Would you ever consider using a name one of your close friends has already used for her son?
I find myself in a position of totally loving the name [name_u]Blake[/name_u], it seems to exude a twinkle I have so desperately been seeking…however a good friend has a 6yo [name_u]Blake[/name_u], and we see them roughly once a month, or around 8/10 times a year. Mainly for special occasions, I’m usually at her kids birthday parties, and vice versa. Does this rule it completely unusable??? I’m thinking so, but would like to hear general consensus…
No, it does not rule it out. Most people do not mind if you ask their opinion first. She may be flattered that you both love the same name or she may find it uncomfortable - you will not know unless you ask.
Since you’re not even seeing them on a weekly basis, I seriously don’t think it would be a big deal at all
Depending on the name, I’d use it as a middle. [name_u]Blake[/name_u] is somewhat common, so I don’t think it matters if you wanted to use it has a first also. That 6yo probably knows at least two other Blakes anyway.
Ask her. Explain to her that you love the name [name_u]Blake[/name_u] and would like to use it for your son. I don’t think it’s a big deal as [name_u]Blake[/name_u] is a fairly common name, but I think it’s in good taste to let your friend know beforehand.
I personally wouldn’t use the name of one of my friend’s kids (I’d figure I can always find another name that is perfect that they haven’t used), but in this situation where [name_u]Blake[/name_u] is The Name, the best you can do is just ask if it would bother her. If it doesn’t, then you can go ahead.
If it’s the name you love, you should use it. Give your friend a heads up, but it’s your decision. Her [name_u]Blake[/name_u] would probably be excited to have a baby with the same name as his.
If I absolutely couldn’t think of another name I liked, and if my friend was OK with it, then maybe.
If I had any other options, I wouldn’t. There are so many names that I would consider it unnecessary to even tackle the issue. Seeing someone once a month would be quite enough to give a name they already used serious negative points for me.
As a lot of people have posted before, the first step would be to ask her opinion/let her know that you love the name. If neither of you have a problem with both your kids having the same name, then there’s nothing wrong with it.
I’m trying to think about the names of all my friends’ children (those that already have them). One has a son named [name_m]Nathaniel[/name_m], which I like. He goes by [name_m]Nate[/name_m] and [name_m]Nathan[/name_m] occasionally and I [name_u]LOVE[/name_u] [name_m]Nathan[/name_m].
Agree with the above. Of course, there’s no law against it; you’re entitled to name your child whatever you like. But I think it could lead to a little awkwardness even if she says she’s okay with it. I would keep earnestly looking, and if you absolutely, positively CANNOT come up with a single name that you like as much as [name_u]Blake[/name_u], then broach the subject. Especially since you see her pretty regularly. If you only saw her once every other year or only spoke to her on Facebook, it might be different, but given your proximity to her - why mess with it if you don’t have to? Maybe there’s something out there similar in style, meaning, or sound that you’re not yet aware of.
I’d ask her because she will probably say yes. Honestly, sometimes it feels like the perfect name because it’s unavailable… want what you can’t. You might just find it looses its luster once you can choose it.
No it doesn’t rule the name out but I would ask her opinion as she may be offended if you use the name that she chose for her son or alternatively she could be incredibly flattered. However you could use [name_u]Blake[/name_u] as a middle name therefore even if your friend is completely fine with you using it there wouldn’t be any confusion when you do meet.
You should ask her. If she says no to it, or says yes but reluctantly/with hesitation, then use another name. But if she’s okay with it, than use [name_u]Blake[/name_u]. It’s an amazing name!
Very well put, and same with the other comments thank you. I wanted general opinions first, but i do suspect DH may veto it because of the proximity too, I just feel I have exhausted so many names lists and nothing else presents the same appeal. I’m slightly at a loss as my gut says that my friend prob would say yes outwardly but might not really mean it.
What other names do you all suggest have a similar feeling / vibe / sound to [name_u]Blake[/name_u]?
You seem to be alot closer than just birthday party moms… I definitely wouldn’t do it. Now a similar name isn’t really off the table at all though.
[name_u]Blaze[/name_u]/[name_u]Blaise[/name_u], [name_m]Burke[/name_m], [name_m]Baker[/name_m], [name_u]Bryce[/name_u], [name_m]Brent[/name_m], [name_m]Brant[/name_m], [name_m]Brock[/name_m], [name_m]Bruce[/name_m], [name_u]Brady[/name_u], [name_m]Brody[/name_m]
I think its so common that she couldn’t possibly be offended, but I’d ask her anyways. Our oldest son has a very unique name, and we would like to keep it that way, so we personally would be offended if one of our friends just went ahead and named their son that, ESPECIALLY without asking first.
We don’t really have the same naming style, but we have friends with a [name_u]Blake[/name_u], and their others sons are Everrett and [name_u]Reid[/name_u] - maybe one of those you like?
What does your SO, if you have one, think? I had suggested [name_m]Isaac[/name_m] for our boy but he vetoed just because a good friend named his child that even though he loved it too. I thought it was a little silly as I never even met this kid or even the friend’s girlfriend but I respected my fiance’s feelings about it and we continued looking.
[name_f]Edit[/name_f]: [name_m]Ah[/name_m] never mind, I see this point has already been brought up.
