okay so I have a first name I like which is fairly unique, but I’m having trouble choosing a middle name to go with it…
so my question is should I stick just with a first and last name or keep searching for a middle name even though I might not like it 100% ?
I dont have a middle name, and it doesn’t really bother me.
If you dont want your child to have a middle name, then I dont think it will be a big deal.
The majority around here are name-nerds that adore names, so of course, most of us would love to get in as many of our loves as we can with first and middle, or often time, multiple middles. However, if you are completely smitten with one name and one name only, and just cannot find anything else you love as much, just that first name is perfectly fine. So no, I don’t feel middle names are necessary – some people are ‘one and done’ types, and that’s just fine.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] go with what you love. If that’s just one name, that’s fine too. I know plenty of people with only one name. Where I was born, in Iceland, we don’t do middle names the way most people on NB think about it. We either just have one name, or two names, but in that case they’re considered as two first names, rather than a first and a middle name.
If there isn’t anything meaningful, anyone you want to honor, another surname of a name you love or love with it… Then I wouldn’t worry about it at all, lots of people don’t have Middle names.
I don’t have a middle and it’s never been an issue. One less thing to fill out on forms.
I don’t have a middle name, and I’ve always been sad about it. It would have been nice to have the option to go by something else! You might adore the first name you picked out, but you never know whether or not your child will be happy with it.
I’d suggest using an honor name. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if the sound of the name isn’t as beautiful as the one of the first name, you’ll still love it because of the person it reminds you of.
It depends on where you are. I know in the US, almost everyone has middle names, to the point where it’s seen as strange if you don’t. Comparing middle names is a fun way to get to know people and I have done it with friends on multiple occasions. Of course, not having a middle name wouldn’t be the end of the world but it would exclude them from those situations. I also think people would ask about it when it does come up so you and your child would have to be prepared to answer those questions.
Also, I’m not sure if you’re planning on having more kids, but I think you should keep the number of names the same. I remember my younger sister being so upset at age 4 when she thought our youngest sister had 2 middle names because she felt cheated out of a name.
I don’t think middle names are ‘necessary’, as such. Here in the UK, the majority of people seem to have them, but one of my closest friends doesn’t. When asked why not, she just says, “my surname was long enough,” and the conversation moves on. In [name_f]Austria[/name_f] and Hungary, on the other hand, middle names are nowhere near as common; I have generations of family members who didn’t have one at all.
I agree with this.