indecent name association?

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We have decided to narrow out list down to 3 names and take that list to the delivery room with us. One of our top names is [name_f]Jillian[/name_f]. I love the name and the nn [name_f]Jill[/name_f] has really grown on me. However, recently I had a friends teenager inform me that [name_f]Jill[/name_f] is associated with a sexual act. He said “Jilling off” is the equivalent of “jacking off” but referring to a woman instead. I did a quick google search and confirmed this. I also learned that you hold your hand up the thumb and pointer name a J and then the rest of the hand spells [name_f]Jill[/name_f]. So sometimes “taking [name_f]Jill[/name_f] home or it’s just me and [name_f]Jill[/name_f]” is a reference to a guy well you know.

Ugh… I don’t know. Have you guys heard of this association? Is it something I should be concerned about if we plan to use the nn [name_f]Jill[/name_f]? Am I driving myself crazy over thinking things?

Thanks for your thoughts!

I have never heard of this, but if a teenager knows it, chances are it is well known to the younger generation and therefore I would steer clear of it :confused: too bad…

UK - never heard of it

UK. Never heard of it either. Something to ask a teen about I think… X

I can understand why you would be concerned, however I have never heard of any of those expressions. I have a friend whose daughter is named [name_f]Jillian[/name_f] nn [name_f]Jill[/name_f] and no one has ever commented on her nn in a negative way. Also- my guardian’s name is [name_f]Becky[/name_f] which is also a slang term for a sexual act, and she didn’t even know until last year when someone told her for the first time. I wouldn’t be too worried about it.

I think you’re overthinking it. Not really, it’s a valid concern… but I don’t think it’s so common that teasing is unavoidable. If kids want to tease another kid, they will find a way no matter what the name. I think [name_f]Jilly[/name_f]/[name_f]Jillie[/name_f] is cute for when she’s young though, which may help…?

I know I have given my opinion already but as a person whose initials are BJ - I have to say I was relentlessly teased for it in middle/high school. I was informed in THIRD grade what my initials ‘stood for.’ Then explained what it was. I went home in tears. So I have to say if this is a now commonly used term (which my niece who is a Senior in high school says she knew exactly what it meant), I would be very leery of using it.

I’ve met Jillians and the thought has never crossed my mind.
I think if someone was vulgar and idiotic enough to bring that up around someone who was named [name_f]Jillian[/name_f], then that’s their problem, not [name_f]Jillian[/name_f]'s.
I should hope that your future kid’s acquaintances would possess a little decency in that regard! :-? :slight_smile:
Also, coming from a teenager myself, no one uses that term AT ALL. Yes, it DOES exist, but it’s very obscure and I don’t even know the type of person that would use it unless they were being ironic.
You don’t hear people being afraid to use [name_m]Jack[/name_m] for their son (and no one ever makes the connection anyway), so why should you be afraid to use [name_f]Jillian[/name_f]? :slight_smile:
Besides, personally, I really like [name_f]Jillian[/name_f] and think it’s underused.
[name_m]Don[/name_m]'t let this stop you from choosing the name YOU love!

My thoughts exactly. Plus, I’m fairly young I would say and no one ever used that term when I was in high school nor has anyone used it so far in college. I personally don’t see it as an issue.

USA- never once have I heard of this. There’s a ton of slang out there and not all of it is widely used. I know a woman named [name_f]Jill[/name_f] who is a few years older than myself and (who I met when I was a teenager) and have never heard anyone say anything about her name. Honestly I wouldn’t worry about it. Some names have widely used “negative” associations and the names are still usable (such as [name_m]John[/name_m] and “going to the [name_m]John[/name_m]”). I feel like any name can have bad associations if you look for them. [name_f]Jillian[/name_f] is a lovely name :3

Thanks for your feedback. It sounds like it’s not a widely known slang term. I’m in the US and have never heard of it until now. [name_u]True[/name_u] about the name [name_m]Jack[/name_m]. It’s a much stronger association and I still think [name_m]Jack[/name_m] is a great name.

I wouldn’t worry about it. After all, we don’t worry about using [name_m]Jack[/name_m] as a boy’s name nor should we, [name_f]IMO[/name_f]. I haven’t heard anything negative but I guess there are all sorts of references out there that a small group may be familiar with. I say you should use [name_f]Jillian[/name_f]/[name_f]Jill[/name_f].