… and there were absolutely NO boy names you and your SO could agree on, would you ever consider using one of your children’s second names as a first name for another baby?
If I had known I would have four boys… and now possibly five… I would have saved some of the names we used as second names for future first names. And now I would [name]LOVE[/name] to use our oldest son’s second name as a first name if we have another boy.
DH hates all boy names. Seriously.
Would you consider it?
It’s a bit strange to me, but I think it would depend on how much you actually used his mn and how many people know what it is. Yes, it would be on the birth announcement, but most people would probably forget about it over time and just think of his first name. I’d say if you love the name and can’t find any other ones, go for it.
I agree with this.
It would have to be a truly desperate, last resort thing for me. Hopefully you’ll have a girl and make it a non-issue, but you still have time to hash things out and find a new name and/or wear hubby down on your top picks.
I have a friend whose middle name is [name]Michelle[/name], and her younger sister is named…[name]Michelle[/name] 
They have 4 girls in their family so I guess their mom went through something similar as you! I don’t think it’s that big of a deal, first names are so important so you should choose one you really really love.
Yes, I would consider it. Especially since we used my absolutely [name]FAVORITE[/name] name [name]EVER[/name] for my son’s middle name. If other people have a problem with it… well, it’s none of their business. If your kids say something about it later, then just tell them that you loved the name too much to just use it once. Especially with boys - it won’t bother them at all.
Maybe, if I really couldn’t find any other names I loved. It depends on how much you use their middle names though.
I wouldn’t have that problem because I don’t like any of my favorite names together. Ex) I wouldn’t name a son [name]Ashley[/name] [name]Greer[/name] because I love [name]Greer[/name] too much to use as a mn that he’ll most likely never be called
I feel that once you give a child a name it belongs to them; it’s their property. I think you should ask your older son how he feels about giving his name to his brother
Are there any variants of the name that you could use?
^^ Hear, hear! I would definitely ask your oldest son about it. And I would take his personality into consideration. Is he super possessive about his property? If he shares well and is really proud of being a big brother, he might actually like the baby being “named after him”.
I wouldn’t personally, I’d just continuing searching for a name I loved or a name we could both agree on.
It’s like that for me with girls. I always [name]LOVE[/name] their middle names enough to use as a first name so when I found out I was having another girl my first thought was I’ll use [name]Dulcea[/name], then again I’ll name her [name]Bella[/name] but of course I don’t. I go on to fall in love with a new name that’s all their own.
Well…
So maybe it could work. Thanks for the replies.
My husband has a brother named [name]Phillip[/name] [name]Michael[/name] and a brother named [name]Michael[/name] [name]Ryan[/name]. I don’t think it’s every bothered them at all. It doesn’t seem like boys would care too much about something like that, but I could be wrong. I only have one and he’s a toddler.
I think it’s perfectly fine. What matters is naming your child a name that you love.
I wouldn’t. I’d keep looking. I wouldn’t want my child to feel like second best. I personally wouldn’t appreciate getting a “hand me down” of anything from a sibling, why would a name be different?
for variants of [name]Alexander[/name] , how about…
[name]Alec[/name]
[name]Xander[/name]
[name]Alexi[/name]
[name]Lex[/name]
Other Names you might like…
[name]Oliver[/name]/Olivander
[name]Hamilton[/name]
[name]Alvin[/name]
[name]Alcott[/name]
[name]Christopher[/name]
[name]Jameson[/name]
[name]Anderson[/name]***
[name]Fredric[/name] nn [name]Fritz[/name]
[name]Winston[/name]
[name]Bartholomew[/name]
[name]Henric[/name]
[name]Nicholas[/name]
[name]Michael[/name]
[name]Gabriel[/name]
[name]Patrick[/name]
[name]Adam[/name]
[name]Desmond[/name]
[name]Henry[/name]
[name]Quincy[/name]
I think that [name]Sasha[/name] could be the name for you. It is a variant of [name]Alexander[/name], but less common and has a softer, more unisex sound like your older son [name]Bailey[/name]'s name. [name]Do[/name] you like it?
L xx
What about
[name]Alec[/name]/[name]Aleks[/name]
[name]Lex[/name]
[name]Leander[/name]
[name]Evander[/name]
Olivander- this is an actual name that I heard of long before [name]Harry[/name] [name]Potter[/name] was even written (the HP guy is Ollivander)
[name]Sander[/name]
[name]Anders[/name]
I know 2 people that have been in the same situation and used the oldest sons’s middle for number 3’s first. No one seemed bothered about it all and the boys could care less.
Since you never use his mn and he thinks it’d be cool, I’d say it would be fine. I do like the suggestion of asking your older son what he thinks, just so he has some warning, just in case. Like I said, though, it sounds like he’d agree with the idea!