Interesting reasons to explain opposition to a name choice

General Name Discussion
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[name]Hi[/name] fellow breeders!
My husband I were discussing name possibilities & it inspired me to ask you guys to share your stories”

Funny, interesting or bizarre reasons why you or your partner are opposed to a particular name.

[name]Hugo[/name] is one of my top 2-3 names (in the event of a boy of course) so I threw it in the ring. What followed was a half hour nostalgic dissertation describing a series of elaborate & tangled romantic events that occurred in 1989 ” the comingling of lust, jealousy, unrequited love, yadda yadda. It wasn”t until towards the end of the story was it revealed that all this drama went down during Hurricane [name]Hugo[/name].

It was so charming & sweet”& kinda silly but it killed [name]Hugo[/name]. Well I’m a little heartbroken because I really loved the name. Buy hey, there”s more where that came from.

ME: [name]How[/name]”s about [name]Circe[/name] for a girl?
HIM: The pig???!!
ME: No, the siren that turned men into swine. [name]How[/name]”s that for starting her off with an advantage?

Namaste!
Fugitive

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Your post made me laugh.
Me: [name]How[/name] about [name]Nora[/name]?
Him: No
Me: Why not? Its so pretty.
Him: It sounds like a dork’s name.
Me: No it doesn’t
Him: Yeah, well, in high school I knew a girl named [name]Nora[/name] who was a total dork.
Me:???
Me:???
Me: That was like 10 years ago
Him: Yep

So apparently the names of the 500 kids he went to high school with are out :slight_smile:

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It’s funny how it only takes one person to make or break a name for someone.
I like the name [name]Devin[/name]. As a child my husband grew up with a “weird” kid with the same name. We’re talking over 20 years ago.
I used to hate the name [name]Ruby[/name] thanks to a morally crippled neighbor we had about 7 years ago. Maybe we would have considered it for a our last daughter now 5 but at the time the name was still tarnished by our neighbor.
We don’t even live in the same city any more and the chances of running into her are slim (the world is quite small). I think this lovely name needs a new life. It’s now up for consideration.

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I love this!

I’m a fan of [name]Circe[/name], too, but the association isn’t great, obviously.

I considered Pegasus for my son, so naturally had the “what, like the flying horse?” conversation a million times. Also “so what, he’s going to be called [name]Peggy[/name]?”. At which point I’d reveal that that was, in fact, my intention, and the person would edge away slowly …

Me : We’re thinking of Pegasus.
My dad : Or how about Caligula?
Me : What?
Dad : The [name]Roman[/name] emperor who elected his horse to the senate. Seeing as you seem so fond of them.

I heard a comedienne knocking the name [name]Fiona[/name], too (she was hilarious, actually) :
“All Fionas are b*****s. Are there any Fionas here tonight?”
[name]Silence[/name].
“Thought not. They’re all out killing babies.”

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The Squeak Response
Sometimes I tell my husband I like or love a certain name, like say, [name]Frances[/name].
I say, “I love the name [name]Frances[/name]!”
He says, or I should say, he almost squeaks, “[name]Frances[/name]?! [name]Frances[/name]?! What kind of name is that? [name]Humph[/name]! You’ve got to be kidding! That sounds like a waitress!”

The [name]Non[/name]-Squeak Response:
I say, “I love the name [name]Henry[/name]!”
He says, “uhhh…” He feels neutral about it.

Then there’s the [name]Person[/name] He Knew with that Name Whom He Didn’t Like Response:
I say, “I love the name [name]Meredith[/name]!”
He almost squeaks, “[name]Meredith[/name]! No!”
He knew someone in high school who he didn’t like whose last name was [name]Meredith[/name].

Then there’s the I Actually [name]Love[/name] that Name Response:
I say, “I love the name [name]Veronica[/name]!”
He says, “Yes, I love the name [name]Veronica[/name], too!” And then he smiles at me!

Then there’s the Really Sweet Response:
I say, “Think of a name that you would name me!”
He says, “I would name you [name]Lizzy[/name].”
Sometimes he says, “I would name you [name]Veronica[/name].”

