We just found out that we are having another boy and we are considering using our son, [name_u]Noah[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u], middle name as a first name for this little guy. I feel totally lame for even considering it, but I just love the name [name_u]James[/name_u]. It is also my husband’s middle name. What do you all think? There are so many other great names out there but my husband and I can’t seem to fall for the same ones. I love [name_m]Ezra[/name_m]…he hates it…and so on.
I think it would be tough for your son to have to give up that part of his identity to the next kid. I’d go with something different. You have some great options–[name_u]Love[/name_u] [name_m]Bennett[/name_m] [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] or [name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]Everett[/name_u]!
I also find it off, to be honest. It’s like [name_u]Noah[/name_u] doesn’t get to have his own name, he has to share.
You could do something like [name_u]Jameson[/name_u] [name_m]Bennett[/name_m] or something. It’s still a little odd, but it’s not [name_u]James[/name_u] and it might be a little easier on [name_u]Noah[/name_u].
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[name_f]My[/name_f] cousin’s sons have the same middle name. Its also their father’s middle name. It doesn’t seem to bother them. So if you really want to give this boy the name you love too why not make [name_u]James[/name_u] his middle name too.
[name_u]Emmett[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u]
[name_m]Thomas[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u]
[name_m]Bennett[/name_m] [name_u]James[/name_u]
I actually think it’s fine.
ONLY because it’s part of your husband’s name.
Looks at [name_f]Queen[/name_f] [name_f]Victoria[/name_f]- nearly all her children had either [name_m]Albert[/name_m] or [name_f]Victoria[/name_f] in their names somewhere.
It would give both boys a link to their daddy- but do consider if you ever had a third son… what then?
I registered just to answer your post while searching for ideas here for my second child.
I wanted to say that you should really go for the name your gut is telling you to pick.
I don’t believe for one second that using the name [name_u]James[/name_u] will have any kind of psychological impact on your first born. I think we tend to psychoanalyze things a little too far sometimes, when at the end of the day, we are the only ones even worrying about it in the first place, and that will be the last thing on our children’s (and future grown men) minds! The first name is the most crucial as part of your identity, and since the name [name_u]James[/name_u] is also your husband’s middle name, I feel it just creates that extra connection and bond between the men in your family.
[name_m]Just[/name_m] go with what YOU feel is right! And congratulations!
I’m going to go against the grain here and say that if you really love [name_u]James[/name_u] more than any other name, use it. It’s not like [name_u]Noah[/name_u] gets called by his middle name so there wouldn’t be any confusion. (Although you could start calling him “[name_u]Noah[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u]” as a double name instead of using [name_u]James[/name_u] again if you love it so much- it’s only three syllables, no longer than many single names.) I’m a big believer in using the name you love most, as long as it’s actually a name and not offensive. I was also going to bring up how [name_f]Queen[/name_f] [name_f]Victoria[/name_f] and [name_m]Prince[/name_m] [name_m]Albert[/name_m] used [name_f]Victoria[/name_f] and [name_m]Albert[/name_m] on pretty much all their children (and some of their grandchildren have it in their names too).
I don’t think it’s a problem, especially as it’s his father’s middle name. I have a friend whose father is named [name_m]Anthony[/name_m]. [name_f]My[/name_f] friend is [name_m]Anthony[/name_m] after his dad, but all three of his brothers have [name_m]Anthony[/name_m] as a middle to honour him. None of them feel ripped off by it, but rather like that it ties them all together.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with using [name_u]James[/name_u] again, but I’d keep exploring before you commit. If you choose [name_u]James[/name_u] it should be because it’s the perfect name, not because you and your husband can’t agree.
In your shoes I would probably look to [name_m]Jacob[/name_m], [name_m]Jake[/name_m] or [name_m]Seamus[/name_m] as substitutes.
It seems a bit boring to me, to say your kids are ‘[name_u]Noah[/name_u] and [name_u]James[/name_u]’ when you already have ‘[name_u]Noah[/name_u] [name_u]James[/name_u]’… Plus for the bigger kid, when he and his brother are being called together, it’s like his whole name.
I just think it’d be weird if I had a little sibling with my middle name as her first name, and to hear, “[name_f]Katherine[/name_f], [name_f]Anne[/name_f]! Come to dinner!”
Not sure if I’m explaining myself well.
I love [name_u]Everett[/name_u] and [name_m]Bennett[/name_m]. They both sound so wonderful with [name_u]Noah[/name_u]!
I actually somewhat understand where you’re coming from. I was really loving [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] [name_f]Elise[/name_f] “[name_f]Cate[/name_f]” for a potential name for my daughter. [name_f]My[/name_f] husband just wouldn’t get on board because it’s a very popular name for our generation and he knew way too many. I totally understood that and luckily he then decided that he liked my ultimate favorite girl name, [name_f]Nora[/name_f]. I still think about [name_f]Catherine[/name_f]. We almost named her [name_f]Nora[/name_f] [name_f]Catherine[/name_f], but my husband still wasn’t thrilled with using [name_f]Catherine[/name_f], so we agreed on [name_f]Cathleen[/name_f]. We call her [name_f]Nora[/name_f] [name_f]Cate[/name_f] sometimes. It’s my selfish way of still using “[name_f]Cate[/name_f].” If we ever had another girl, I know [name_f]Catherine[/name_f]/[name_f]Katherine[/name_f] would be a temptation again, but now I know it just can’t happen. It’s now my daughter’s. She is my one and only “([name_f]Nora[/name_f]) [name_f]Cate[/name_f].”
I completely agree! I like that it means your 2nd son will carry his father’s name as well. And once adults, your sons’ names will be less frequently connected anyway. I mean, how many people really know all of their friends’ brother’s middle names??
Of your suggestions, I like [name_u]James[/name_u] [name_u]Everett[/name_u].
What if you change [name_u]Noah[/name_u]'s middle name? If he’s a little kid, he won’t care/know, and then you would be free to use [name_u]James[/name_u]. [name_u]Noah[/name_u] [name_u]Everett[/name_u] would be sweet.
