this isnt the first time ive had baby name regret. ive tried to stop thinking about other names but cant. i have 3 kids: [name]Alexander[/name] Ikaika, [name]Violet[/name] [name]Leilani[/name] and [name]Scarlett[/name] Mahealani. my husband and i couldnt agree on a name when i was pregnant with my last daughter. we both liked [name]Lily[/name] but i wanted something outside of the top 20 and when he suggested [name]Scarlett[/name] i just agreed, i was tired of thinking about names and i did/do like the name. i decided to ignore the fact that it was so close to [name]Violet[/name]. i really wanted the middle name to be hoku but ppl kept saying it was ugly. it means star in hawaiian and i regret not going with what i like and asking others opinions. im also sad they both dont have flower names 
my baby is 8 1/2 months now…is it too late to change it? am i being silly?
I think her name is beautiful, and by now she probably recognizes it. I wouldn’t change a name that far in, or at all, but only you can make this decision.
I love the name [name]Scarlett[/name] and think her middle name is beautiful too. I think[name]Scarlett[/name] is prettier and way, way more unique than [name]Lily[/name] which in my mind is both super trendy and lacks the strength that [name]Scarlett[/name] has.
I think at this age, I wouldn’t change her first name, but if you really regret not using Hoku perhaps you could change her middle name, or add it as a 2nd middle? What does Mahealani mean?
I think a little bit of name regret is really common. I love my daughter’s first name but wish we’d gone with a slightly different middle name (It’s [name]Belle[/name], and in hind sight I wish we’d gone with [name]Isabelle[/name]) but at 2 1/2 she knows her name, everyone knows her by it, and I can’t imagine changing it now.
I think [name]Scarlett[/name] is a beautiful name, and it works with [name]Alexander[/name] and [name]Violet[/name]. I really think that at 8 mos. it’s far to late to change it. She probably recognizes it now, her siblings recognize it, and your husband obviously liked it well enough to suggest it. As the above poster said, if Hoku means a lot to you, change her middle name.
[name]Scarlett[/name] Mahealani is gorgeous. [name]Lily[/name] Hoku is gorgeous. (Hoku reminds me of the singer from the 90s, the one who sang Perfect [name]Day[/name] and Another Dumb Blonde. I don’t have any strong feelings about the singer, but for some reason I find the name to be really endearing.) I don’t think that one name is better than the other. However, since you are clearly having strong feelings of regret about the name, it would probably be worthwhile to talk about it with your husband and put thought into changing it. ([name]Lily[/name] Mahealani and [name]Scarlett[/name] Hoku are also both gorgeous, in case you think you might want to change her name a bit but not completely.)
You’re in a tough situation and there really isn’t a right answer. At this point it’s up to you. If you end up deciding that you have to change your daughter’s name then I don’t think that she’s too old at 8 1/2 months, but you should probably do it soon.