Posted this once already, but only got one response (thankyou for your input “leadmythought”) I’m just hoping for more opinions on this…
we FINALLY found a name we love,*THEN realised that the initials of first, middle and surname, spell out her big brothers name!!! Should we still use it? Would it cause teasing?
Also, the other small part, is possibly down to me overthinking things, (which I have a tendency to do!) and my fiancé says I’m worrying too much about this part: but as the middle name would be [name]Echo[/name], would she feel like an after thought? Echoing her big brother, especially with her initials spelling his name? I’m not sure if that’s a silly thought
So what does everyone think, is this initial thing a “no go” for us?! After finally finding a name we love? Are we over thinking this, or not?
I’m sorry to say that I would look elsewhere. Sibling dynamics are a tricky thing, and, being the younger of two, I would have hated my initials spelling out my sibling’s name. Younger ones often receive hand-me-down clothes/toys/etc., and have a tendency to feel like they are being held to the standard of the elder. Of course, those are my own perceptions from my own experiences.
Honestly, it doesn’t bother me at all. Of course, I’m the oldest, so I don’t really think I can judge this honestly from a little sibling vantage point, but there weren’t a ton of hand-me-downs in my family (there’s four of us!), and I like to think I was a pretty good big sister. If relations between the siblings are good, I think it could be a cute tie, maybe one nobody would even recognize. And I don’t really think the [name]Echo[/name] thing really figures in at all… I never would have put that together. When you mentioned [name]Echo[/name], I had no clue where you were going with it, how it was related to her big brother at all, haha. I think it’s a stretch. It’s not like she doesn’t have her own name–or that you were purposefully naming her after your son. It just happened. Honestly, they will probably notice. It’s initials, and it’s your son’s name. But I can’t imagine that it would cause a lot of drama. “Oh, look! [name]Lila[/name] has my name!” or “Oh, look! My initials spell [name]Leo[/name]!” But I can’t really imagine any strongly negative feelings about it. Then again, I’m a big sister, so what do I know?
[name]One[/name] more thought. I don’t know if your children are/will be in daycare, but all of the children’s items are usually asked to have the child’s initials. That brings to mind a bit of my childhood. It was THE thing to have your initials (not monogram) embroidered on your bookbag when I was in middle and high school. In my own home, I know that I initial quite a bit of things to mark whose they are. It could get quite confusing.
that was exactly one of my concerns, I mentioned it in my first post about this, which was a lot longer! I’m not sure if a link will work here but lets try it! This was my original post:
ohhh I can’t believe I might have to go back to the drawing board, I’m so bummed out!!!
I just read your first post. If they’re close in age, then it probably will be noticed at school. I know how awful it is to have to go back to the drawing board after finding a name you love! Would it be possible to find a different middle instead of scrapping the whole thing? People on here are terrific at coming up with combos!
I wouldn’t worry about it! Sibling-wise… my initials spell [name]GEM[/name], and my little brother’s spell GRM (close to GERM), which I liked to make fun of him for when we were young, but it wasn’t a big deal. Also, me and my brother’s names have the exact same first three letters ([name]Grace[/name] and [name]Grant[/name]), which wasn’t a problem either. In addition to that, I dated someone whose initials spelled his own name… [name]Zack[/name] [name]Adam[/name] [name]Carson[/name] K--------. So his initials literally spelled [name]ZACK[/name], which was his first name… but he said it didn’t bother him. however, he used to joke that his parents must have been drunk or stupid to name him that way.
Use whatever name you like, and don’t worry about the initials! Unless you want to use something like [name]Annabel[/name] [name]Sarah[/name] [name]Smith[/name], in which case, I would have a problem with the initials. I love [name]Echo[/name] as a middle name, and wouldn’t think of the child as a literal [name]Echo[/name].
If relations between the siblings are good, I think it could be a cute tie, maybe one nobody would even recognize. And I don’t really think the [name]Echo[/name] thing really figures in at all… I never would have put that together. When you mentioned [name]Echo[/name], I had no clue where you were going with it, how it was related to her big brother at all, haha. I think it’s a stretch. It’s not like she doesn’t have her own name–or that you were purposefully naming her after your son. It just happened. Honestly, they will probably notice. It’s initials, and it’s your son’s name. But I can’t imagine that it would cause a lot of drama. “Oh, look! [name]Lila[/name] has my name!” or “Oh, look! My initials spell [name]Leo[/name]!” But I can’t really imagine any strongly negative feelings about it. Then again, I’m a big sister, so what do I know?