I just need a place to put a couple thoughts, both are related.
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I can’t believe how many people judge women on how many children they have, and when they have them. [name_f]My[/name_f] Grandmother is entitled to her opinion yes, but sometimes she should keep it to herself. Yes I’ve hinted I’m trying, yes I’ve hinted I’m going to be expecting sometime soon, within the next few months is possible. And the thing is I’d tell them right away when I get a positive. They don’t need to ask. It is also possible that we would be trying for a year or so and get second infertility. As far as I’m concerned, anything can happen. It is not set in stone that I would get two children. I could just find out that can’t, and then he’d be my only child until we can get the resources to adopt.
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All this came out of my talk of names: REALLY? Yes I ask about names, but maybe I should have been more stealthy like “Hey I’d like to know female and male names of family ancestors. I’d think they would make really cool character names for a novel”, but no I just said I’m gathering names. Well lesson learned on my part. Honestly I wanted to see if any where on my list, and I found two names that are! [name_m]Calvin[/name_m] and [name_f]Adele[/name_f]. I love them. They go well with [name_m]Eli[/name_m]. I will be using all Spanish middle names, because my son’s middle is [name_m]Joaquin[/name_m] after my Grandfather. But each child will have at least one name from the family possibly two with the second child.
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So honestly a question to all of you mom’s, those who have had children close together. [name_m]How[/name_m] did your family react?
People have their opinions and will voice them.
Yes, sometimes it’s a pain and unwanted but it’s part of having a family. They don’t realise that saying some things are hurtful, just voice this to them in a calm manner and say that you didn’t appreciate it but that their opinion is always valued when it’s asked for.
As for personal experience, this baby and [name_u]Devon[/name_u] will be two years apart and [name_f]Bryony[/name_f] and [name_u]Devon[/name_u] are about two years apart so I’ve not got much to say I’m afraid.
But this is your life, if you want to have your children close together then that’s yours and your partner’s decision. Your family are probably not meaning to be rude or anything, more concerned that it might be a lot of work.
\Honestly sometimes I like saying these things online. I thank you for your response.
I’ve decided to pursue natural planning method and do it right. I hope to do it consistently. I will welcome a second pregnancy and child. If I miscarry, I’ll probably stop for a while though. I did that with my first pregnancy which ended in miscarriage.
As for my Grandmother, I had a tumultuous relationship with her during my teenage years and college years, lots of arguing with each other, butting heads, not understanding each others viewpoints. Some of that still remains. So, we’re both very strong in our opinions.
Venting is always welcome! 
I’m sorry to hear that people are giving opinions when not asked, but families are known for that. It can be stressful to deal with for sure, I’ve been there several times.
I wish you luck in TTC your second.
I didn’t give my family any option on how to react to all my pregnancies! I just told them each time we found out, let them know we were excited and that they weren’t "accidents"and pretty much dropped any further inquiries. [name_f]My[/name_f] grandma had alot to say on the subject, but it didn’t bother me at all. [name_f]My[/name_f] mom loves my kids, and she never had a problem with how close we had them-I’ve never asked my dads opinion, haha. [name_m]Don[/name_m]'t worry about what anyone else has to say! Enjoy your babies and pregnancy, both things go by way too fast to fixate on other people being naysayers! Good luck to you!!
Mine aren’t that close together being over two years apart but since we have a boy and a girl I hear a lot that there is no reason for us to have a third that our family is perfect and complete and all that. It frustrates me since we’re TTC third but I do my best to ignore it. Questions if I’m pregnant annoy. If I was pregnant and wanted people to know then I would tell them. Otherwise I’m either not pregnant or don’t want to share it. With some people I feel it’s also insinuating that I’m like constantly pregnant or something, which I’m not.
I get your frustration. People can be sooo rude about such a personal topic. [name_m]Just[/name_m] try making the attacker the focus of the conversation next time. When dear old Gma starts harping about when the next baby is coming, turn the conversation around and ask her something very personal about her sex life, past or present! See what happens.