Is my reason good enough?

So I have read a few posts questioning whether its okay to use a name that you found in a bit of a morbid way. In my case, I’d never liked [name]Rowan[/name], [name]Roman[/name] or [name]Ronan[/name], I just thought they sound really harsh. I have no clue thinking back why I thought that; but I just didn’t even consider them as an option.

When [name]Taylor[/name] Swift released [name]Ronan[/name] on Stand Up To Cancer, I cried a lot (obviously,) the song was so beautifully devastating. But I was just so taken by the brilliant blue eyes that came up when I searched the song. So after that I started reading his mother [name]Maya[/name] [name]Thompson[/name] blog. I read about how it all started how his eye had been a little lazy and her intuition said it was something more. I poured over her blog, reading moments of joy and sadness, taking in exactly what she was going through (something you’d hate to happen to anyone or their child/children.) [name]Reading[/name] about the night that he passed away was probably the most confronting thing and just wanting to reach out and hold his poor mother.Then eventually making my way to her youtube page. I watched video after video of this little boy so beautiful with his glittering eyes and gorgeous smile. He was just so lively, so loving, and such a rascal! It amazed me a little boy who was undergoing so many set-backs was more alive that most people. But I suppose that can be said for many little ones struggling through something so horrendous. Hearing [name]Ronan[/name]'s story interested me to make a difference and so I have started organising a few events in my area that will support Neuroblastoma. That one little boy has really impacted me and changed my whole outlook on my life.

I know that if I named my future son [name]Ronan[/name], I presume very few people I know would ask me why I picked it; but I worry that my reasoning is off. I love the name, and I know things will probably change when the time comes to have a baby. But as I write this I wonder how many Berries are thinking I am a nutcase!

I just really love the name and despite little [name]Ronan[/name]'s death, I have a really positive association with the name because of his character.

What do you think? Am I crazy?

I don’t think that’s crazy at all. A very brave little boy has given [name]Ronan[/name] a whole new meaning for you - and that’s a great thing because although I’ve never heard his story, he sounds as if he was a truly courageous little guy.

I don’t think there is anything morbid about your new affinity for the name. [name]Inspiration[/name] comes in all forms and there are a lot worse places to find inspiration than the story of a brave little fighter.

I don’t think it’s crazy or anything. I think it’s beautiful story and it touched your heart to make a difference in the world around you. What’s crazy or morbid about that? You are trying to do wonderful things for the people around you and you obviously are so touched by his story. I think it’s a perfectly fitting reason to use it. [name]Ronan[/name] is a great name anyway :slight_smile:

Not at all crazy. The story is definitely touching and it’s very sweet how it’s inspired you to raise awareness/money for neuroblastoma (which is a very sh!tty disease). I’m sure the name [name]Ronan[/name] appeals to you independently as well, due to its smooth sound, meaning (“little seal”) and the way it fits into the modern naming landscape (all the -en / -an names). I bet if the little boy’s name was Caractacus you probably would have felt just as touched and inspired by his story, but wouldn’t be thinking of passing that name on to a future son.

Therefore I think it’s safe to say that his story brought the name to your consciousness, but you are choosing it for both its aesthetics as well as its associations with this little namesake whose life ended all too soon.

I think that’s a beautiful reason, definitely a good one. Dantea said what I wanted to say pretty well, so I won’t repeat.