Is having that perfect moment of clarity and decisiveness about a name the exception rather than the rule? It is a similar expectation for finding the perfect wedding dress. You are just supposed to know.
Well, I did not have that moment for my wedding dress (which I did love), and I am not having it for boy names. A lot of boy names are nice, and I do like them, but there isn’t one that blows all other names out of the water. I had that aha moment with girl’s names, and couldn’t picture a little girl of mine with any other name. It is really the name. I stopped looking for girl names, and felt comfortably settled on my choice. I feel like this is the experience I was expecting, and the experience that everyone has.
Why isn’t it happening for a boy? Am I just not someone that this will happen for? Or, does it mean we haven’t found the right one? I feel certain that whatever boy name I choose, should I have a little boy, he will grow into whatever name is selected. I just wish I had a definite clear cut winner.
It can mean either. You either haven’t found ‘the’ name, or there is no name that feels as special to you as your girl name does. And that’s fine. I only truly love one name, which is my boy name ([name_u]Jude[/name_u]), and although girl names feel close to it, they just aren’t as special. I doubt they ever will be. Nothing really compares to my love for [name_u]Jude[/name_u]. I have looked all over the shot, from whimsical, vintage, trendy, popular and ultra uncommon and still haven’t found it.
But, you’re right. Whatever name you do pick, your son will grow into it and you’ll love the name just as much because of who is wearing it. Picking the winner out of the two (or even more) is a different question, though!
We didn’t find out the sex of my daughter when we were pregnant, and I’m so glad she wasn’t a boy because we REALLY struggled and didn’t even have a short list.
To be honest I didn’t have a ah-ha moment when she was born we didn’t name her until day 3 and we both agreed she wasn’t a Brienne, and then discussed [name_f]Thea[/name_f] or [name_f]Persephone[/name_f].
I think it’s completely natural for a name to not click and I’m a true believer in not naming a child until he/she arrives.
My favorite name is [name_u]Jude[/name_u] also, but for a girl. The only clarity I have for my next is that if it’s a girl her name will be [name_u]Jude[/name_u], first or middle, not sure yet. There was no magical naming moment for my first. We struggled and compromised a lot. I do love her name, but I still sometimes wonder what if we had named her something different. All of this is to say I think it’s perfectly normal to settle on a name rather unromantically.
I was just telling my husband last night that I feel like I struggle so much with girls names and can’t seem to find a name I love as much our boy name. [name_f]Every[/name_f] time I find a name, girl or boy, I immediately compare it to [name_m]Harrison[/name_m]. And as much as [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] is not everyone’s cup of tea or may feel “trendy” now with the -son ending that is everywhere, I have loved this name for almost twenty years and every time I think about it I literally can’t help but smile. It fills me with such excitement at the idea of having a little boy named [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] and I think because his name has been decided decades before he was born, I am struggling to find a girls name that makes me feel even 1/10th the same. I think we’ve come close with [name_f]Olive[/name_f], a name I’ve loved for several, several years. And we’ve had [name_f]Daphne[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f], [name_f]Vivienne[/name_f], etc. in the first name slot, but my love of them wanes after a while and I’m always searching for a girl name that will click like [name_m]Harrison[/name_m] has clicked. Currently, we are going back and forth between [name_f]Olive[/name_f], [name_f]Violet[/name_f], [name_f]Daphne[/name_f], and [name_u]Marlowe[/name_u]. I like them all, but I’m not sure I love any of them. I may have to wait and meet my daughter to know her name.
I’ve had tons of aha moments for girl names but only one with boy names. When I found out I was pregnant with this baby I was kind of hoping it was a girl since I knew there were so many girl names I wanted to use. Obviously didn’t turn out that way. lol I’m at least happy that I managed to have one aha moment and that he’ll have a first name I absolutely love, but I’m not having that moment for any middle names. And because of that I’m hoping any other children I have turn out to be girls b/c I feel like I’ll just be settling on a name if it’s another boy.
And because of that I’m hoping any other children I have turn out to be girls b/c I feel like I’ll just be settling on a name if it’s another boy.