our sons, we used family names for first and middles, but mostly because we happened to love the names. Then, our daughter’s first name was a family name but her middle was one we just randomly loved. I actually wanted to name her [name]Elise[/name] [name]Julienne[/name] ([name]Julienne[/name] is my grandma, and she pronounces it Ju-leen), but my husband didn’t like it. Anyway, when we announced the name, my mom literally shouted, “Who’s [name]Marie[/name]?!”
Pick the names that give you a “warm fuzzy” and you’ll be happiest in the long run.
It’s an entirely personal decision I you want to honor someone with a baby name. However, is it possible that you haven’t lost anyone that you feel the need to honor with naming a child after them? You may find one day that your mind will change on this issue. Maybe not, but try to keep an open mind on the issue. You just never know
I won’t honor anyone in my family because my family can be petty and cruel about things. We’d have one happy person, and everyone else would be angry that we picked someone to honor over themselves. [name]Even[/name] if we named after someone who passed away it would be, “Why did you name someone from his side?” or “Why did you name from someone on her side.” Or “Why didn’t you honor this grandpa instead?” I’d rather not deal with it.
