I’m almost 28 weeks, and my fiance and I decided on a name around 17 weeks. We couldn’t agree on anything, but then we decided that we both liked the sound of [name_m]Canaan[/name_m]. FI refuses to spell it any other way than Kainen. We’d call him [name_m]Kane[/name_m]. Middle name [name_u]James[/name_u].
I’ve been having my doubts recently about the name. We never say his name, or refer to him by his name, discuss it, etc. We’ve already told several family members, but I’m starting to wonder if I really want to give my baby this name. I think maybe I’d like just “[name_m]Kane[/name_m]” better, but [name_m]Kane[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] sounds kinda weird.
I’m nervous to tell my fiance about my doubts because this was the only name we could agree on. Anyone else change their mind about the baby’s name?
Might be overcomplicating things, but maybe if [name_m]Kane[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] sounds too rhymey, you could add another middle? Something like [name_m]Kane[/name_m] [name_m]Alexander[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u] or [name_m]Kane[/name_m] [name_u]Elliot[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u] would solve the problem.
As far as changing your mind, I don’t have experience myself but it seems pretty normal for people to change their minds right up until the moment they have the baby (and after, in some cases.) [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t be afraid to speak up! Better to say something now than regret keeping silent later.
Maybe just ask him if he likes the sound of just [name_m]Kane[/name_m], perhaps [name_m]Kane[/name_m] [name_u]Jameson[/name_u] ?
Be casual about it. If he likes Kainen, maybe he’d be alright with just [name_m]Kaine[/name_m] or [name_m]Kain[/name_m].
[name_m]Kane[/name_m] / [name_m]Kaine[/name_m] / [name_m]Kain[/name_m]
I think many people have “second thoughts” on baby’s name. It is a huge deal to name a person.
However, it is easy to overthink it.
You both might like or agree on these if you like [name_m]Kane[/name_m] or Kainen.
[name_u]Keagan[/name_u] / [name_u]Keegan[/name_u]
[name_u]Kieran[/name_u]
[name_u]Keenan[/name_u]
[name_u]Kaelen[/name_u] / [name_u]Kaelan[/name_u]
[name_u]Kiernan[/name_u]
[name_f]Kallen[/name_f] / [name_m]Callen[/name_m] / [name_m]Callan[/name_m] or [name_m]Kellen[/name_m]
[name_m]Kian[/name_m] (rhymes with [name_m]Ian[/name_m])
[name_m]Ian[/name_m]
[name_m]Killian[/name_m]
[name_u]Phoenix[/name_u]
[name_u]Channing[/name_u]
You also may want to narrow it down to a few names and see what the vibe is once he’s born.
Absolutely discuss it with your fiance. Is [name_u]James[/name_u] an honor middle name that can’t be changed?
My husband and I had one name selected until 23 weeks or so and changed it. I thought bringing it up to him was probably pointless because once he’s sold on something it’s hard to talk him out of it. But surprisingly he agreed with me and were both so much more comfortable with the name we’ve changed it to!!
I like the idea of [name_m]Kane[/name_m] [name_u]Jameson[/name_u], I’ll keep that stowed away as a possibility. Thank you!
We changed our daughter’s name a week before she arrived.
If you’re having second thoughts, I definitely think you should talk it through. Much better to bring it up now than regret your choice later.
My plan for our daughter was to take 2-3 names into the hospital and wait to meet her and practise calling her a few names to see what we felt chimed with her. I really don’t think you’re so far along that the name can’t be reviewed and changed - my daughter had two names in utero (besides her everyday term of endearment), one for first few months, then one for last 5-6, and we didn’t use either! This name that was 5th on list just jumped out as her name when we met her. That might not be comforting but, truly, it seems pretty normal, often quite fun, and certainly OK to discuss names!
If it helps, I prefer [name_m]Kane[/name_m] alone or it spelt [name_m]Kaine[/name_m] so closer to the longer name.