Normally, I tell people that unless initials are really really awful, not to worry about them.
But now, I’m considering giving my daughter these initials. Which I probably wouldn’t bat an eye at if I didn’t have topimandibular joint disorder, commonly known as TMD.
I fairlu frequently ( probably a few times a month if not more), use these initials to describe the disorder, stuff like “my TMD is acting up” “I have to make an appointment with my TMD doctor” “the chiro adjusted my jaw to help with TMD” “I don’t think I can eat that, I’m having a TMD flare up”, etc (I also do call it TMJ at times, which is incorrect but a common mistake).
[name_f]Do[/name_f] you think this is likely to be a problem? I can’t imagine regularly (or ever) referring to my child by her full initials, I probably won’t write them very frequently, and the only time I mention my first daughter’s initials is in conversations about initials, or about LED lights.
I just don’t want her to ever feel her name is associated with something negative, or be annoyed at me saying them to refer to a medical condition or something. Basically: it wouldn’t bother me, but would it bother my kid?
If I had the disorder, I wouldn’t use it. I like [name_f]Hazel[/name_f], but won’t think of it in a contender light because I’m allergic to hazelnuts, for the same reasons I would discount TMD as initials if I had TMD myself.
That being said, very rarely do I imagine ever using my kids’ initials on things, without the rest of the name. On forms there is usually a space for a middle initial, but I don’t think I’ve ever been asked “Can I just have your full initials, please?”
It’s probably not that big of a deal, but if I had the association and knew I’d hear the initials a lot, or would have everything monogrammed, then I’d think of something different as a name.
If you really love this name (as in you don’t love any other names more), I say just use it. She’ll go by other nicknames and people don’t usually notice initials anyway.
Dear @ leadmythoughts, that’s an awfully unfortunate situation. Many will say no worries. I did wonder what… until you explained your condition.
You asked for opinions-No I wouldn’t use it. It’s just the situation that could draw one thoughtless comment.
e.g. [name_m]How[/name_m] funny your initials are the same as Mommy’s condition. You may be able to handle that sort of thing astutely but the potential is there which you obviously have identified.
Rhetorically speaking.
Any chance of improvement in your condition through management ?
That you cease/refrain from using the initials to refer to thus lessening chances of connection?
Having been so negative, I sincerely hope you find a solution/resolution
either swap an initial, or be able to use the names you love.
Best wishes.
My husband works at a place where they use their initials to sign papers every day. When I present him with a name, the initials are the first thing he considers. It might not bother her when shes little, but if she grows up and needs to use her initials for a career, it might bring a sense of irritation - or maybe her intials would change when she gets married.
No way to know!
With that being said, I do think initials are important, and in your personal situation, I would really try to avoid that negativity.
Sorry!