Then there’s the Kind of Dubious Response:
I say, “You know what name I would give to you?”
He says, “What?”
I say, " I would name you [name]Oliver[/name]!"
He says, “Huh!” ( He doesn’t really like that name.)
I say, “Okay, I would name you [name]William[/name].” (Or some other name he likes.)

Then there’s the I’ve Heard Too Many Names Now so I [name]Will[/name] Pretend to be Asleep Response:
I say, “[name]Do[/name] you like the name [name]Vincent[/name]? Hmmm? Hmmm?”
There is silence and he lies completely still next to me. But I know he isn’t asleep because he isn’t snoring. All I hear is the whooshing vacuum cleaner noise of his sleep apnea machine.

[name]Don[/name]'t worry, we don’t talk about names all the time. We talk about the Dodgers a lot because he loves the Dodgers. And we talk about all the softball teams he is on. Plus the movies he likes and the book he’s reading. So don’t feel too sorry for him!

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Please read the above post about my husband’s responses to names. I worked hard on it last night, and was hoping it would make you guys giggle!

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LOL [name]Susan[/name]!

Your hubby is much more diplomatic than mine. Mine often just says “the fat girl from that TV show?” Or something equally as obnoxipus that ruins it for me.

Luckily we have 4 that we agree on right now!

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definitley giggling! and really glad we’re not the only couple like that :slight_smile: :slight_smile:

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oooops double post.

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[name]Susan[/name] I laughed when I read your post. Poor hubby :wink: We should have a moment of silence for all significant others. long pause Okay back to business…

Our conversations or should I say my hounding until I get an answer go something like this.

Me: What do you think of the name [name]Claire[/name]?
Him: [name]Claire[/name]? Like an eclair?
Me: No it’s a name NOT a pastry. Be serious.
Him:Sorry that’s all I can think about when I hear that name.
Me: What about [name]Adelyn[/name]?
Him: It’s Okaaaay (said really drawn out and boring - translation he really doesn’t like it but is humoring me).
Me: What about the name [name]Lydia[/name]?
Him: NO [name]WAY[/name] are you serious?
Me: Yes it’s a great name. I just love [name]Lydia[/name]. Come on just think about it.
Him: Ummm sorry, no.
Me: [name]Lea[/name]??? (my eyebrows raised while making a quizzical face and bracing for rejection).
Him: YES I love it!
Me: Really??? You do? Are you joking with me or are you being serious?
Him: No really I do, I like it a lot.
Me: (silence mouth dropped to floor in shock that even one of my suggestions received this much positive feedback)

All ending in yet more confusion, more scouring the internet for names, more visits to this site even though it contributions to my ever present insomnia.

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Disa, I laughed so hard when I read your post!
[name]Erin[/name], [name]Rica[/name], and Disa, thanks for reading my post. [name]Do[/name] you ever write a post and get all excited about it and then no one responds to it? Then it starts sinking down into the old posts, into oblivion, and never gets read. It is disappointing when that happens!

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Sometimes I forget where I have posted. I wish we had some sort of alert when there is a reply to posts that we have been active in, that way I’d never miss one.

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These are so funny! [name]Hope[/name] I’m not too late!

Me: I love [name]Luna[/name].
Him: Who’s [name]Luna[/name].
Me: My girlfriend (sarcastically). I mean as a name!
Him: Oh. What was the name again?
Me: Luuuunnnnaaaaa…
Him: Her full name could be lunatic.
Me: Well she will be a loon anyway… look at you…
Him: Then lets call her badgenes.
Me: Okay, settled then.
[name]Silence[/name]
Me: [name]Beatrix[/name]?
Him: EEW
Me: WHY!?
Him: [name]Coz[/name].
Me: [name]Clover[/name].
Him: Oregano. Weed. Fourleaf.
Me: Plants are good names! [name]Rosemary[/name] is a name…
Him: Not a good one.

In conclusion, I am glad we aren’t the only ones like this. And he no longer gets any say in our future child’s name!

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hahaha! This was so funny. I love reading your stories.

