Specifically, if we choose a middle initial ‘J’ & fn initial is "E’ or ‘A’, will people want to call him EJ/AJ?
Not a fan of these initial nn’s at all and hoping this isn’t such a mainstream trend in society that’s hard to avoid as child becomes older or even in the childhood years… but I’ve known A LOT of AJ’s, EJ’s, TJ’s, RJ’s, etc… so hoping we can insist with people to not go this route if they start referring to my child by one of these initial nn’s.
I don’t think any nickname is inevitable. [name]Just[/name] say this is my child ----- and leave it at that. I am thinking of doing a first and middle name that start with J, and I have no intention of calling my child JJ, or allowing anyone else to call him that.
My sons initails are J.P and i had one person call him JP… i quickly said… his name is [name]Josef[/name]… that ended it!
No one really asks MN’s after the baby is a bit older… no one will care… just introduce him by his first name!
Most people don’t introduce themselves with their middle names, so I think it would be easily avoided most of the time. I don’t think this should be too concerning. 
I think so. I was afraid of this for the longest time because [name]Caleb[/name] [name]Joseph[/name] was my favorite boys’ name before I added the second MN. I really did not want my son to be CJ! As the others have said, though, most people aren’t introduced by their FN and MN, so I would think you’re safe.
It’s unavoidable. Someone is bound to do the whole “initials-make-a-great-nick-name-so-I-do-not-have-to-say-your-whole-name.”
Your child may prefer this kind of a nickname. Most especially if they know their middle name.
The only way to can manage the chaos of this trend is by formulating a name combination that does not suggest it.
And I’m not a fan of it either.
I don’t think it will be an issue at all to be honest.
Family members who will be familiar with his full name can be easily reminded/corrected and strangers or friends will most likely only know him by his first name so may never even make the connection.
The only time I see it becoming a viable nickname option is if you or your significant other use it, then people will follow your lead; or if the child themselves decides they like it and choose to introduce themselves that way.
It certainly wouldn’t be something that would stop me from using those names if I really loved them.
I thought the ‘_J’ nns were usually from when the child was a ‘junior’, as in [name]David[/name]'s son, [name]David[/name] (junior) becomes DJ to distinguish from Dad [name]David[/name]?
I think it would only occur if you introduced it.
I dislike initial nicknames a lot and in Australia you don’t hear it much. I think it is really the parents who promote this kind of nn as most people don’t have a clue about your child’s middle name.
I’ve got the middle name beginning with J thing myself and growing up nobody ever called me SJ. The only person that does now is my boyfriend, which I don’t mind at all, and I call him a nickname relating to his first and middle names so it balances out. I don’t know if it’s more prevalent on boys though, but I’ve only ever known one person go by a _J nickname, and he introduced himself as CJ, so that’s what we all called him. I think he hated his first name which was why he did it, though. I wouldn’t say it’s an inevitability at all, it depends how regularly you use the middle name really as to whether anyone would even pick up on it.
I think the only way it could become an issue is if your child himself decided he wanted to go by _J as he gets older. My dd’s name could easily be shortened into a gazillion tempting nicknames, but so far (she’s now 6.5yo) everyone (herself included) has followed our lead by calling her by her full name. However, we did choose that name knowing that SHE might want to use a nickname at some point, and we have to be okay with that.
I have a son with the fn & mn initials “RJ.” My mom was not crazy about his name when we told her, and she said would call him RJ. But she never has, and no one else has tried. He’s only 4, though, so there’s still time. But those kinds of nicknames aren’t that popular here. I’ve known two – one as a kid, and one was a kid of a friend. In both cases, the parents called the kid by the nn from the beginning; it wasn’t something that someone else started.
Well my cousin is an AJ and I think it’s pretty cool! I’ve heard of several JJ’s over the years but never any EJ’s or anything else. I know of 2 JP’s ([name]John[/name]-[name]Paul[/name] and [name]Juan[/name] [name]Pedro[/name]). I wouldn’t personally want to use of these nicknames but please be aware that as your son gets older he may enjoy these kind of nicknames and actually want to be called AJ, EJ, EJ etc. So you may be able to avoid it while he’s younger but do realise you’ll have no option when he reaches his teens and wants to be known as something else…
I thought that too, because it only happens with Js. I think if you introduce him as "__ J____, and we call him ____," that would clear the problem.
I know two people with J initials: the almost-3-year-old sibling of someone in my school, [name]John[/name] [name]Thomas[/name] I believe, who I think was named after a grandpa and they liked JT, and JJ, who’s name is [name]Jared[/name] and none of his other names begin with J, he’s just been JJ since the first day of kindergarten.
I think you’ll be fine because most people won’t know her mn from the start, so they’ll just be calling her by her first. I don’t like initial nicknames either. My sister named my nephew [name]Bailey[/name] [name]James[/name] and I thought he was going to get BJ, but everyone just calls him [name]Bailey[/name] or [name]Bay[/name]. I think, unless you start it, the initial nickname thing probably won’t take off.