Is my baby having the same name as husband’s best friend weird?

After months of debating on what to name our little tater tot, we both agreed on [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Ezra[/name_u]. The thing is, [name_u]James[/name_u] is the name of my husband’s best friend. I actually threw the name out as a joke, but the joke is actually on me since we both fell in love with it, haha. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband doesn’t think it will be a huge deal since we live in [name_f]Alaska[/name_f] and [name_u]James[/name_u] lives in [name_u]California[/name_u]. They do talk a bit on Discord but it’s not like we’ll be hanging around each other every day. I was just wondering what you guys’ opinion was on this matter. Is it too weird?

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James is so common that I don’t think it is that big of a deal. He could be named after someone else even and your friend might not know. It might even be a nice way of honoring your friend. Also [name_u]James[/name_u] has so many nicknames that you could call each [name_u]James[/name_u] something different. Overall I don’t think it is a big deal and I love [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Ezra[/name_u]!


I agree with @sgsg8! It’s not a big deal, I don’t think.

I agree with previous posters. If his name was super rare and you were using it, that might be a little odd but [name_u]James[/name_u] is a common and classic name. Go for it :blush:

I agree with PPs. [name_u]James[/name_u] is very common but a cool name nonetheless.

I don’t think it’s weird at all. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you would have named him after your husband’s bf intentionally it wouldn’t be weird as long as you both agreed to it.
[name_u]James[/name_u] is a great name :blush:

Not weird at all. It can even be cute at friends get-together with the [name_u]James[/name_u] duo.

I’d find it a bit weird personally but since [name_u]James[/name_u] is such a classic and common name, I think you could use it

It depends. Is the best friend likely to take it badly if the name is not in honor of him? If he’s more laid back and more likely to say, “Excellent choice! Another [name_u]James[/name_u] has come into our fold!” then absolutely use it. But I have a lot of experience with…overly intense men so maybe that’s what’s making me a little wary on your behalf. You know him, so you can get a read of his personality and sense if this could get awkward or not.


I don’t think it’s weird! [name_u]James[/name_u] is a common name , traditional, classic and historical. There are a lot of [name_u]James[/name_u]’ in the world and rightfully so it’s a great name.

If it was a very unique name like [name_m]Exodus[/name_m] I would probably think it was a little weird but someone you wanted to honour , and I’m all about honour names !

I would feel weird about it, but that’s just me.

I think since you and your husband love the name so much, the only other opinion to consider is friend-[name_u]James[/name_u]’. I think there are 2 ways you could approach the situation in a way that respects his opinion.

  1. Name your son [name_u]James[/name_u] but be prepared to call him by his middle name if friend-[name_u]James[/name_u] feels weird about it

  2. Ask friend-[name_u]James[/name_u] now how he feels about it and be prepared to let the name go if he feels weird about it.

Good luck :blush:

Not a big deal! A great honor name too, for your husband’s best friend who will probably be close to the baby! [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Ezra[/name_u] is super handsome. Go for it girl!!

:wink: Good luck and Congratluations!!!


Thanks for all the feedback!
We went ahead and asked [name_u]James[/name_u] if he was okay with it and he said he couldn’t care less lol. I guess I was worrying for nothing.


I actually think its sweet :blush: my dh is close with his group of friends & I would consider using one of their names.