I am not married, seeing as I am one of the younger nameberryites, but I feel like I have already found the perfect names and I cannot imagine having someone else not love them the way I do.

If he says no, do you completely give up on the name or bring it up more to wear him down?

X

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There are so many ways to get around opposition :smiley:
Saying you’ll let him choose the middle name/name of your next child (and then trying to plant ideas in his head) is the most reliable, I think, but I knew someone who told me that her husband had rejected the girls’ name that she loved ([name]Phoebe[/name]), so she always referred to her bump as [name]Phoebe[/name], she told everyone the baby would be [name]Phoebe[/name], she got a blanket embroidered with ‘[name]Phoebe[/name]’ and she even started sticking notes to their refridgerator door saying simply ‘[name]Phoebe[/name]’. Needless to say, he gave up in the end!

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LOL annalise! This thread is great! Twinkle, you may have given me some ideas. I love [name]Lydia[/name] he hates it but so does the rest of the family for that matter. I wonder if [name]Christmas[/name] cards including [name]Lydia[/name] in the family signature would per sway him. It sure would be hard to explain who she is with out giving in. Devious! Okay maybe too devious.

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My hubby thinks- [name]Arabella[/name] sounds like a disease, was on our list for awhile but has not stood the test of time.

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I’m glad so many of you are enjoying this. I though it would be a refreshing break from the unending name list threads.

aallison,
If your (future) S.O. is opposed to one of your beloved names - even if it’s #1 on your list - I think you have to consider his reason (or reasoning in my case).
What if it is the name of his Ex? Or the nun who beat him mercilessly with a ruler? Or perhaps your absolute favoritest name for a boy in the whole wide world just happens to be the name of the bully in junior high who tormented, humiliated & shook him down every day for his lunch money. I don’t think it would be fair to wear him down in these cases.

Names that I liked eight years ago before my daughter [name]Macey[/name]'s birth are pretty different from the ones I like today for my hopeful Zygote. I referred to her as Fetus McLastname while in the womb. (I don’t want to know the sex before the birth - I [name]LOVE[/name] surprises!!)

I think there are a lot of different elements that create the environment for a particular name. The dynamic of the relationship & the personalities of the parents being the strongest factors. I would have never gotten away with [name]Hugo[/name] or [name]Felix[/name] with my daughter’s muscle-headed, narcissist father but with my brilliant, sexy, creative husband? That’s another story. No pretenses here.

Part of me wants to wait to pick a name until after the birth - see who s/he looks like. We are even considering foregoing a middle name completely. I don’t know. Who knows?

[name]Just[/name] the anticipation of a child who shares our crazy, unconventional, visionary genes is mind blowing & infinitely exciting (sometimes terrifying) enough what ever we choose to call her/him.

Fugitive

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disa_lan,
I love the name [name]Lydia[/name] too.

[name]Even[/name] though it reminds me of the song…
“[name]Lydia[/name], oh [name]Lydia[/name]! Have you met [name]Lydia[/name]? [name]Lydia[/name] the tattooed lady!”

That doesn’t dissuade me. [name]Lydia[/name] remains on my short list.

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Me: [name]How[/name] about [name]Clementine[/name]?
Husband: Uh-uh. People name their dogs [name]Clementine[/name].
Me: I’ve never met a dog named [name]Clementine[/name]!
Husband: In Australia, there are dogs named [name]Clementine[/name].

…

Me: I’m liking the name [name]Calder[/name] for a middle name.
Husband: There’s a park in [name]Melbourne[/name] called [name]Calder[/name] [name]Park[/name].
Me: Great!
Husband: No, not great. [name]Calder[/name] [name]Park[/name] is full of drug addicts and sketchy characters.
Me: You’re not serious.
Husband: Drug addicts!

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Me: I love [name]Henry[/name]!
Husband: Everyone will call him “[name]Hank[/name]”.
Me: No, his nickname will be “[name]Harry[/name]”. I love [name]Harry[/name] just as much as [name]Henry[/name].
Husband: [name]Hank[/name]!

Thought I would contribute my frustrations with you!!!