I’m not pregnant yet,but obsessed with names. But do you think to yourself, one day you can use one of your names, that’s exciting, since you have been collecting for awhile. But when the baby is born gender not important. Are you afraid that your new baby would be nameless? Does this bother you or has happened to you?
I’m not pregnant either.
But I’m a pretty decisive person. Once I pick something I go with it. Also because I plan on knowing the gender, it’ll give me time to call the baby by name before it’s born so it shouldn’t phase me when I do give birth. I also don’t like very many names so I find it hard to believe none of the names I love will fit… so I don’t worry about it at all.
Im not expecting a baby any time soon but yes this worries me. I am probably the most indecisive person you will ever meet. Not only do I think I won’t have the guts to use the name I love but I also dont think Ill be able to decide on one all together because Im very big on the name fitting the person. Im afraid I just wont find a name that fits him/her. But at least I have about 10 years to work on that 
When I got pregnant, all my name lists went out the window and I started from scratch. I made the wrong choice for my sons name - I wish I hadn’t let people influence me and next time I plan on sticking to my guns.
I’m never worried my babies will be nameless, but I have had the experience of being pregnant and suddenly not liking any of the names I had been collecting since I was seven. I was a little disappointed with myself–like it was two decades of namenerdery wasted–but it just meant I had to keep looking until I found the name that was right for him…and I did, with a couple months to spare.
See, I felt the exact opposite, lol - I was so excited to actually name a child that I started over.
I guess my mom did the same thing she had [name]Ayla[/name] or [name]Alaina[/name] picked out and my middle name my grandma’s name. Everyone thought my name was going to be one of those, 2-3 days later without a firstname, Machion was my name. it was my moms friends daughter’s name [name]Michon[/name] but mom didn’t know how to spell it, i’m happy she added a letter and moved one. instead Mashawn. or other ways.
I’ve been working on my lists - adding, changing, taking names off, putting them back on ect…since I was in my teens. Now, though we’re not expecting, or even trying at the moment, I ask my partner for input and his thoughts on my lists. I love finding names that are perfect for us both. So no, I don’t worry that my child will be nameless. I think I’ll have a few top contenders, and then wait to meet the little person before making a final choice. But who knows! When the time eventually does come, I could end up being indecisive and flakey!
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I have been name obsessed for as long as I can remember. I read my first baby name book cover to cover when I was 16. I also have two written my self (one in a [name]Lisa[/name] frank book lol). The second was started because the first had too many crossed out as my taste changes. [name]Even[/name] after all the names I have always loved and said “my next girl will without a doubt be named…” I cannot find anything that is perfect when I am really picking a name for my real child. All of a sudden now that I am pregnant every name seems SO PRETTY… But not the one. My picky DHmay have something to do with that but it also seems when I’m not expecting I love the word names, unique names, or never heard of names. And I would never [name]EVER[/name] consider any thing on the topn100 or 200 even. But now… I am considering a few top 100 guilty pleasure trendy names. The point is it is different when your naming a real child that will go to school with real (possibly mean) kids. But it is twice the fun. I Have one child already and I can assure you (and myself) that a child won’t go nameless. I agree it is so fun hearing your partners suggestions. It makes it a challange and changes your opinion on some names you’ve had and opens your eyes to names you’ve read over.
I’m afraid that whomever I marry (because I do hope to marry someone in the future!) will be very opinionated and will not like most of the names I enjoy. I want to incorporate family names and I do that successfully for the first two names for each gender. After that, it is more difficult so, hopefully, my husband will have some good family names he’d like to use!
For girls, I have so many names that I love and I know for sure what I would do if two girls dropped on my doorstep tomorrow. A third girl would cause a bit of trouble picking between the many options on my list because they are all kind of tied after the top 2.
For boys, I really only have the first one set in stone, after that I don’t know what exactly I’d do unless I knew I was going to have three boys for sure, then it would be easier to figure out, but I don’t think I want three boys, haha!
I think it will be difficult for me because I don’t think I will find out the gender for my first baby (and would hope my husband would want to do the same because if he knew and I didn’t I would go crazy!). For me… I know that I really really really want a daughter in the future. I have a matriarchal family and have been raised solely by my mother for the past 8 years. I want the mother-daughter connection and I would love to have (at the very least) two girls so they could have a sister bond like I do with my sister. (I also have a lot more fun with girl names than boys, haha!)
So, since I really want a daughter, I know that I can’t find out for the first baby because, if it’s a boy, I would probably be disappointed for the months after I found out. I hope to have at least 3 kids, so if the first is a boy, I will probably be okay. However, I wouldn’t be able to find out for the second then either because I would, again, be disappointed if I had another boy. I just really know I want a daughter. It feels bad to have a preference and I know that everyone says “It’s just important to have a healthy baby,” but I know that I want a daughter and I really can’t fight that feeling right now! Of course, that could change in the next ten years which is when I might actually start having kids, haha.