Hey ladies! So I rarely post in this part of the forums but DH and I just found out we’re expecting after 3 months of TTC. We were through the moon although we’re very early on (5 weeks tomorrow based on lmp).
Lately though my symptoms aren’t as strong (nausea has subsided mostly, headaches aren’t as bad, cramping isn’t as constant or painful) vs when we found out a few days ago. I think the (temporary?) lessening of symptoms is really making it hard to connect with this pregnancy.
I’m half expecting to lose the pregnancy or for there to be no heartbeat when I get my scan (no history of this, it just seems to happen to so many women). Did any of you have trouble really getting excited during early pregnancy? [name_m]Even[/name_m] when baby was planned and wanted? I feel awful for feeling so disconnected and I’m really hoping it’s normal 
Congratulations!
In my experience, very early pregnancy doesn’t feel much different. At five weeks, you’re still really early for symptoms. I had breast tenderness and fatigue at that point. With my first I didn’t even have any nausea until about eight weeks (and this time around I had it earlier, so every pregnancy is different).
For me, it didn’t really sink in until I heard the heartbeat at 10 weeks, and then again when I had my first ultrasound. Feeling the baby move in the second trimester was when I started to really connect, so I wouldn’t feel bad if you aren’t yet.
I would always prepare that this early on things might not work out, but based on symptoms alone it’s probably too early. The pregnancy hormone increases rapidly every few days. See if you feel more tired, crampy, nauseaus, with sore boobs in the next couple of weeks. Wish you all the best!
Very normal! I didn’t get strong or consistent pregnancy symptoms. I was convinced up to 18weeks ultrasound that I would lose the baby & I had no real reason to think I would. She is a healthy and happy 6 month old now.
Thank you ladies for the insight! I guess because we want this baby so badly I’m sort of emotionally shut off because a loss would be devastating. I’ve sort of convinced myself I’ll lose it with no real reason.
The only symptom I’ve had is just feeling ridiculously tired 24/7. No clue when I’ll have an appointment to check on anything. I have one to go over history on [name_f]Tuesday[/name_f] (and I’m guessing they’ll do their own test to confirm pregnancy) and they’ll set up my next appointment then.
I’m getting a few more cheapie tests to use over the next week or so to check line progression. I think that will make me feel a little better.
I really wouldn’t worry [name_u]Devin[/name_u]. Sometimes reality only hits us after we hear the heartbeat or are past the first trimester and begin to show. My first pregnancy I only really started believing I was pregnant after I began showing and the doctor told me I was having a girl. It was unreal! [name_f]Noor[/name_f] wasn’t at all planned and I only really found because my mom forced me to go to the doctor’s and do the blood tests. [name_f]Noor[/name_f] is a big girl now 
Totally normal. Pregnancy is completely surreal, especially in the early stages. On an intellectual level, you know that something’s going on in there but you can’t see anything and don’t feel anything concrete so it all seems rather imaginary. I did lose my first pregnancy in the very early stages so I felt even more disconnected for the second (successful) pregnancy. I didn’t really feel like we were actually going to have a baby until halfway through and I’d see a human-shaped creature moving around inside me on the ultrasound (we saw ‘her’ earlier in the blob stage and there was no way I could persuade myself it was a person, although of course I knew it was a human embryo) and had started to feel her moving.
Thank you ladies! It is definitely a surreal experience. We’ve spent so long day dreaming about our “one day” baby that to now be pregnant (after being convinced I was out this cycle) is a hard pill to swallow.
I hate having such conflicting emotions about it. On one hand nothings changed (I looks the same and feel relatively normal) but on an intellectual level I know that if things progress everything will change (and even if they don’t things will still have permanently changed for me). I don’t even feel an urge to know what the sex is or anything and I don’t feel an urge to tell our family so I feel like the odd one out in some of the pregnancy groups I’m in. I really hope a successful ultrasound will get my head in the game!
Please, please give yourself a break. At 5 weeks, you’re [name_f]BARELY[/name_f] pregnant! I know that sounds weird but it’s true. The way pregnancy is calculated, your artificially pushed ahead 2 weeks anyway - so you’re actually 3 weeks pregnant right now. When I’m 5 weeks pregnant, I feel nothing. [name_f]Nada[/name_f]! It will absolutely feel more real after an ultrasound, especially one in which you can hear the heartbeat (may not happen til 9-10 weeks). The way it went for me is the first half of pregnancy drags super slowly and feels like an eternity, the second half flies by in the blink of an eye. One day you’ll have a big belly and you’ll feel him/her kicking and you’ll be picking a name and believe me, you’ll be excited. You’ll be terrified too, but that’s normal! [name_m]Just[/name_m] go a bit easier on yourself, pregnancy can be a stressful, anxious time, no need to make it any more so for no good reason.
Also, try not to stress about miscarriage until you get to that bridge! Yes it’s very common (up to 1 in 4) but that doesn’t mean it will happen to you. If it does happen, you’ll handle it - because what other choice is there? You’ll find your way through it just like the rest of us have, one day at a time. But your first pregnancy could be absolutely perfect and the easiest thing in the world. And I will cross my fingers and toes that that’s exactly what you get! Good luck to you!
Congratulations with your pregnancy!
The way you’re feeling is completely normal. I won’t repeat everything that’s been said already. But when I was around 5 weeks pregnant I didn’t feel anything at all, except for some fatigue. With my first pregnancy it didn’t feel real at all, until I had my first ultrasound. DH was much more excited than me, which felt kind of strange. Unfortunately we lost the baby at a fairly late stage. When I was pregnant with [name_m]Gabriel[/name_m] some time later I was too scared to get attached to the pregnancy or the baby, but again this changed when I had my first ultrasound.
When you join a pregnancy group or you talk to other moms to be online, it often seems like they’re all over the moon from the moment they find out, and run to the store to get baby stuff… But that’s not always the case. You’re in no way abnormal or weird.
Sounds pretty normal to me, especially for a first pregnancy.