Jessica, not Jessie?

[name_f]Do[/name_f] you think [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] would inevitably become [name_u]Jessie[/name_u]?

I love the name in full, but I don’t like [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] very much at all if I’m honest! [name_f]Do[/name_f] you think it can be avoided, or should I nix [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] because I dislike the nickname (I’d likely just use [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] as a MN instead!)?

Thank you!

Do you like [name_u]Jess[/name_u]? Honestly, I think friends and family will nickname her [name_u]Jess[/name_u].

My name is [name_f]Megan[/name_f] and I’ve been [name_f]Meg[/name_f], but never [name_f]Meggie[/name_f].

I know plenty of [name_f]Jessica[/name_f]’s who aren’t [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] but they are all [name_u]Jess[/name_u].

Unfortunately, I think if you don’t like [name_u]Jessie[/name_u], you should let the name go as a first. I’ve known a [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] who never told anyone she went by [name_f]Jessi[/name_f] but she still answered to it because it’s what everyone inevitably called her. [name_m]Even[/name_m] if you tell people she’s “[name_f]Jessica[/name_f], not [name_u]Jessie[/name_u]”, it’s such a common nickname that people will likely try it. I also think that if it would bother you if she came home at age 13 and decided she wanted you to call her [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] from now on, that’s an indication this isn’t the name for you.

ETA: I do like [name_u]Jess[/name_u], I’m not sure if you do, but I haven’t actually known any Jessicas who went by [name_u]Jess[/name_u], even as a nickname given by peers. [name_f]Jessi[/name_f], definitely. Maybe it just wasn’t the first thought of those in my area?

I like [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], and I’m not a big fan of [name_u]Jessie[/name_u], either. I think [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] may be called [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] by close friends, but if you don’t use [name_u]Jessie[/name_u], then they’ll probably still be [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] to everyone else. However, there is the possibility that [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] herself decides she likes [name_u]Jessie[/name_u].

I think most names can be used in full without a nn! If you call her [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], most others will follow suit!

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@CupofTeaMom I don’t mind [name_u]Jess[/name_u], but I do know a lot of them, which does sort of put me off it? I think all the ones I went to high school with are [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] or [name_u]Jess[/name_u], lol. It was the #1 name when I was born.

@elleplume - Hmm, that’s good to know! The 3-4 I went to school with were all a mix of either [name_u]Jess[/name_u] or [name_u]Jessie[/name_u], lol. I know someone who recently named her daughter [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], but I don’t talk to her often enough to know if her little one is just [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], or if she’s shortened to anything.

@SparkleNinja18 - That’s what I was thinking :confused: I’d like to say it 100% wouldn’t bother me whatever my daughter came home wanting to go by, and I mean, regardless of if I liked it or not, I’d respect her wishes there, but no, I probably wouldn’t be overly thrilled if she did ask me to call her [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] one day years down the line, lol!

@booksneakersmovie - That’s very true! I suppose if no one introduced her as [name_u]Jessie[/name_u], there may be less chance of people calling her that.

@may.rose Thank you! I’ve never met a [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] who wasn’t [name_u]Jess[/name_u] or [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] (other than maybe one when I was about 10?), so it’s hard for me to gauge this sort of thing!

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I’ve known a ton of Jessicas throughout my life (born in the early 80s) and the vast majority of them only went by [name_f]Jessica[/name_f]. The ones who did go by [name_u]Jess[/name_u] or [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] introduced themselves as such so I think you can easily avoid a nickname if you choose to. Also, I’ve known plenty of people who go by a nickname with their friends and their full name with their family so even if your [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] decided to go by [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] at 15, I doubt she’d require you to call her by the nickname.

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[name_f]My[/name_f] first name is [name_f]Jessica[/name_f]. I dislike it very much and [name_u]Jessie[/name_u]/Jess has always been very common throughout my life. As it’s my first name, whoever sees my full name written down for the first time assumes I go by [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] and immediately switch to [name_u]Jess[/name_u]/Jessie.

I have gone by my middle name most of life and up until I was about 10 I pretended my first name didn’t exist and never put it down on school stuff until it started causing trouble with paperwork and I had to accept it again.

I think while your child is young, you can definitely have certain amount of control over nicknames but once they’re older you are absolutely can’t control it at all

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As a [name_f]Catherine[/name_f] who has never once been a [name_f]Cathy[/name_f] and only an occasional [name_f]Catie[/name_f], you can definitely use [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] without [name_u]Jessie[/name_u]! On the few instances people called me [name_f]Cathy[/name_f] as a young girl, I remember my mom gently correcting them. I started doing the same if anyone called me something other than [name_f]Catherine[/name_f], but most times people will ask! Many people have asked if I go by [name_f]Catherine[/name_f], so I just always let them know that I do. They always respect it!

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I knew a [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] who absolutely despised [name_u]Jessie[/name_u], so everyone just called her [name_u]Jess[/name_u] or [name_f]Jessica[/name_f].

It’s definitely possible to avoid this nickname.

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Totally possible to avoid it! I’m [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], I beg people to call me [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] and they never do😂 as long as your fine with [name_u]Jess[/name_u], it wont be a problem

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The Jessicas I’ve known have all gone by [name_u]Jess[/name_u] rather than [name_u]Jessie[/name_u] if that helps in anyway

I’m [name_f]Jessica[/name_f]. I’m not [name_u]Jess[/name_u] or [name_u]Jessie[/name_u]. I’m just [name_f]Jessica[/name_f], and if someone calls me by anything else, it may be rude, but I ignore them because that’s not my name and, to be honest, sometimes it doesn’t even register that they’re talking to me. I introduce myself as [name_f]Jessica[/name_f] and that’s how I wish to be referenced. Nicknames are not inevitable, if you don’t want them to be so, sometimes you just have to be blunt with people.

One of my best friends is named [name_f]Jessica[/name_f]. Sometimes we call her [name_u]Jess[/name_u], but never [name_u]Jessie[/name_u]- don’t worry! It can definitely be avoided.